Need some relationship guidance please.

[Amorphic]

sounds like you might have a knight in shining armor complex, i had it for while and i see it in your words

good or bad thing? care to explain?

[Phate]

good or bad thing? care to explain?

it means that you are attracted to people that need help or that you think you can "fix"(hence trying to help her get motivated and stop her drinking)

then when the relationship breaks, and it almost always does, then you think that if you just get back with them that you can make everything better and help them be a better person etc....trust me, this won't work