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Sounds like he feels like you would be the one in charge.Some guys have a thing about.Being the dominate one.And you are very secure about who you are and wat you want.Seems like he is got emotional problems.Some guys just feel the need to be in charge.But you dont need that.You can make it on your own.You dont need a guy to lean on.Does this mean Haz and I can go to Hawaii with youxo
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I wouldn´t mind going to Hawaii with Kawi, but I wouldn´t see the point bringing Haz along...Originally Posted by songdog
Sounds like he feels like you would be the one in charge.Some guys have a thing about.Being the dominate one.And you are very secure about who you are and wat you want.Seems like he is got emotional problems.Some guys just feel the need to be in charge.But you dont need that.You can make it on your own.You dont need a guy to lean on.Does this mean Haz and I can go to Hawaii with you
He would just be bored, hanging out by himself all day.
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is that him?
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^^^lmfao!
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Closer than the last one......lol
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in this picture he is thinking of what should he tell you regarding your question.
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I'll simply say this - better you find out now than after your first , what was bound to be horrible (due to his feelings of inadequacy re: you) sexual encounter. At least now perhaps you can maintain some form of relationship that will not be embarrasing to the point that one of you wont just avoid the other. Consider yourself lucky he copped out now..
Even if he now changed his mind - wouldnt this experience be sufficient to ruin it for you anyway? I dunno - rhetorical question for you to answer to yourself.....
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I absolutely agree.....I know he respects me enough to be upfront and direct. He knows I appreciate that.
yes...most certainly glad its now.....than later. I think I'm actually ok with this....seeing as how he is; the jealousy card will probably trump in the future about something; and that won't go over well with me.
After all this conversation; he's a good man; witty, smart, intelligent, loyal, hard working...he's just not the man for me.
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And you'll forever try to convince him he's great in bed, et al... Good decision on moving on.
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tell the guy to buy some extenze or get a sports car, lol j/k
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hey I was thinking of doing it....Moron
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Henry Rollins once said that deep down in todays society, all men are inherently afraid of women to some degree or another. I think there's probably a grain of truth to that.
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U are just scratching the surface there.
Study global history millenniums back, all cultures.
Middle east today....pure fear of women power. Hidden behind religion.
Women are strong where we are weak, and it´s a truth we squash.
Would love to run with this one, but got sh$t to do.
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I agree with a post I read earlier in the thread...it really just comes down to compatibility. I have forever thought that there is no good or bad, only compatible and incompatible. For example, the person that is messy isn't the "bad" person and the tidy person isn't the "good" person, because it really only matters if their difference causes an incompatibility. It really doesn't even matter why he is intimidated, only that he is, and is being up front about it causing an incompatibility. Kudos to him, and it is good for you as well as it will keep you from simply learning it later when things are more involved/complicated.
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If he has known you for 4 years and now at the point of dating is saying he is intimidated by you......I would say he is just having second thoughts and is trying to back out without any damage.
No offence , just an opinion.
Last edited by terraj; 05-25-2011 at 12:12 AM.
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EXACTLY what I was thinking - it's a way of breaking up with you by paying you a big compliment thereby avoiding being the bad guy - I cannot believe no other guys (unless I missed it) picked up on this - it was the first thing that came into my head! - Makes A LOT more sense than a guy breaking up with a girl because she "intimidates" him.
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None taken...most here would know I appreciate honesty...and directness. Don't sugar coat it for me...call it as it is. I don't take much to offense.
So, thanks terraj...I totally agree with you. Sometimes in the moment your minds cluttered with emotions and you can't focus on the words as to what they are really conveying.
At the end of the day....he did want to back out without damage....cest la vie.
I'm fine actually.....I chalk it up to experience...learn.....learn something about myself and move on.
And songdog....Haz is a tad busy lately...and will be for sometime...so....there's room for another!!!
Booz....xox.....
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Sorry to hear this "C", i know you wanted this to work for you.............
Sorry but if he really liked you he wouldnt be insecure or even if he was he would find a way to get past the issue .....................
Yuor lucky imo that he has backed out now and not in a few months plus as this may have hurt you more.......
Sorry but the Geezer is a totall "TARD" if he cannot see what hes got in front of him
he aint worth a rub put him outta your mind girly.................
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Maybe he has a tiny wiener..........just playin...........I've heard you say that there is no way you are gonna change who you are.........maybe he thinks that will mean that HE will have to change who he is in order to please you.......maybe he feels the same way...there is no way he wants to change who he is........those excuses he gave you are total bullshit the giveaway is in the vagueness. I'm just saying....from what you've said here....you come across strong....not intimidating at all......just strong.....almost demanding that he dare not try to change you, leaving it open to his interpretation......I don't know you, just giving you what you asked for......an honest opinion..........I dunno, maybe he really does have a tiny dick
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Maybe for the few who have little to no experience with women. I personally look at every woman the same when I first meet them, but as soon as they open there mouth I may stay or simply walk away.
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There is no "guy".
Instead of opening an account with Match.c, she just started this thread..
Imagine all the pm´s she got last night!!
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She was bringing a friend with her.Thats why Haz was coming
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hey honey, i agree with the rest of the guys and think that he is insecure and doesn't know how to handle a dominant woman. four years is quite some time to just say that 'fear' is the only reason he is backing out. deep down he just couldn't handle being with you and be glad that he told you now than later. i am glad that you are the strong woman you are and that you put your feelings out in the open. i wish i had some extra dough, i would come cheer ya up in hawaii!!!!!
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i would have slept with you before i told you but hey thats just me
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LOL....
Ah.....of course you would have......like most men. But I'm quite a challenge......
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i beg to differ but I will keep my mouth shut and my pants on this time
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ya.....ur just p*ssed cause you can't have me!i beg to differ but I will keep my mouth shut and my pants on this time
Last edited by Kawigirl; 05-25-2011 at 10:33 AM.
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thats sound so fimiliar you have no ideaya.....ur just p*ssed cause you haven't cause you can't have me!
That don't kill me, can only make me stronger
no one has said no to me..its futile to challenge me..it would happen =]
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ive been this way with some girls before.. some i hooked up with and some i didn't.. either way it didn't matter to me as i found them to be better friends then GF's and everyone wants something different in a GF.. not all guys think that a girl riding a motorcycle is cool.. some won't date one that doesn't.. it isn't as much him being inadequate as you guys just being incompatible.. Some of the traits that i would think would be great in a girl at first later made me loathe them.. i dated a fitness instructor once and i thought it was great.. sex was amazing.. but her bland food was insane to me.. she was too obsessed with fitness for me to want to be with her.. despite me being pretty big into it myself.. Sometimes having a good friend that is a chick is more important than dating one and risking it becoming weird.. sometimes you can pull off the whole friends with benefits and sometimes you can't.. such is life.
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