OK...I'll probably get flamed for being such a sap, but I'm a big boy and I can take it. First of all, Tobey...bro it sounds to me like you two should still be together. I didn't read your earlier post about why the two of you split up, so what happened? There's obviously more to this than sex and working out. It sounds like you two are great together...maybe you guys can "work it out"...I know, I know very bad pun. The only reason I say this is because my wife is the most important thing in my life (my son as well) and I don't know what I would do without her. Some people are independant and some people are dependant...I'm the latter. I guess I'm a romantic at heart. I feel like you guys are my bros so I'll explain my position in detail (I won't be offended if you skip this because I may ramble).

With the exception of a 6 month stint of pillow hopping and one night stands while in University, I have always been in long term relationships. Even in high school I was always in a steady relationship. I grew up in a stable two parent household and my folks are still very much in love. When you see that kind of love growing up it truly influences your life patterns. In 1989 I met, and fell in love with a very attractive woman. She was 20 and I was 22 and we dated exclusively for 4 years. Of course we had the typical fights that couples have but for the most part things were cool. In 1993 we got married. I was 100% ready to be married and to be with one person for the rest of my life...apparently she was not. In the summer of 1995 she was dancing (highland dancing) in our local International Tattoo (a large production featuring dancers, drill squads, brass bands, pipe and drums etc.....). One of the International acts was a U.S. Army drill squad. When my wife first met the captain of the squad, she took her wedding band off (I found this out later). She mentioned him to me and although I was a little suspicious (she talked about him a lot) I didn't think anything would happen. Eventually they began an affair, she took out a private P.O. Box so he could send her plane tickets and she began traveling down there (I wasn't suspicious because she was always travelling for dancing). This went on for two months. One day I came home from work early and happened to pick up the mail before she did. I opened up our phone bill and discovered that 78 long distance phone calls had been made to the same number in Virginia. I confronted my wife about it and asked who she was calling...when she said the name I thought I was going to die. It was the most intense emotional pain I have ever experienced and it literally made me ill physically...I almost collapsed. Long story short, she left me for him and I was devestated. I considered contacting the U.S. Army and letting them know how their officer had behaved but decided against it...extinguishing anothers flame doesn't make yours burn any brighter. To this day when somedody asks me "What is the worst day of your life?" I tell them "The day I opened that phone bill" and when they ask "What was the best day?" I say "Same day."

Here's why. My ex-wives best friend, also a good friend of mine, had left her abusive husband 3 months earlier. So when my wife left me I called her up and asked if she wanted to go out for a coffee and to talk. Afterall, she was the only person in my circle of friends who had experienced a situation similar to mine. We became closer and closer during those talks and eventually fell deeply in Love. Her name.....Roberta (Bert)...my current wife, you've seen her posts on this board. It's true that hindsight is 20/20 and I realize now that my first wife and I shouldn't have been together in the first place, she was selfish and egotistical and I was the person who always comprimised. Mman 'o' man I must have been whipped to spend 6 hours watching highland dancing competitions, which I did on many occasions. I am happier know than I have ever been in my life, Bert and I do absolutely everything together. She is a pillar of strength in my life and we have no secrets. We have reserached together and she administered the majority of my injections during my first cycle. As a matter of fact when I do my second cycle this fall she will do her first ever cycle (winstrol tabs @ 15-20mg/day x 6 weeks...lots of water and milk thistle). So the moral of the story is...make sure you find the right person to spend the rest of your life with. I didn't and I got hurt, but I did get lucky, and now I'll never let go.

Pete