How can this happen man? I'm the primary caregiver and have my daughter daily. I CAN NOT move out of state without my ex-wife's permission. If have one hell of a legal battle. I'd have to prove my daughter would be much better off than if I stayed.Originally Posted by MuscleInk
Oh I can prevent it but at a much greater cost to the kids. She's been a real pain in the ass lately but letting her leave makes it somewhat easier on the kids right now. I have every right to make her stay but that will make things extremely hostile, drag the kids right into the middle of something they are too young to understand yet and keep them in an environment where their mother is belligerent and bitter all the time. They would be moving to Canada to live with their grandpa (ex-wife's dad). All my 6 year old can talk about right now is the new play ground grandpa's going to have for him in the backyard.
It won't be easy on me or my finances but the final agreement will contain shared custody and visitation. It's an all around unpleasant situation but with everything I've gone through in two years she is finally broken me and worn me down. I'll bounce back, but right now I need her drama and negativity away from me and not influencing the kids in a harmful way.
Gotcha..... I didn't mean to pry. It sucks man and I hope everything turns out okay. Wish I had better adviceOriginally Posted by MuscleInk
All the best man. I travel 4 hours total every two weeks to bring my daughter to my ex. I hate that I have to be the one to "bend" - I don't even get child support from her because she's technically still in treatment. Even though she has a job and apartment set up through her treatment facility. They get the money before I do.Originally Posted by MuscleInk
Really chaps my ass lol
Well said. Haz is definitely a great dad.Originally Posted by AshopRep
You doit without thinkin twice because she deserves a relationship with her mom.
This kind of stuff sickens me. I heard a story about a 50+ year old man touching an 8 year old inappropriately the other day. WTF is wrong with people!?!?!?!? I have never hit any of my children and I won't. Not everyone agrees with this position, but I'd rather reinforce good behavior than punish bad behavior. Don't misinterpret my view or behavior though. When my kids act up, there are consequences but it usually involves not allowing them to do something they normally love to do to teach them corrective behaviors. The closest I ever came to hitting my son was when I was on my first tren cycle. I was more reactive and short tempered than usual and he was disobeying his mom. She asked him to wash his hands after using the toilet. He ignored her request twice. I walked over to him, picked him up by his shirt, carried him to the bathroom, placed him at the sink and leaned myself into him and told him to wash his hands as his mother requested. He cried out of fear the whole time and I put too much of my weight on him and caused some very small bruising across his chest. I have never felt more remorseful for anything in my life and since that day I have never shown my kids ANY aggression, no matter how quick tempered I get.
I'm quite certain if I saw someone hitting their child with a bat or bashing their head, I'd be putting a quick beat down on the parent! Kids aren't perfect. They make mistakes and test the boundaries, but that never justifies physical abuse.
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