it is def excessive swol..unfourtunately the way i see it is...if this is the one thats meant to be...what is working hardest for a couple years untill she changes a few things and we work on a few things and spend the next SIXTY years together, God willing....thats just how i take it...i mean i am young..21...shes 20....we are young but its not like its some HS relationship...when thigns were good...they were real...

Barbie...thanks alot for your input...thats why i have yet to talk to a guy about this since the breakup..women USUALLY seem to be more responsive and caring in their comfort...guys are just like SCREW IT GO DO YOUR THING...and i mean yea i need to but thats not the level of help i need...i mean i am sensitive, but i am not a girl....thats just my personality, im not some macho A$$ jock who is "too tough" to show his real feelings....

thanks for the help so far all and any other sincere input would be appreciated