TheGodFather
Nice write up with very good points. That would be good to post to his site if anything.
Nothing will really matter to the father. He is just looking for somewhere to lay blame so he does not feel guilty for his part of the failure.
Guilt can eat you alive if you let it, even if you put the blame elsewhere. Sometimes you just have to let it go and realize it is what it is and even IF you could have done something about it, it is to late now and you just did not see the signs. Hindsight is always 20/20
Im speaking from experience. My 2nd wife (divorced) commuted suicide and I saw her the day before. Thinking back I should have seen that she was on the edge but also I did not know all the details I know now. Im very sad and hurt she did what she did but also realize you can not stop someone once they set their mind to it.
She was not asking for any kind of help but in fact I was offering help with issues she was having with work, financial, medical and life. She was behind on bills due to medical cost. I was helping her sell some of her things and I purchased many knowing she could not get much money for them and helping her in a time of need. She was loosing her residence (rental house) and she had planned on moving in with me for a wile until she got back on her feet; my suggestion. Many other details left out.
How long should you 2nd guess what really happened or what signs you should have seen or what you could have done?
He needs to let his sons death go.
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