Why good people always finish last

[yannick35]

Yannick, if I learned anything in life so far, it's that you cannot buy a woman's love. You invested all that effort and money (via gifts) in her and in the end you still didn't buy it. And with that approach, it'll never work on ANY woman or really anyone for that matter. You might be able to use your money and effort to get her in the sack, but that wasn't just what you were after, was it?

You shouldn't have bought her gifts (like those theatre tickets) or invested your time/effort in to her EXPECTING her to even appreciate what you did for her. And you did that. When you give somebody a gift or you put some effort in doing something for them, you do it for the sake of giving it to them and not for their appreciation. In other words, when you give that stuff, you're doing it for the sole sake of giving it with no strings attached. Otherwise, you're trying to buy something that you'll never buy no matter how much money and/or effort you throw at it.

It was more to get out of the house then buying gifts, after being with someone for a long time and yes routine does set in, i tried to keep the fun going. But yes i admit i was in love with love itself and its my fault too i tough at one point it would change and work and was very blinded.

Right now i am back in the gym working my diet (that is the most important thing to make progress now diet.) I am soon to move into my condo get my stuff together and to be honest i am not looking for a relationship at all. I felt a lot of pressure when she left me for that other guy because i lost my self confidence and was thinking that no other women would ever want me. Now i feel pretty good and quit happy she is gone and out of my life, 9 years i have learned and if i ever get back into a relationship with a women i will have learned a lot in that past relationship, if she does not invest or seem to not care about me and all this time around i won't wait that long to dump her.

[songdog]

The next chick is the best chick! Seems like you realize your mistakes.2 people must meet in the middle its 50/50 or there will be resentment.Dont indulge in self pity and don't wait on Karma.Just live your life and have fun.Clear your mind and your ash will follow.Good luck bro.

[yannick35]

The next chick is the best chick! Seems like you realize your mistakes.2 people must meet in the middle its 50/50 or there will be resentment.Dont indulge in self pity and don't wait on Karma.Just live your life and have fun.Clear your mind and your ash will follow.Good luck bro.

You are right songdog i have no guilt because i did nothing wrong, i don't believe in karma or faith, i tried online dating and its pretty discouraging when you sent close to 50 emails and get zero replies, with a complete profile and pictures, the emails where very polite asking where they went on vacation or such. I guess i must be one of the ugly ones hahhahaha still online dating is overrated so i closed all my profiles on theses sites has well.

Live life yes i have so many things to do and don't need a women to do them, or to be happy.

THanks again everyone for all theses amazing replies, its feel really good to get opinions from everyone and they do make a difference, making me realize the wrongs i did and what to do next.

[GirlyGymRat]

Yannick, if I learned anything in life so far, it's that you cannot buy a woman's love. You invested all that effort and money (via gifts) in her and in the end you still didn't buy it. And with that approach, it'll never work on ANY woman or really anyone for that matter. You might be able to use your money and effort to get her in the sack, but that wasn't just what you were after, was it?

You shouldn't have bought her gifts (like those theatre tickets) or invested your time/effort in to her EXPECTING her to even appreciate what you did for her. And you did that. When you give somebody a gift or you put some effort in doing something for them, you do it for the sake of giving it to them and not for their appreciation. In other words, when you give that stuff, you're doing it for the sole sake of giving it with no strings attached. Otherwise, you're trying to buy something that you'll never buy no matter how much money and/or effort you throw at it.

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