I broke up with my girl this morning....

[jtuner77]

This sounds extremely cheesy but i was reading a book that talked about this topic among other things and the first thing it said is to be REAL selfish but also to spend time alone but even when alone have someTHING not someONE to keep your mind occupied so you don't think of the X. I know the gym helped me do that and after keeping girls at bay for 8-9 months I broke down and finally hit up some of the girls at my gym. During that 8-9 months I accomplished a lot of what I never would have if I was still with her!!!

For example I like to drink but I dont do it daily or even weekly. I used to be straight edge for about 8 of my 16 years of legal drinking. She enjoyed drinking any time and often on weekends. It got overwelming and I started becoming a drunk. I wasn't a fan nor was my wallet. I got to be clean of all drugs and alcohol for that window of time. finished my MBA in that timeline as well and started on my next degree.

[JohnnyVegas]

^^^^ I did this after my divorce. Didn't date for nine months and got my sh*t together.

[Mackn]

I know this sounds bad but lately when we had sex I was starting to not even feel attracted to her and was thinking of other girls... Sometimes I would rather just masterbate then get a free ride from her lol..

[bjpennnn]

bro haha then your stoked ^^^

[calgarian]

Haha! No. You need to go some people to find a good fit, but the end goal should be to find someone you enjoy being with more than you enjoy being single.

till then fvck and forget?

[calgarian]

I know this sounds bad but lately when we had sex I was starting to not even feel attracted to her and was thinking of other girls... Sometimes I would rather just masterbate then get a free ride from her lol..

and you just opened urself up to be called out "emotional cheater"..... Dont worry I am not going to say that I am far away from judging anyone....

[JohnnyVegas]

till then fvck and forget?

Fine, I give up...yes. Heh.

[jtuner77]

At least it didn't say

I know this sounds bad but lately when we had sex I was starting to not even feel attracted to her and was thinking about DSM4LIFE... Sometimes I would rather just masterbate then get a free ride from her lol..

[Mackn]

Hey now! I bet I could put up with dsm over this bish!!

[jtuner77]

Could? more like would or should I say wood?

[Mackn]

So I am taking a mma class today with my buddy and then getting a bottle after and having a few ladies over !

[RaginCajun]

Hey now! I bet I could put up with dsm over this bish!!

be careful what you wish for on this site!

[calgarian]

Fine, I give up...yes. Heh.

now we are talking......

[cyounger100]

I feel is more so about a routine/habit as well. I mean I have been with this girl everyday for 8 months straight literaly! We probably have only not seen each other for 1 maybe 2 days the whole time we have been dating. It such a shitty situation when you get close to her family and friends bro, this fn sucks. I know we dont belong together but in the back of my head I want to call her and say I made a mistake and hope she takes me back but I know that is only for selfish reasons to make me feel better if that makes since.....

trust me buddy i am goin threw the same thing only difference is mine was 13 years and a 3yr old daughter involved when you find a way too get over it let me no cause nothing seems too work

[Mackn]

trust me buddy i am goin threw the same thing only difference is mine was 13 years and a 3yr old daughter involved when you find a way too get over it let me no cause nothing seems too work

Can't imagine 13rs and having a child! That is a lot more rough than my situation... As everyone has said, I am just staying as busy as I can and just going to let time do the healing

[DSM4Life]

Hey now! I bet I could put up with dsm over this bish!!

Only one way to find out. Bring a shoehorn with ya.....

[jbm]

I'm here for you!

[jbm]

[Flagg]

The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else.

[SlimmerMe]

^^^ to the point!

[RaginCajun]

^^^ to the point!

x 3!!!!!!!!!

[jtuner77]

^^^I will not say that it doesn't work but I also feel that sometimes doing that only ****s with your head more.

[RaginCajun]

its all about clearing his head, or heads!

[Mackn]

Sooo I am having a really hard time today... I miss her a lot and I'm so tempted to call her :/

[MACHINE5150]

Sooo I am having a really hard time today... I miss her a lot and I'm so tempted to call her :/

any reason you can't just be fvck buddies??

there is a good chance that you were just smothered by this girl by spending every day for the past 8 months.. tell her you wanna meet for dinner to talk and take it from there.. there is no harm in it.. again if you broke up cause she is a psychopath than don't call her.. but if you were just annoyed with her than hit her up.. i mean i used to punch the shit out of my brothers face all the time.. i loved him but too much time made me hate him.. same with a lot of my room mates.. too much time with Jesus Christ will make you want to drown his ass

[Mackn]

any reason you can't just be fvck buddies??

there is a good chance that you were just smothered by this girl by spending every day for the past 8 months.. tell her you wanna meet for dinner to talk and take it from there.. there is no harm in it.. again if you broke up cause she is a psychopath than don't call her.. but if you were just annoyed with her than hit her up.. i mean i used to punch the shit out of my brothers face all the time.. i loved him but too much time made me hate him.. same with a lot of my room mates.. too much time with Jesus Christ will make you want to drown his ass

She isnt a psycopath but I do feel that we are not compatible. I have a lot of feeling for her obviously but if we did get back together it would just be the same old shit again. She has a very short temper and gets angry/annoyed extremely easy. Very moody, I honestly think she could be bi polar.. I think I should just try and suck it up and get over it, but it sure is hard

[Flagg]

Sooo I am having a really hard time today... I miss her a lot and I'm so tempted to call her :/

Are you sure it's her you miss or just a female companion?

[Mackn]

Are you sure it's her you miss or just a female companion?

Very good point. Very possible I miss a female companion, I mean having someone by your side for 8 months straight and then nothing sucks! Maybe its just me use to the habbit? Idk

[MACHINE5150]

Are you sure it's her you miss or just a female companion?

agreed.. well.... it is a Saturday night... my philosophy..

"If first you don't succeed.... lower your standards"

[Flagg]

Very good point. Very possible I miss a female companion, I mean having someone by your side for 8 months straight and then nothing sucks! Maybe its just me use to the habbit? Idk

When two people live in each others pockets, they are bound to get sick of each other after awhile, but it also becomes routine. You probably did a lot of things together, chores and so forth, simply for conveniance sake, and now all that is gone. You will definitely need something to occupy yourself with, or your mind is going to keep drifting back to her. Simply put, if you gave the brain a pair of hands and a knife and fork, it would eat itself. Not because it wants to, but because it doesn't want to. Do you understand my meaning?

If someone tells you not to think of something, you automatically do.

Change your workout routine, research something, learn a language, learn to play an instrument...something that occupies your mind.

[Mackn]

I feel so confused.. I keep asking myself if I made the right decision and maybe I could have worked out.. When I broke up with her I didn't give a shit at the time and sort of felt relieved but now I just feel shitty/depressed and miss her. Say we got back together and everything was good for awhile then it got bad again its just going delay this break up process since its bound to happen again... Idk bro

[MACHINE5150]

i broke up wit my girlfriend of 4 years about 3 years ago.. i still think about her alot.. mainly cause i havent had a relationship over two months since.. it happens.. pick up your chin and move on bro..

at the very least hoook up withh another bird.. so you are sure it is about companionship vs her personally

[Latin]

i'm in the same situation as yours only as im a bit more screwed over its a long story. I've felt this way for a while and I just had my shoulder torn off and 6 stitches on my chin due to a bar fight. (cause of some idiots, trying to hit on my gf and she ignored them, and one called her a whore and one spit on her while she was walking back...) anyway i heard and saw black and started to hit bla bla only problem is that i was alone and they where 14 or so. Seems one of the guys was one of her ex friend so this might escalate. So I feel the need to protect her aswell. She just had a trial against her ex 2 years back etc and won it.. long story there aswell.

But to the point we've been talking about moving in together for a while and ive been with this girl almost exactly one year. Suddenly now while getting my head straight after some time of medications (morfin, valium) from my doc. It seems we are moving to another city and she has told everyone about it and i dont know wtf i've put myself in. (Still having some meds at lowever doses so if my writing is completly screwed up or this hard to read then sorry)

I also think about my ex now and then me and her had a relationship or rather at times relationshit i felt the same way there. 6 years i was with my ex (!)
Though however this one wants to do so much and has so much energy and im more of a rather relaxed type kind of. There is alot more to it but I dont want to write a book and I assume you dont want to read a book.

But to sum things up. I know how you feel and its so damn hard.. and now im in the same shit again but deeper in many ways. Even talking about a loan for an apartment atm etc..

aw man sh*t
I know how I will feel if I end this now aswell. I've been through this once before.

[Mackn]

i broke up wit my girlfriend of 4 years about 3 years ago.. i still think about her alot.. mainly cause i havent had a relationship over two months since.. it happens.. pick up your chin and move on bro..

at the very least hoook up withh another bird.. so you are sure it is about companionship vs her personally

I know its about companionship, i have been doing a lot of thinking and I am NOT going to call her or give her a 2nd chance if she wanted one. I saw want I didn't like in her and it out weighs the good. I miss having someone to sleep with, always calling me etc... Its more of those little things than her. I'l get over this in due time. What would you think if I wanted to start my cycle in 2 weeks? it would def keep me distracted and busy and make me feel awesome..

[oI Overdue Io]

Time heals all

I thought about my ex for months after still do somtimes

when your feeling this bad about this it just shows you have a good heart

[Hoggage_54]

Congrats

[Mackn]

So we have a hotel booked for a trip we had planned in 2 weeks from now... She sent me a text saying " ok lets be serious right now, the trip is called off right? "... So she is pretty much asking me if I still want to go right? What do you guys think?

[oI Overdue Io]

So we have a hotel booked for a trip we had planned in 2 weeks from now... She sent me a text saying " ok lets be serious right now, the trip is called off right? "... So she is pretty much asking me if I still want to go right? What do you guys think?

ya she is for sure. she just didnt want to put it into those exact words

[Standby]

i think you should say yes i think its best that we cancel it

[Mackn]

I have money towards this trip too so it would suck to just lose it.. What if I said we should go but with no strings attached?