Quote Originally Posted by bermich
The sad truth is: It never ends. You can have one plastic surgery and you will absolutely find something else you would want done.

Look at Arnold compared to Lee or whoever is the current bodybuilder. He makes Arnold look small. But in the 70s Arnold was huge. Its cuz over the past 20 years, we keep finding things to better ourselves from yesterday.

In order to get over the self confidence problem you need to be able to do
ONE THING
You need to find an ancor. Something fixed in your life that will always have value to you. A person, a place, a picture, a memory, a letter. Every time you go this ancor, it will bring you back to that default in your life where everything is good. From this ancor point, you look at all the things that have changed in your life since this point. This ancor will help you determine which changes have been positive and which have been negative.

Its hard to tell how much you change over a gradual period of time without having the starting point as referance. The starting point can be a picture or even someone you trust whom you can go to who will tell you what you need to hear.

Or: Write a letter to yourself. Write down who you are, who you want to be. Write down your goals and how long you think these goals will take to achieve.
Write down what you like about yourself. Do not write down what you dont like about yourself. Instead, write down what you dont want to become. This letter needs to emphasize the good qualities about yourself.
This way, if drugs or other negative things you encounter in your life cause you to stray from your goals, you can go back, read your letter of the person you used to be and used to be proud of, and get back on track.

Like I said. If you are depressed, you keep getting more depressed, get used to being depressed, then forget about the times you used to be happy. The ancor allows you to realize at one time, you used to be happy and productive mentally, and physically.


I doubt you all will read this long post cuz I hardly read long posts either.
Nics post,but on 2mg xanax it was tough....lol