Gilfriend thinks its ok to hang out with exes

[Honkey_Kong]

I would pack her shlt for her and help her move to his house.

I wouldn't. I'd just move her shit to the front lawn and change the locks.

[wmaousley]

I wouldn't. I'd just move her shit to the front lawn and change the locks.

lol I have HOA that wont allow the things in the front yard.

[Honkey_Kong]

lol I have HOA that wont allow the things in the front yard.

It wouldn't be there for very long. Just throw some tinsil on her shit and you can just tell the HOA that you forgot to take your xmas decorations down.

[calstate23]

Ok my girlfriend of over a year thinks its ok to go out just for lunch or just for dinner with an ex. She always tells me when shes doing it and no I dont think she has or would cheat on me but to me its inappropriate and violates basic relationship code.

Im just looking for a im overreacting or its inappropriate and wouldn't mind getting some both girl/guy perspectives.

I should include backstory for full disclosure. I have gotten drunk at least three times and gone to the strip club and told her about it at the end of the night and she trusts me not to cheat.

Hell no.....I make it VERY CLEAR when I'm in a relationship, you talk to ex's I'm out the door plain and simple. No need for it. What's the point??

In fact, I make it VERY clear that I'm out the door as well if they think it's okay to hang out with their "Guy Friend"...Unless they're gay, then that's fine with me.

But look at it this way. if the guy is not gay he wants to bang your girl. It's not even about trust with your girl. It's about respect, and the punk ass dude is getting a kick that he wants to bang your chick and he's taking her out to dinner. Again, unless the guy is gay, he wants to bang your chick....Why should a relationship be going like this?? No point, and it only takes that one time where if you're chick is really drunk and her "Guy friend" there to take her home....DO you really trust that punk?? NO!!

ABSOLUTELY NO EXES, NO GUY FRIENDS AT ALL......Play some other fool, not me. And lastly, it says a lot about your girl too. Girls always say they don't realize but they do. What would your girl think if you were going out to dinner with a hot chick that was your "Friend"...She'll be jealous 100%. So the fact that she doesn't care to hurt you and hang out with another guy "As a friend" already shows she doesn't respect you.

[Misery13]

Ok CDP-
Look heres what you can do. Next time she has plans to do this - right before call her or show up at her house. Tell her your plans changed and you figured you would go to lunch with her and so and so.
Her reaction will say it all.
If she wants to know why simply tell her if she is friends with them then you think you should be too.
If she flips - you will know why. Dont let the script be flipped and listen to a trust lecture. There is only one reason she would get pissed - because something isnt right about what she is doing and she knows it.

As I said above - trust or not - its disrespectful.

Well said. I'd go with this plan.