Cant get hard with new chicks!! WTF!

[yeahbuddy289]

So I have always had what they call "performance anxiety" when im with a girl for the first time but I usually can get it up. I have been in a relationship for the past 4 years and I could bang her all day everyday but we broke up about a year ago but we still see each other and "take care of business". Within the past year I have managed to bring two girls home (not in the same night lol) and both times my dick has failed me. Now both times alcohol was involved and both times it was about 4 in the morning and im never usually up that late lol. Anyways its extremely embarrassing and wish there was something I could do about it because it just kills my confidence which I think will make things worse. I bought some liquid cia however I don't feel much of a difference in erection quality and it doesn't seem to make getting hard any easier. The other issue is when im with women usually drinking is involved and you cant use Cialis or Viagra when drinking (that and you never know when and where your gonna get laid and I don't feel like being on it 24/7).. so im really at a loss on what to do?

[Lunk1]

You can use Cialis while drinking. You might want to consider making sure your in a better state of mind (sober and not exhausted)

[yeahbuddy289]

I think that's exactly it Lunk... I am 23 and work 40-45 hours a week doing hard work and its difficult to stay up past 11pm lol. The problem is everyone else my age has some crappy part time job where they can go out every night till 2am because they don't have to get up for work until 3pm lol

[Shol'va]

So I have always had what they call "performance anxiety" when im with a girl for the first time but I usually can get it up. I have been in a relationship for the past 4 years and I could bang her all day everyday but we broke up about a year ago but we still see each other and "take care of business". Within the past year I have managed to bring two girls home (not in the same night lol) and both times my dick has failed me. Now both times alcohol was involved and both times it was about 4 in the morning and im never usually up that late lol. Anyways its extremely embarrassing and wish there was something I could do about it because it just kills my confidence which I think will make things worse. I bought some liquid cia however I don't feel much of a difference in erection quality and it doesn't seem to make getting hard any easier. The other issue is when im with women usually drinking is involved and you cant use Cialis or Viagra when drinking (that and you never know when and where your gonna get laid and I don't feel like being on it 24/7).. so im really at a loss on what to do?

You are not alone I also have performance anxiety around women...

[ironbeck]

I think that's exactly it Lunk... I am 23 and work 40-45 hours a week doing hard work and its difficult to stay up past 11pm lol. The problem is everyone else my age has some crappy part time job where they can go out every night till 2am because they don't have to get up for work until 3pm lol

Have you used AAS? I couldn't even fathom my dick failing me at 23, tired, high, drunk whatever. I think I experienced my first issue when I was in my mid 30's and it was only a confidence thing after being on a dry spell.
U should try massaging your date and move very slowly if you can....Maybe a Valium or sumthin?

[Shol'va]

[Sgt. Hartman]

You are not alone I also have performance anxiety around women...

Lmfao don't feel bad bro I get performance anxiety around men.....

[redz]

23 with ed? yikes.get some cialis for a quick fix but might want to get things checked out at the doctors.

[Times Roman]

back in my druggie days, I'd meet a chic and experience the same thing when I was stoned or high. Not every time, but often enough I was aware of the risk. back then, I learned to compensate by going down on her first to see how I'd react. If I had any doubts, i'd finish her off that way.

Never a problem on a second hookup.

It happens mate.

[yeahbuddy289]

I have used AAS and I have used it properly (minus being a little on the young side) But I don't think that it the issue and heres why- I have had this problem long before I used, one of the girls this happened with I was on a test. cycle, and when im with my old girl friend or myself I have absolutely no problem getting hard.

[Zodiac82]

You are not alone I also have performance anxiety around women...

lol

-Release the Kracken!!!-

[Hoggage_54]

[DSM4Life]

Maybe you caught the gay.

[Hoggage_54]

Maybe you caught the gay.

+1... maybe you should watch some gay porn as a test.

[Knockout_Power]

The other issue is when im with women usually drinking is involved

quick question based on this statement ^^^... do you have confidence issues to begin with, hence the drinking or are these women really hot or really ugly?

[Sgt. Hartman]

+1... maybe you should watch some gay porn as a test.

Lol ever heard if the sweat pants test?

[MuscleInk]

maybe you caught the gay.

lmfao!!!!!!!!

[buffgator]

Honestly there could be 100 different reasons. Ive got a friend who cant get it up if he doesnt feel a connection to the girl on a level other than physical. I could be hormonal, could be anxiety, could be the drinking. I know that when I used to drink and Id find myself sloppy drunk at 4am id just go to sleep because I knew it wasnt getting up anyway. Could just be your gay and dont know it yet? j/k Just have fun and dont stress about it that will help a lot

[ironbeck]

I have used AAS and I have used it properly (minus being a little on the young side) But I don't think that it the issue and heres why- I have had this problem long before I used, one of the girls this happened with I was on a test. cycle, and when im with my old girl friend or myself I have absolutely no problem getting hard.

I like this idea for you my friend, I don't want to assume, but I'm guessing your confidence issues are a result of a small weiner, so if you go down on her first, atleast she will get off and not be worried about your size. Orr is there another reason for your anxiety? Because I do believe your ed issues are 99% mental

[jimmy726]

Going down on a chick the first time you meet her can lead to bad things on your mouth lol. Probably a confidence thing More than anything

[crazy mike]

You are not alone I also have performance anxiety around women...

Well what would we think when you're on board with the chick...lol....crazy mike

[crazy mike]

I say, just go down on her. as was just said, she won't care them. I have been there with the satisfying of one with the tongue. Much like MR. Gadget, I always brought my flashlight. It was a done deal for the night. ...crazy mike

[RipOwens]

Nothing abnormal about this dude, so many variables and other things can cause these types of things.

[MuscleInk]

Nothing abnormal about this dude, so many variables and other things can cause these types of things.

^^^ very true. I'm cutting aggressively right now and I feel apathetic about everything - sex included.

[lovbyts]

I think that's exactly it Lunk... I am 23 and work 40-45 hours a week doing hard work and its difficult to stay up past 11pm lol. The problem is everyone else my age has some crappy part time job where they can go out every night till 2am because they don't have to get up for work until 3pm lol

Ahhh sorry bud even though most of your friends have easy crappy jobs and you have to work 40+ hrs a week of hard work is not going to effect you like that. I'm now 50 and put in 48hrs of overtime last week. Guess what, everything still works fine.

When I was in my early 20s I worked 60+ hrs a week doing drywall. Stocking houses, nailing, scrapping, spraying etc.

Ive always had performance anxiety with anyone new but never was I let down or had any issues. Although you say you did aas a little young but you did it properly.... somehow I dont think so. As they say if it walks like a duck, looks like a duck and quacks like a duck; it's a duck.

Go get blood work done and stop guessing or looking for more short cuts.

[tigerspawn]

Lmfao don't feel bad bro I get performance anxiety around men.....

I would hope so.

[tigerspawn]

My brain has areas thinking about sex and areas thinking about stuff related to sex. If taking AAS increases sex drive is there anything to take to help control it.

[Honkey_Kong]

My brain has areas thinking about sex and areas thinking about stuff related to sex. If taking AAS increases sex drive is there anything to take to help control it.

Yeah, deca. It'll definitely put the cabash on your drive.

[songdog]

I would have the same thing with someone new after my divorce.Didnt have to be drinking or tired.

[tigerspawn]

Yeah, deca. It'll definitely put the cabash on your drive.

I don't want to destroy it. I am just worried about being uncontrollably horney when I start taking AAS.

[< <Samson> >]

Many variables here bro. Sounds like you are in a unstable mental state along with being physically exhausted when it's time to get some.

The part that somewhat gets me is the fact that you are very young. Up until my mid 20's, I could fvck anything that walked any time throughout the day < And most of the time I did.


How you sound kind of sounds like me now, but I am decade older than you.


Try to monitor yourself a bit as far as what works and when.


But, I am very close to this now. If I am anxious, no matter how turned on I am or whatever else. The dick goes dead - Focusing on it makes it even worse.


Again my next advice would typically be directed toward someone about my age. I'd just hit some V's or C's. . . Works very well and the sides are pretty manageable.

[yeahbuddy289]

Well boys... I honestly don't know what to say... Friday night I was with a chick who wasn't the hottest thing.... but definitely throwing herself at me and I just couldn't do it.... my dick was pulling a scared turtle lol. But it was 4am and I was pretty tired. Last night I had some chick that ive known since high school come over and I put in a movie and we started making out and all that good stuff and I was hard as a rock.... but she wanted to wait... WTF!!! lol. It wasn't 4am so I wasn't dead tired so I think that helped... and she was a lot more attractive and actually seemed to know what see was doing.

[< <Samson> >]

Friday night I was with a chick who wasn't the hottest thing.... but definitely throwing herself at me and I just couldn't do it.... my dick was pulling a scared turtle lol.

Things like this can make a grown man cry

[Honkey_Kong]

I don't want to destroy it. I am just worried about being uncontrollably horney when I start taking AAS.

It's not as out of control as people on here dramatize it. It's like just an intense version of being 15 again.

But if for some reason it does make you a monster. You could always sell the rights to your story to Lifetime when you're in the slammer.