Unsupportive Father

[franklin 13]

hello all,

Growing up my father always begged me and my brother to work out. Lacking interest and motivation we would dick around for an hour a week mostly just having fun with no intensity at all. In my late teens a few of my close friends joined a gym and i also got a membership. I became good friends with the bodybuilders at my school and feel in love with bodybuilding. I remember being absolutely mezmerized watching ronnie coleman videos and I soon began to admire all dedicated bodybuilders.

I began eating more than i ever have in my life and my skinny frame began to expand month by month. My deadlift and squat workouts began to include weights double that of what i started with. Indulging in nutrition and sport science readings I became smarter by the day. The scale and the mirror were consistently yeilding impressive results. However, not everything in life was.

My father who had once begged me to lift weights was now putting me down for lifting and suggesting that me and my brother stop such a useless hobby. Intimidated by the results we were getting, my father began limited the food me and my brother could eat. Restrictions were popping up everywhere as he attempted to make my life a living hell. His abuse of his paternal authority began most evident as we could only eat and shower between certains times of the day with no noise in the house after 10(this includes eating, light fixtures, television,showering, brushing your teeth, talking, etc). Being unemployed he is always home and never has meals ready and makes me buy my own food. Fitness and happiness are consistently discouraged as his unemployed ass wants to ruin me and my brothers life because he is so upset and pissed with his own.

Truth is i'm not stopping training at all and i use the anger derived from his crule behaviour to fuel some of the greatest workouts of my life. I am 100% determined to achieve the best physique i can and don't want to have any regrets. I am counting the days until i move out to get away from such a negative atmosphere. The best feeling is that no matter how hard he tries to suppress me and my brothers ambitions, it will never be enough. I am dedicated and willing to sacrifice anything in life to achieve a physique that I can be proud of.

I'MA SHOW HIM HOW GREAT I AM!!!

Anyboy else have problems like this? Or any helpful ideas?

[dec11]

[Shol'va]

hello all,

Growing up my father always begged me and my brother to work out. Lacking interest and motivation we would dick around for an hour a week mostly just having fun with no intensity at all. In my late teens a few of my close friends joined a gym and i also got a membership. I became good friends with the bodybuilders at my school and feel in love with bodybuilding. I remember being absolutely mezmerized watching ronnie coleman videos and I soon began to admire all dedicated bodybuilders.

I began eating more than i ever have in my life and my skinny frame began to expand month by month. My deadlift and squat workouts began to include weights double that of what i started with. Indulging in nutrition and sport science readings I became smarter by the day. The scale and the mirror were consistently yeilding impressive results. However, not everything in life was.

My father who had once begged me to lift weights was now putting me down for lifting and suggesting that me and my brother stop such a useless hobby. Intimidated by the results we were getting, my father began limited the food me and my brother could eat. Restrictions were popping up everywhere as he attempted to make my life a living hell. His abuse of his paternal authority began most evident as we could only eat and shower between certains times of the day with no noise in the house after 10(this includes eating, light fixtures, television,showering, brushing your teeth, talking, etc). Being unemployed he is always home and never has meals ready and makes me buy my own food. Fitness and happiness are consistently discouraged as his unemployed ass wants to ruin me and my brothers life because he is so upset and pissed with his own.

Truth is i'm not stopping training at all and i use the anger derived from his crule behaviour to fuel some of the greatest workouts of my life. I am 100% determined to achieve the best physique i can and don't want to have any regrets. I am counting the days until i move out to get away from such a negative atmosphere. The best feeling is that no matter how hard he tries to suppress me and my brothers ambitions, it will never be enough. I am dedicated and willing to sacrifice anything in life to achieve a physique that I can be proud of.

I'MA SHOW HIM HOW GREAT I AM!!!

Anyboy else have problems like this? Or any helpful ideas?

A little over the top here bud, but don't do it to show him anything, do it for yourself.

[Times Roman]

Mate
Yer 24, living at home, and allowing your father to run your life?
it's your father's house, not yours, for starters. this may be your father's way to try and get you out of the nest?
I moved out and was on my own when I was 17, so I am blown away that you, at 24, are still squabbling with your father?

I'm going to give you some sober analysis.
Take it however you like.

first of all, you still sound like a high school kid. this is why i checked your profile, which says you are 24. if this is true, then you are immature, and need to make some changes.

1) Get a job
2) Get your own place
3) Stop arguing with your father. Remember, it's his house. if you don't like his rules, then leave.
4) If no jobs in your area, then join the military or the peace corps, but get the hell out
5) you complain "he never has meals ready" this cracks me up. is he your bich? he works for you?

you should be lucky he still provides a roof over your head, gives you food to eat.

You know what? If you were my kid, I probably would have kicked your ass already, and sent you packing.

Time to grow up sonny boy!

[Noles12]

Mate
Yer 24, living at home, and allowing your father to run your life?
it's your father's house, not yours, for starters. this may be your father's way to try and get you out of the nest?
I moved out and was on my own when I was 17, so I am blown away that you, at 24, are still squabbling with your father?

I'm going to give you some sober analysis.
Take it however you like.

first of all, you still sound like a high school kid. this is why i checked your profile, which says you are 24. if this is true, then you are immature, and need to make some changes.

1) Get a job
2) Get your own place
3) Stop arguing with your father. Remember, it's his house. if you don't like his rules, then leave.
4) If no jobs in your area, then join the military or the peace corps, but get the hell out
5) you complain "he never has meals ready" this cracks me up. is he your bich? he works for you?

you should be lucky he still provides a roof over your head, gives you food to eat.

You know what? If you were my kid, I probably would have kicked your ass already, and sent you packing.

Time to grow up sonny boy!

I completely agree with all of this.

[Twist]

I think he is about 16 or so. But anyway bro just encourage him to work out with you. Get him involved and bring some joy back into his life as he clearly needs it. Encourage him.
*note: If you are 24 then join the military as TR suggested

[paulzane]

Mate
Yer 24, living at home, and allowing your father to run your life?
it's your father's house, not yours, for starters. this may be your father's way to try and get you out of the nest?
I moved out and was on my own when I was 17, so I am blown away that you, at 24, are still squabbling with your father?

I'm going to give you some sober analysis.
Take it however you like.

first of all, you still sound like a high school kid. this is why i checked your profile, which says you are 24. if this is true, then you are immature, and need to make some changes.

1) Get a job
2) Get your own place
3) Stop arguing with your father. Remember, it's his house. if you don't like his rules, then leave.
4) If no jobs in your area, then join the military or the peace corps, but get the hell out
5) you complain "he never has meals ready" this cracks me up. is he your bich? he works for you?

you should be lucky he still provides a roof over your head, gives you food to eat.

You know what? If you were my kid, I probably would have kicked your ass already, and sent you packing.

Time to grow up sonny boy!

I couldn't agree with you more Times. What a fcuking @sshole this sponging cvnt is!!! Fcuk him!!!

[oscarjones]

My Dad has always supported me. Sometimes we'd fight and it could get pretty bad. As soon as I moved out of the house, all my problems were solved. It sounds negative, but really, 2 men trying to be the alpha male in the same nest just doesn't work. Now that we have our separate lives, everything works wonderfully between us. We've not had an altercation in many years, only loving family visits and phone calls

Hope this helps. It sounds like your dad loves you and your brother, but it's time to man up and if you want to do things differently around the house, and have your own type of living and dynamics, then you need to do exactly that, but in your own space.