First off I would like to welcome you to AR and would also like to say that I am very sorry to hear about your girlfriend. Something as tragic as that can definately have an impact on your health as well as the health of others. It seems that your getting things turned around which has to be extremely difficult considering your situation. You have my sympathy.

I hope some of these answers help with any concerns.
1) IMO I would suggest running no more than two anabolics for your first cycle. Which ever two you choose make sure test is one of 'em because of its synergistic properties. I would also suggest running a single estered test i.,e., cyp or enth instead of the sust. Sust should be injected at least 3x s a wk because of the short acting prop ester. Cyp or enth needs only to be injected twice per wk and this will just make it easier for you and your results will be just as well.
2) Wks 1-11 500mg/wk Cyp/Enth; Wks 1-10 400mg/wk EQ OR Wks 7-12 50mg/ED Winny.
3) Anabolics do show up depending on the test and what it is for.
4) Plenty of supplemental protein, always take a multi-vit., 10 grms glutamine ED, and if you decide to run the winny I would suggest take a liver protectant as well because winny is slightly heptoxic. Creatine wouldn't hurt either.
5) The longer estered tests and EQ usually take 3-4wks to take effect, but varies from user to user.

As a final thought I always suggest that you get your body in the best possible condition before starting any cycle. Some anabolics are very stressful and your body needs to be in this type of shape for it handle 'em and so that you get the best possible results. Train hard, eat clean and watch yourself grow. Goodluck.