Hey guys. Well, here's the story. I met up with a long time acquaintance (I use this term because we're kind of friends, but we've had a history together. We've slept together once a long time ago, and I've always had a thing for her). Anyways, I met up with her last Thursday after being out of the country for almost 3 years. Went out, had dinner, then drinks. We went back to her place afterwards. We both laid in bed, she took her pants off and, at first we were going to ****, but I told her I wouldn't right then because I didn't know how she'd feel about it in the morning when she was sober (this happened last time we did it, and she didn't feel the same afterwards). She agreed that we probably shouldn't and just wait to "see how things go". We did fool around a bit though; kissing, a bit of finger play, and a little oral. I left her house on the morning and we were both on really good terms. We hugged and kissed on the cheek. I went back to another town I was visiting, and she said she may be in that town on Saturday.
Saturday comes. I don't hear from her all day, so I figured she wasn't coming. I met up with a buddy of mine that I hadn't seen in 3 years. We started drinking at about 4PM at his house and by about 8, we were pretty tipsy. Finally she texted me around 9 and told me she was going to a bar with some friends in town. My buddy and I decided to meet up with her. Well, the drinking didn't stop there. Within an hour of being at the bar, I was pretty wasted. I normally don't drink a lot, so I can only imagine how much of an a$$ I was making of myself. We went to a few other bars (it was all pretty blurry though). At one point she told me she was going to another bar with her friends. I stayed at the other bar with my friend. After a little while I texted her, no response. Then I called her a couple times, no response. I finally found her outside a club. We talked for a couple minutes; she said sorry, but her phone had died. I asked her if she wanted to come back to my friend's house after the bars closed, but she said she was really drunk and just wanted to go home. I said ok, no worries, and that was all I remember.
So, the next day, I call her. I already knew I had been a drunk idiot the night before, so I asked her if I had done anything 'inappropriate' last night. She seemed to not make too big a deal about it by the way she sounded and talked. The only thing she said was that outside the club, where I saw her last, I kind of 'pulled' her away from her other friends while she was talking to them. She also said she got a voicemail from me that was 2 minutes long; that I must not have hung up the phone after calling her so it was just me talking to my friend in the background. Sidenote: I was pretty irritated with her for leaving with her friends and leaving me at the other bar (which may or may not have been because I was drunk) and after I phoned her one of the times, I threw a little temper tantrum after she didn't answer, so I'm wondering if she heard anything or not. The only thing she said was that she couldn't make out anything I was saying, and that she only recognized my voice so she knew the voicemail was from me. I hesitated after she told me this, and she went on to tell me "it was nothing embarrassing". She sounded very calm about it, didn't make any big deal about it and went immediately on to tell her about another voicemail she got from her mom that night also. I'm pretty sure she didn't hear what I said in the voicemail, but it's still in the back of my mind. I told her I was sorry for 'pulling' her away from her friends, and she said "no worries, you were just drunk" with a little giggle.
I texted her the following night (Monday) and apologized again for being an a$$ and that I'm not used to drinking that much. She said "Thanks. You weren't being an a$$, you were just being drunk". We continued to text back and forth for a few minutes, but every time I tried joking around with her, she wasn't nearly ammused as she usually is. There were no "lol's" or "Haha's" in her responses. Her attitude seemed to totally change.
I haven't heard from her since then, and I don't want to text/call her because I don't want to be a "chaser" because I know that's a turn-off for her. But I also want to hear from her. Not sure what to make of all this and what's going through her mind. I figured I'd give her some time and, after a while, I would text her.
So, what do you guys think of all this? Is she just turned off now that we had such a great night together on Thursday, then she saw me all drunk? How long should I wait before texting her if she doesn't text me (remember, I don't want to look like a "chaser"). Is there a way to fix all this, and how would you go about it?
I've already apologized twice now, and I don't know what to do. I'm in a bit of a vulnerable position here since I don't remember a lot of what happened that night (and neither does my buddy). I'm calling on all you "ladies men" out there for advice!
P.S. would like to get some advice from the women here in the forum as well.
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really i wouldnt apologize at all unless she brought it up and even then id have to evaluate the situation.. it looks like u were fishing too hard.. it seems ur the dumb ass that wouldnt let it go.. 
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Originally Posted by musclestack
