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[Chitown Raider]

Got a question for you DSM.... So i met this girl at the gym she's hot and my buddy talks to her also said she wanted to sleep with me, he told me after she left. So anyways she's got a boyfriend so I figure perfect, no strings attached. Last wednesday I was supposed to meet her for lunch that got cancelled via text that she had a bad feeling about going to lunch and being nervous. I let it go because she said she wanted to see me on the weekend so we could have more time. Friday night rolls around and she's at the bar with two of her girls and invited me to stop by I told her I would let her know because I had previous plans. Called her after I had dinner only to get her voicemail and no reply to the texts I sent. Sunday was the day she said she could get some time away to see me, well I missed her call and never heard back. We talked monday and I suggested last night we could finally meet up and I would get a room. I was gonna leave work early to get ready before meeting her. Five o'clock rolls around and I get a text from her stating that she is sorry but she can't do this, because she feels sneaky. No phone call after the gym like she usually does on her way home. I asked her last week what she wanted or was expecting to come out of talking/seeing me and she kinda laughed it off as my being straight-forward. What I am wondering is why do people pull this crap, I mean you know what your getting yourself into why waste someone else's time. She sent me another text today saying she is sorry, she hopes that we can still be friends at the gym, blah, blah, blah. I demoted her to the ignore list.

[DSM4Life]

Got a question for you DSM.... So i met this girl at the gym she's hot and my buddy talks to her also said she wanted to sleep with me, he told me after she left. So anyways she's got a boyfriend so I figure perfect, no strings attached. Last wednesday I was supposed to meet her for lunch that got cancelled via text that she had a bad feeling about going to lunch and being nervous. I let it go because she said she wanted to see me on the weekend so we could have more time. Friday night rolls around and she's at the bar with two of her girls and invited me to stop by I told her I would let her know because I had previous plans. Called her after I had dinner only to get her voicemail and no reply to the texts I sent. Sunday was the day she said she could get some time away to see me, well I missed her call and never heard back. We talked monday and I suggested last night we could finally meet up and I would get a room. I was gonna leave work early to get ready before meeting her. Five o'clock rolls around and I get a text from her stating that she is sorry but she can't do this, because she feels sneaky. No phone call after the gym like she usually does on her way home. I asked her last week what she wanted or was expecting to come out of talking/seeing me and she kinda laughed it off as my being straight-forward. What I am wondering is why do people pull this crap, I mean you know what your getting yourself into why waste someone else's time. She sent me another text today saying she is sorry, she hopes that we can still be friends at the gym, blah, blah, blah. I demoted her to the ignore list.

She sounds like most people in relationships. It's fun to flirt and be wanted but when it comes time to cross the cheat line I don't think she is ready to go that far. You pushing the sex thing isn't goin to help. If anything it's going to add unwanted pressure. You made your bed playing with someone in a relationship. My advise, let it go.

[Chitown Raider]

She sounds like most people in relationships. It's fun to flirt and be wanted but when it comes time to cross the cheat line I don't think she is ready to go that far. You pushing the sex thing isn't goin to help. If anything it's going to add unwanted pressure. You made your bed playing with someone in a relationship. My advise, let it go.

Ok, so I took your advice and stepped back. I've seen her at the gym a couple times now and basically pretended she didn't exist. Well tonight three pics come thru one of her naked, two others in a thong and bra. I haven't responded, figured I'm gonna end up wasting my time again.

[lovbyts]

Got a question for you DSM.... So i met this girl at the gym she's hot and my buddy talks to her also said she wanted to sleep with me, he told me after she left. So anyways she's got a boyfriend so I figure perfect, no strings attached. Last wednesday I was supposed to meet her for lunch that got cancelled via text that she had a bad feeling about going to lunch and being nervous. I let it go because she said she wanted to see me on the weekend so we could have more time. Friday night rolls around and she's at the bar with two of her girls and invited me to stop by I told her I would let her know because I had previous plans. Called her after I had dinner only to get her voicemail and no reply to the texts I sent. Sunday was the day she said she could get some time away to see me, well I missed her call and never heard back. We talked monday and I suggested last night we could finally meet up and I would get a room. I was gonna leave work early to get ready before meeting her. Five o'clock rolls around and I get a text from her stating that she is sorry but she can't do this, because she feels sneaky. No phone call after the gym like she usually does on her way home. I asked her last week what she wanted or was expecting to come out of talking/seeing me and she kinda laughed it off as my being straight-forward. What I am wondering is why do people pull this crap, I mean you know what your getting yourself into why waste someone else's time. She sent me another text today saying she is sorry, she hopes that we can still be friends at the gym, blah, blah, blah. I demoted her to the ignore list.

She sounds like most people in relationships. It's fun to flirt and be wanted but when it comes time to cross the cheat line I don't think she is ready to go that far. You pushing the sex thing isn't goin to help. If anything it's going to add unwanted pressure. You made your bed playing with someone in a relationship. My advise, let it go.

Ok, so I took your advice and stepped back. I've seen her at the gym a couple times now and basically pretended she didn't exist. Well tonight three pics come thru one of her naked, two others in a thong and bra. I haven't responded, figured I'm gonna end up wasting my time again.

Sounds like she is more than ready to cross that line. She already has in my book and if it was me I would avoid her at any cost since she is in a relationship. Nothing like a jealous boyfriend after your ass. It's never worth it in my book.