Shy Girls...

[JohnnnyBlazzze]

IMHO. if there are abuse issues, it isn't likely that she is gonna open up to you quickly. it could also be that she isn't experienced...(at least I would like to believe there are some 20 year olds out there). just cuz she has a twin, doesn't mean that they are the same about intimacy. the twins bf is a jerk telling you about his sex life with the sister. some women don't reach orgasm easily and therefore sex is not a big draw for these gals. gals have different attitudes about sex then men....yup this true. women can be so complicated, so i hope this is all worth it for ya. good luck!

Being inexperienced wouldn't be a surprise to me, the thing that gets me is she dated some dude for like 4 years and that's her only other bf. I don't know what kind of sexual relationship they had going but her being inexperienced or not exactly being 100% confident in what she is doing is a good point.

Lol I was the one that asked the twins BF because i wanted to see if he was in the same boat and we pretty much were. He is a little more serious though with the twin then me and this girl have going.

I don't see a problem with her acting like that maybe she wants to be respected. After you show her that you respect her she will feel more comfortable around you..


I am 20 years old, I don't have a sex drive never had and I DO NOT give the time of day to guys who don't respect me and see me as a piece of booty.. maybe she has the same attitude as me ..

We have nothing but respect for each other and i'm always showing her respect. Like i stated above in girlgy comment i think she might need somebody that will push her to do things maybe, that's like the only thing i havn't tried.

At one point I asked her to "get on top" and she responded with "*sigghhhh* i was like, "whats wrong" she's all, "I just don't know how." and then she was unwilling to try, i think she was embarrassed?

[Iamdetermined]

We have nothing but respect for each other and i'm always showing her respect. Like i stated above in girlgy comment i think she might need somebody that will push her to do things maybe, that's like the only thing i havn't tried.

At one point I asked her to "get on top" and she responded with "*sigghhhh* i was like, "whats wrong" she's all, "I just don't know how." and then she was unwilling to try, i think she was embarrassed?

she probably does feel embarrassed so dont let it get to you, help her get out of her comfort zone by taking things slowly .. if she didn't like you she wouldn't even spend time with you so

[Times Roman]

she probably does feel embarrassed so dont let it get to you, help her get out of her comfort zone by taking things slowly .. if she didn't like you she wouldn't even spend time with you so

and sometimes it can take along time for you to get her to where you want her to go. if you push, eventually she will push back. better to be gentle and slow with your approach. and talking about it in a positive way outside the bedroom can be a postive thing.

but..... there is this to consider. not every gal will end up where you want her to be. after a few years, frustration can build up, and poison a relationship. at some point, you will have to assess the relationship and make a decision. Ultimately, you cannot change people. If they are truly not interested in sex, or have a very low libido for no apparent reason, then it sounds like you have a basic compatibility issue. But don't be hasty in your decisioning. give it some time, be patient, and be gentle.

[JohnnnyBlazzze]

and sometimes it can take along time for you to get her to where you want her to go. if you push, eventually she will push back. better to be gentle and slow with your approach. and talking about it in a positive way outside the bedroom can be a postive thing.

but..... there is this to consider. not every gal will end up where you want her to be. after a few years, frustration can build up, and poison a relationship. at some point, you will have to assess the relationship and make a decision. Ultimately, you cannot change people. If they are truly not interested in sex, or have a very low libido for no apparent reason, then it sounds like you have a basic compatibility issue. But don't be hasty in your decisioning. give it some time, be patient, and be gentle.

Yea man that's kind of the way it's been for a while...patient...slow...gentle lol.

Another thing, she has no problem talking about it, she's very open and doesn't seem shy or embarrassed when we discuss the topic. I've dated girls in the past who get pissed when i bring up sex, like they're not good enough or something lol they get all defensive.

[JohnnnyBlazzze]

i gave you your answer. she doesnt want sex as much as you do. you two do not go together. accept it

That is NOT the answer lol, or at least not the one i want to hear haha. I think she wants it, she just needs to learn...

goonies never say die dont give up

I won't, I can't.... haha

she probably does feel embarrassed so dont let it get to you, help her get out of her comfort zone by taking things slowly .. if she didn't like you she wouldn't even spend time with you so

It's not really effecting me, I mean we all start someplace i just want her to not feel embarrassed over something like that you know OR if she is embarrassed i'm ok with it lol. It's almost like she's hesitate about doing things because she doesn't want to do anything wrong or doesn't want me to think she doesn't know what she's doing...if that makes sense?

Yea you're right, i've pretty much weeded out the idea of her not all that into me because she's always wanting to hang out with me and when the possibility of taking time away from each other arises she doesn't want to do that.

[JohnnnyBlazzze]

I'm actually learning new ideas from this thread haha.