
Originally Posted by
Anna Bollick
Okay... first of all, almost ANY girl will sleep with a man on the first date if it is the RIGHT man. That means, like the one in a million guy who really thrills her with his presence and treats her exactly the way she likes. Play the lottery. Your chances are better. But it does happen. So she didn't sleep with you... that simply means you are one of the 999,999 other guys. If you were something special to her, she WOULD have called. That doesn't mean you should give up... gentle and cordial persistence combined with patience will sometimes win out. Eventually something might click, or she will go with you out of boredom or throw a sympathy screw or a sympathy date on you. It's all good. Or who knows... love could eventually come into the picture.
Call her back. Just chitchat a bit, tell her how much your time together meant to you, how you were smiling all day the next day, stuff like that. Ask her out somewhere nonthreatening, like a lunch date or something. You have to get a rapport going. She has to have a chance to become interested, because apparently at this point she is not.
Why don't women return calls? Several reasons. Sometimes simple capriciousness. Sometimes they can't stand the thought of hurting your feelings and having to hear you whine, and then feeling guilty for it. Sometimes they just don't want the drama. Sometimes they are just too busy with other calls, other callers, other men, or women. Sometimes they forget, or don't think it merits their attention. Sometimes they are just playing games with you. Sometimes they are just playing the old "rip his heart out of his chest and stomp that sucker flat" game. Don't worry about the why. Just keep trying until you are ready to give up, and then try another one. Half the world's humans, more or less, are female. And a large portion of the men are also available if you have an open mind.
Love
Anna