Should I break up with her

[JohnnyVegas]

Here is what I have learned after a failed marriage, a lot of dating and reading a few books: stop spending energy focusing on who is wrong or right in a situation.

Don't accuse anyone of being wrong, and certainly don't fight over it. The problem is NOT "right" or "wrong" or excuses for why things do, or don't get done. The ONLY important issue is COMPATIBILITY. If you want a girl that will pick you up at the hospital and worry about you after surgery, then don't have a fight with a girl that doesn't do it. Your disappointment and resulting fight does not fix the fact that she doesn't do the kinds of things you value. Don't judge someone on one action, but look for a trend.

Do you know a couple that fights over the house getting messy? The one that is a neat-freak always considers themselves the "good" one and the guy that throws his clothes on the floor when he goes to bed is the "bad" one. Bullshit! Neither one of them is right or wrong...they are just incompatible.

If you are looking for a long term relationship, date women until you find someone that you stay up all night talking to. Or someone that is interested in the same things you are. For the love of Pete, you should at least like the same TV shows, because that is what you are going to spend 15 hours a week doing. You probably won't find someone that is a perfect match, so you will need to find someone that is a good match and also has some flexibility. Someone that will let you throw your clothes on the floor in exchange for you letting her work too many hours (or whatever issue you have). And I mean true flexibility, like it never comes up again. Ever.

[Bryan2]

Here is what I have learned after a failed marriage, a lot of dating and reading a few books: stop spending energy focusing on who is wrong or right in a situation.

Don't accuse anyone of being wrong, and certainly don't fight over it. The problem is NOT "right" or "wrong" or excuses for why things do, or don't get done. The ONLY important issue is COMPATIBILITY. If you want a girl that will pick you up at the hospital and worry about you after surgery, then don't have a fight with a girl that doesn't do it. Your disappointment and resulting fight does not fix the fact that she doesn't do the kinds of things you value. Don't judge someone on one action, but look for a trend.

Do you know a couple that fights over the house getting messy? The one that is a neat-freak always considers themselves the "good" one and the guy that throws his clothes on the floor when he goes to bed is the "bad" one. Bullshit! Neither one of them is right or wrong...they are just incompatible.

If you are looking for a long term relationship, date women until you find someone that you stay up all night talking to. Or someone that is interested in the same things you are. For the love of Pete, you should at least like the same TV shows, because that is what you are going to spend 15 hours a week doing. You probably won't find someone that is a perfect match, so you will need to find someone that is a good match and also has some flexibility. Someone that will let you throw your clothes on the floor in exchange for you letting her work too many hours (or whatever issue you have). And I mean true flexibility, like it never comes up again. Ever.

Wise man

And from what I've noticed ever time Spywizard replies to a relationship thread he is spot on! lol

[Standby]

Wise man

And from what I've noticed ever time Spywizard replies to a relationship thread he is spot on! lol

i agree with this guy

[Standby]

i think you should avoid talking about it until after you eat the free meal. then go about your business

[Razor]

Here is what I have learned after a failed marriage, a lot of dating and reading a few books: stop spending energy focusing on who is wrong or right in a situation.

Don't accuse anyone of being wrong, and certainly don't fight over it. The problem is NOT "right" or "wrong" or excuses for why things do, or don't get done. The ONLY important issue is COMPATIBILITY. If you want a girl that will pick you up at the hospital and worry about you after surgery, then don't have a fight with a girl that doesn't do it. Your disappointment and resulting fight does not fix the fact that she doesn't do the kinds of things you value. Don't judge someone on one action, but look for a trend.

Do you know a couple that fights over the house getting messy? The one that is a neat-freak always considers themselves the "good" one and the guy that throws his clothes on the floor when he goes to bed is the "bad" one. Bullshit! Neither one of them is right or wrong...they are just incompatible.

If you are looking for a long term relationship, date women until you find someone that you stay up all night talking to. Or someone that is interested in the same things you are. For the love of Pete, you should at least like the same TV shows, because that is what you are going to spend 15 hours a week doing. You probably won't find someone that is a perfect match, so you will need to find someone that is a good match and also has some flexibility. Someone that will let you throw your clothes on the floor in exchange for you letting her work too many hours (or whatever issue you have). And I mean true flexibility, like it never comes up again. Ever.

Thanks man. She is coming over to talk about things. Well see what happens. The first time she called me was 30 minutes ago and I had to tell her to call me.
She says she wants to bring dinner and come hang out. But then she says we rushed into things. You guys were right I should not have told her that I loved her. Mistake #1. Mistake #2 the dog situation, even though I made it. Mistake #3 Letting her try to explain why she could not call and never even saying sorry.
I will learn from my mistakes. Keep you posted.