pregnant by a deadbeat, want to kill him.

[ThePump]

hey bro... first off... i grew up without a father and my mother and my sister raised me all my life. a very similar situation happened to my sister as well. she is 5 years older then me and i'm more or less the little BIG brother as everybody says. i adore my family and would do anything for them. i told this little bitch of a so called "man" that if he was going to be in my nephews life then so be it, and if he wasn't then for him to stay the **** away for good, as if he were dead. now i'm telling u this man because i felt the same way u do for a long time. Reilly is now 2 1/2 years old and i love him to death, i make sure that i'm his male rolemodel and i make sure i will be the one to teach him how to play sports and check the girls out and well ya know... the guy stuff that my non exsistent father was unable to do.
i don't know what i myself would be doing with my life if it wasn't for Reilly being born in all honesty... i have changed my life around and started making good decisions just because i want to be there for him when he has questions. i want to be his best friend right along with my sister. you will have the same oppurunity to do this with ur neice or nephew and if u choose to, then nothing else will matter. all the child needs is love... they don't need money, or anything else for that matter. all they want is ur love. so do ur best and just be there for ur sister and her child. u'll be amazed by how close it will bring ur family together. rage is normal my friend... but if u do something about it then u will be loving ur sisters child through cell bars. and what good will that do for him or her?? or for the rest of ur family even??

[DecimaMAS]

hey bro... first off... i grew up without a father and my mother and my sister raised me all my life. a very similar situation happened to my sister as well. she is 5 years older then me and i'm more or less the little BIG brother as everybody says. i adore my family and would do anything for them. i told this little bitch of a so called "man" that if he was going to be in my nephews life then so be it, and if he wasn't then for him to stay the **** away for good, as if he were dead. now i'm telling u this man because i felt the same way u do for a long time. Reilly is now 2 1/2 years old and i love him to death, i make sure that i'm his male rolemodel and i make sure i will be the one to teach him how to play sports and check the girls out and well ya know... the guy stuff that my non exsistent father was unable to do.
i don't know what i myself would be doing with my life if it wasn't for Reilly being born in all honesty... i have changed my life around and started making good decisions just because i want to be there for him when he has questions. i want to be his best friend right along with my sister. you will have the same oppurunity to do this with ur neice or nephew and if u choose to, then nothing else will matter. all the child needs is love... they don't need money, or anything else for that matter. all they want is ur love. so do ur best and just be there for ur sister and her child. u'll be amazed by how close it will bring ur family together. rage is normal my friend... but if u do something about it then u will be loving ur sisters child through cell bars. and what good will that do for him or her?? or for the rest of ur family even??

What surprises me most is that you are the type you are praising: one who finds no differences between others, is fair with all races and cultures, etc. and yet your values have failed you. Your sister has gone through a "similar situation" despite you and your family being the politically correct people you are.

What's your explanation for that?

Before you think that I am "full of hate" or some other excuse for my preaching of racial pride, I do not HATE anyone. Pride in one's race, be they white, black, indian or what have you is a positive thing. It's a great and moral motivator to improve one's self on the basis that you are a legacy for people to come.

Once you lose that sense of community, all manners of ills are open to you and you're prone to do what is good for the self, rather than for greater prosperity. You forget that there are more eyes watching your actions than the two in your head.

If more people remembered this, there would be less of an issue.

[ThePump]

What surprises me most is that you are the type you are praising: one who finds no differences between others, is fair with all races and cultures, etc. and yet your values have failed you. Your sister has gone through a "similar situation" despite you and your family being the politically correct people you are.

What's your explanation for that?

Before you think that I am "full of hate" or some other excuse for my preaching of racial pride, I do not HATE anyone. Pride in one's race, be they white, black, indian or what have you is a positive thing. It's a great and moral motivator to improve one's self on the basis that you are a legacy for people to come.

Once you lose that sense of community, all manners of ills are open to you and you're prone to do what is good for the self, rather than for all. You forget that there are more eyes watching your actions than the two in your head.

If more people remembered this, there would be less of an issue.

hmmm... well i'm going to comment just this once. the similarity that my sister and his sister share, are that they have been both abandoned by a man. my sister, for your information, graduated with her bachelors and graduated in the top 5% of her class. she double majored and double minored and still managed to pull off some impressive grades. my sister and her best friend, who neither of them were on drugs, delt with drugs, hung around people who were on drugs or delt with drugs. they were both raised in similar communities and both of white origin. they both agreed on having a child and to get married. once Reilly was born, he ran. sometimes it's not all about what u hear in the news or see on tv. the media has a way of showing u what they want to. having pride in ur nationality or race is one thing... down grading anothers nationality or race is another thing.
now i'm through ranting...

Carguy... i hope whatever u decide, you make the right decision. you never know... this child may end up making a huge impact in the world when it grows to be an adult, and it may be partly because of your help raising him or her. good luck man... keep a good head about the whole situation

[DecimaMAS]

...they both agreed on having a child and to get married.

Why was she doing that in the first place? For such a smart woman, she certainly didn't think ahead to see if the father was committed enough to marrying her before having an illegitimate child.

But none of this has to do with the main topic of this forum, so I'll end it here. If you have any further things to say, PM me.