I want to have babies...

[Superhuman]

Congrats on y'alls decision to wait.

It sounds to me, that you are going thru a time in your life(becoming mature)and you are making major life changing decisions. You have chosen the military life for atleast a short time. That's a big step in the right direction. You stated you have/are changing your wild ways. Was it because of meeting the girl or before? Either is good. Your brain is working with a new sensation, a meaningful relationship. It can release some sweat endorphins. I saw where she is 24 and wasn't to primiscuous. She sounds like someone that stays in a relationship, but for whatever reason, went the other way from them. Explore why? I am by no means saying there is something wrong with it, but, a great, sweat, 24yr old, happy, and go-lucky women is hard to fine. If you want to keep her, slow things down and learn everything you can about her and her past relationships(as much as she will divulge).

Remember even if it doesn't work out(and hopefully it will work out), that you will walk away a better man, with a relationship on what it felt to have LOVE in your life.

Just tell her you want to kiss all the places everyone forgot to kiss.

Thanks, you sound like a pretty smart guy to come to these conclusions over the little info I've given you. Yes, she is almost 24 but she was raised to respect herself so she never went through a promiscuous stage. Her problem is that she went from relationship to relationship, most not lasting for more than a few months. She waited 5 weeks to have sex with me and that was early for her. She has given head only once in her life. When I first met her she seemed like a really tough girl with an attitude of "back the **** off" - and that drives most guys looking for a quick nut away. Once I got to know her I realized how fragile she is and how sweet she can be. I don't know how to explain it but I know we are meant for eachother.

My whole life I have had this quality... of making people feel comfortable around me to the point where they open up and tell me things they have never told anybody before. I'm not sure why, but people really lean on me for advise and support. She has never just layed there and talked with a man for hours, yet she does with me. She never in her life expressed her true feelings to someone - even her parents, but she does to me. She has a hard time saying I love you to her family sometimes, yet she tells me. I am very happy with her and you're right, women like this are hard to come by, and that's why a lot of my friends ask me "How the F*CK did you get THAT?" lol

[Schmidty]

good luck bro. Im as old as u are and i cant really take care of myself, let alone a kid.

[Superhuman]

Here is a picture of her from the beach, all the rest are fully clothed so i thought this would be the best. She's the blonde. I don't want to show her face as I know there are a lot of members here from TX and I would hate for one of her guy friends to see her on here and tell her that I was juicing lol

[Prada]

Here is a picture of her from the beach, all the rest are fully clothed so i thought this would be the best. She's the blonde. I don't want to show her face as I know there are a lot of members here from TX and I would hate for one of her guy friends to see her on here and tell her that I was juicing lol

Wait a minute, she thinks you're natural? Just show her your plethora of supplements, ejaculoid inclusive.

[gixxerboy1]

So she isnt promiscuous. Only gave head twice made you wait 5 weeks but is letting you dump in her the first week you have sex? I wouldn't believe it. i think she is telling you what you want to hear.

[Superhuman]

So she isnt promiscuous. Only gave head twice made you wait 5 weeks but is letting you dump in her the first week you have sex? I wouldn't believe it. i think she is telling you what you want to hear.

No, trust me she hates cum and doesn't want it near her, but he's working on that for me since I don't want to cum inside her anymore I'm doing it on her chest and face

She's the sweetest, most supportive girl I've ever known and I trust her completely, as does she trust me. She's got like 20 close girlfriends and they go out all the time back at home but the only guy friends she has are the bouncers who look after them at a couple of the clubs... more like big brothers. She's been in relationships but she hasn't slept around. When we 1st started "talking" I told her I was with 15 girls (which was a lie) and she got real quiet and thought that was a lot.... but then I assured her "it doesn't matter how many women I've been with, the only woman i want is you".

She freaked out the 1st time we had sex and made me stop because I didn't have a condom on and she thought I did. The 2nd time I didn't want to wear one but she said she wouldn't do it without one. The 1st time we had sex without protection was the night we said we loved each other. We were both so into it we didn't care and it was the most passionate sex I have ever had in my life.

I am very good at reading people and getting the truth out of them, I know she is being real with me. Regardless, though, the past is irrelevant to me. I used to sell drugs, do drugs, steal cars, all sorts of bad shit. I used to **** random hos from the club all the time - I can't even tell you how many one night stands I've had so I am in no position to judge her for anything.

[bigboy003]

bro, i am in your exact same situation bro, broke up with my ex of 4 years, im 20 and have known this girl for 5 weeks and i already want to marry her...its funny cuz i thought i was crazy but i guess there is someone else out there just like me!

[Bojangles69]

3. I met the most wonderful and perfect woman I could ever have asked for and fallen in love with her. She looks like a playboy bunny (blonde, great shape, big breasts), she's VERY smart, and she's a very good girl (she hasn't slept around at all). *so she says

Its innately instilled in us as animals to need or want to reproduce.

But your #3 (no offense, nor do I plan for you to see why you would be offended in the first place) is the EXACT reason WHY you will regret having a kid at 20 years old.

You are TOO YOUNG and your MIND (although you *claim you're finished with certain "phases") is not operating on the same level it will be in another 5 years when you might possibly have a 4 year old child and be full of nothing but regret towards your decision to not strap the fvck up when you were 20.

I see NOTHING but romance book/movie/societally idealized nonsense in your #3.

I will quote this because theres no way in hell I'm paraphrasing but consider these points first in a question vs. answer style dispute that highlights your #3.

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Q- But she's special; she's different; she's perfect for me.
A- As of the last census, there are 6.5 billion people in the world. As the rough percentage of women is 53% of the total population, there are almost 3.5 billion women out there. Are you telling me that you just coincidentally tripped and fell into "the one"? There's a statistically higher chance of being struck by lightning three times than that being your "one special girl".
Q- Then why is she "perfect" for me?
A- Because males tend to rosetint and accentuate positive characteristics of women they feel they have a chance with. Try being critical of her one day. Notice how she doesn't shave her arms, or how she sports lovehandles, or has no common sense.
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(following added by me)

This is not for you to reply to cause for obvious reasons you may not understand. Its for YOU to simply CONTEMPLATE before you decide to dive in rubberless next time you sex this chick.

If you had 10 girls lined up right behind her that were equally or better looks/personality wise than you CLAIM this girl to be, would you still be considering wanting to have children with this specific girl?
This is the kind of question you have to close your eyes and imagine in your head and FEEL the answer as it comes to you.

In the matter of quantity vs. quality. Do past sexual/relational experiences with women if placed on a scale teether to the quantity side or the quality side as a whole? Another words you *may have just found a bunch of.. whaddu call it? "cargo *****" in the past and now finally found a **semi-decent** chick that you're somewhat compatible with and from basking in reflective comparison (to these past women) you have decided (at 20?!?!) that you are ready to reproduce, bare and support off spring for the rest of your life?

Do you have any idea what your contemplating truly implies? Do you have the wages & resources, mentally, financially, physically, emotionally, and spiritually to really raise a child and provide for it the best life you possibly could at the age of 20?

The divorce rate is NOT just 50/50. If you take a CLOSER look at statistics you'll see that getting married and having kids under a certain age (could be like 21 but may be off a bit) has like a 75-80% chance of failure.

You think your "days are over" & your *20-YEARS-OLD*. Like your ready to really settle at this age. I don't care how many chix you've smashed, how many 4 month relationships you've had (cause in reality, at 20, your AGE alone dictates the fact that you have little to no experience with women at all, thats not ME talking, thats taking a worldly perspective on the course of the average male adults life and experience) Even if you don't fall in the "average zone" the least you could have started dating was 18. Even at 18 "datings" still really is not "dating". (which is why I discount anything before 18)

Most men and women don't REALLY start independently networking or "dating" the right way till around your age, and that ritual or process evolves HEAPS as you grow older and wiser. (till your later 20's for most, not uncommon especially now to go into your thirties or beyond before having kids or getting married)

My point being, when you take an objective and realistic look at what you are saying, you REALISTICALLY are setting your future self up for something he most likely is not prepared for (now OR in the future lol) & every time you shed your seed into that girls cervical fluids and your sperm swims up to her ovaducks waiting for an egg to penetrate, you ARE not tempting FATE, your tempting a lack of true experience.

ANYONE (ok lets say 99% percent because theres always a random flake out)
with REAL EXPERIENCE would NOT be seriously thinking about having kids at such a young age.

NO let me rephrase, they WOULD *BECAUSE* they don't have that experience to begin with. I mean if you can go into the future and ask your future self what to do I can almost 100% guarantee he'd say first:

Be optimistic, chances are you're not really going to die. In the random event you do (even in your predicament) whats the point of spreading your seed, or planting a rose, (a child) and not being around to see it bloom in the first place? Really THINK about that scenario.. and depriving the rose half of its daily sunlight.

You'll be dead. You WILL NOT care.

And I personally would never want to subject (if I ever REALLY found) "the perfect one" to such a torrid future that you've surmised.. to raise the baby of a dead husband or lover.

More than anything, there are a natural course of priorities the average human being should undergo and having children and getting married at your specific age is not part of that natural course.

Whether you care or not, its a trend for a reason. If you choose to ignore that trend you WILL inevitably and most likely suffer some form of severe repercussions. I could go on for years and start listing shit but I'd say unless you're a millionaire at your current age and have NOTHING TO DO besides focus on raising that child DO NOT FVCKING DO IT, at all costs.

You do not have my consent, I could care less if you DID think this girls shit smelled like lilacs, YOU AND HER are making a mistake. I hate to rain on your parade buddy.
You can throw anything you wish at me at the shadow of your own doubt, but I know, shes knows, and YOU know.. deep down inside, now is just not the time.
And lastly don't even attempt to make it look like an "accident". LIke you just casually ignored the condom and she didn't say anything and it "just happened". FVCK THAT. That shit was 100% purely intentional so get her ass on birth control or start strapping up, otherwise prepare to deal with something you'll love AND regret every single day for the rest of your life.. and acknowledge.. regret is just not suppose to fall into that equation at any point.


-Bo

[Superhuman]

Its innately instilled in us as animals to need or want to reproduce.

But your #3 (no offense, nor do I plan for you to see why you would be offended in the first place) is the EXACT reason WHY you will regret having a kid at 20 years old.

You are TOO YOUNG and your MIND (although you *claim you're finished with certain "phases") is not operating on the same level it will be in another 5 years when you might possibly have a 4 year old child and be full of nothing but regret towards your decision to not strap the fvck up when you were 20.

I see NOTHING but romance book/movie/societally idealized nonsense in your #3.

I will quote this because theres no way in hell I'm paraphrasing but consider these points first in a question vs. answer style dispute that highlights your #3.

-Bo

I know exacty what you're saying. I spent some time and tried to think of things I didn't like about her. This is all I could think of.

1. Peach fuzz on her neck
2. Dimple on her chin
3. Tiny little scar on her left leg.

That's IT! She is beautiful and she is sweet, she is honestly everything I've ever wanted in a woman. She treats me with respect, and I treat her in kind. I've never been rude to her, EVER - she's never been rude to me. We haven't fought once about anything, just talked. We talked about things and YES we know it's not the right time for a kid, but we both said that one day we will and it will be beautiful. We can see each other together and happy for the rest of our lives. I never knew love like this existed until now.

Believe me, right before I met her I said to myself "**** the world, I'm gonna **** every hot bitch I meet. All I care about is myself and I'm gonna get what I want. I'm gonna go to Iraq and kills some f*cking ragheads, **** everybody".... then I met her and everything changed. She saved me from going down a road in life that would never bring me happiness, just anger.

[UberSteroids]

I am 24, I never fell in love. The way I know it is, because when I first see a girl and I think just about how much I would like to bang her, well, that's not love hahaha
So, since this is the only feeling that I get when seeing a girl and then talking to her, well... what can I say, I don't know what love is, I think it is all BS, and it is all about banging.

Well, try it out Superhuman, stop banging for next month or so, see if You can last and if You will be still together
Then you have a bigger chance of knowing it is not all about sex.

Plus, a 24 year old girl, that looks like a play boy bunny, and having her boobs hanging out 2 feet down, telling me that she is a good girl and hasn't been around much.... ummmmm, I don't fVcking thing I would believe in that Women always have secrets, never will tell %100 truth and they are ALL GOOD GIRLS

[football2007]

I think you are getting a little ahead of yourself here.

Wait 3 months or so, you may change your tone

My last gf was like that..

[Joemeek]

I had sex with her the last 2 times and didn't wear a condom AND came inside her.

Did STI's never pop into your noggin when you did this.
If me and my girl split and i met someone else i'd be boiling her first before having unprotected sex with her , either that or when the time was right to have unprotected sex, go and get a full once over at the clinic.

[Superhuman]

Did STI's never pop into your noggin when you did this.
If me and my girl split and i met someone else i'd be boiling her first before having unprotected sex with her , either that or when the time was right to have unprotected sex, go and get a full once over at the clinic.

Not really, I went through a phase in my life recently where I ****ed around ALOT and had unprotected sex with girls I met the same night. In one case I ****ed a girl 30 minutes after I met her at a pizza place without a condom... (A good girl too, I have the amazing ability of bringing out suppressed behaviors in people ), then another time I ****ed this slut at the club who I barely talked to for 5 minutes up in the VIP without one. She asked me what my name was with my penis in her mouth! LOL. But I'm definitely through with that stage of my life and I am very luck I have NO kids and NO STIs

I'm clean, and I KNOW she is. I trust her completely. She trusts me. She is a great girl and I have no doubt in my mind of that. It was so imperative to her that I wore a condom the first couple times that she got PISSED at me for not wanting to wear one so I did. After we realized we loved each other, things changed.