Need some advice

[Rwy]

I am never the type to put personal business out there but sometimes its good to get an outsides person perspective. I have been dating my gf for 4 years and going to propose in the next few months. We have great friendship, great sex life, and I am very happy. Now my gf does not have the same flexibility with her job the way I do and it prevents us from doing a lot of things. We both do very well and it sucks because we are limited to going away during the summer only. She can get jealous because I have quite a past but I get that part. So thats the back ground.


I have been in the club scene since I was 17 years old. I am now 33. I worked at some of NYC biggest night clubs and while many might not understand this life style I am a life long fan of all house music. I hardly go out anymore but I do make sure that I go out when certain djs come to town. I realize and am fine with the fact I cannot go to these places forever and the train is pulling into the station really soon.

I have been all over the us ( no I have never been to the jersey shore) and some other countries to go to certain parties. My boys are going to ibiza for the closing parties after the summer and I have decided I am going but I have no idea how to have this conversation. I pretty much know she will try and kill me for going and its not about hooking up with chicks and is truly about the vibe and party that I want to experience before I start the next chapter in my life.

Any adivce would be appreciated

[Times Roman]

it's very simple really.

which do you value more?

partying (it is STILL partying, no matter how you describe it), or....

your GF's good favors.


Now let's look at the facts?

you are 33, so not a kid anymore. You've had many many years of partying and clubbing. When is it enough? Or is it ever enough?

Personally, i'd say go for it if you are not concerned with your woman's feelings.

If you do care for your woman's feelings, then i'd say skip it.

I'm not sure why this is so hard for you.

I'll break it down even further.

Are you selfish to the point you care more about yourself than your relationship with your woman?

'nuff said

[frank13]

it's very simple really.

which do you value more?

partying (it is STILL partying, no matter how you describe it), or....

your GF's good favors.


Now let's look at the facts?

you are 33, so not a kid anymore. You've had many many years of partying and clubbing. When is it enough? Or is it ever enough?

Personally, i'd say go for it if you are not concerned with your woman's feelings.

If you do care for your woman's feelings, then i'd say skip it.

I'm not sure why this is so hard for you.

I'll break it down even further.

Are you selfish to the point you care more about yourself than your relationship with your woman?

'nuff said

couldn't of said it better myself

[MuscleInk]

Party party party!!!!!!

.....then again I'm on my third marriage so DON'T come seeking advice from me!!!

TR broke it down nicely. Put another way.....can you live without your girl if she gets pi$$ed off and dumps you? Can you live without the one night of fun?

Life is about decisions and consequences.

[Rwy]

my gf is not going anywhere. will she be pissed yes but she has it really freaking good and why should i miss out on something that is important to me


I can understand how some view it as a party more so then how I see it as completing the circle in this madness I have had in my great life

[jasc]

If the relationship is a strong as you say and she is marriage material she should understand. She may not like it or be jealous but she should still understand. Ibiza is a top spot in the world for class dj's n events. NYC is great but does not compare IMO.

Explain to her that you are fully committed and want to settle down but this is something you must experience. If she really loves you she should let you go IMO. To not let you experience the ultimate house scene knowing how important it is to you because of her own selfishness/insecurities would be awfully f'n selfish/immature on her part.

[Rwy]

If the relationship is a strong as you say and she is marriage material she should understand. She may not like it or be jealous but she should still understand. Ibiza is a top spot in the world for class dj's n events. NYC is great but does not compare IMO.

Explain to her that you are fully committed and want to settle down but this is something you must experience. If she really loves you she should let you go IMO. To not let you experience the ultimate house scene because of her own selfishness/insecurities would be awfully f'n selfish/immature on her part.

Thanks you understand where I am coming from

[Razor]

No much reading not enough fcking going on
Learn from mr and mrs misery

[Rwy]

Plus I would never care if she went. I would be totally fine with it

[DeadlyD]

Propose before you tell her your going!

[Rwy]

Propose before you tell her your going!

I cant say that thought didnt go through ky head but that is not the right way to handle this

[jasc]

I cant say that thought didnt go through ky head but that is not the right way to handle this

Drop to your knee n pull out the ring during the last song of Hardwell's set... Talk about epic..

[jasc]

Drop to your knee n pull out the ring during the last song of Hardwell's set... Talk about epic..

Her friend: "I got proposed to on the roof of a skyscraper with a candle lit dinner under a full moon."

Your girl: "Oh yeah? I got proposed to during the world's top dj's closing set at the world's best party spot!"

BAM.. fvckin owned!

[Rwy]

this guy is on another level right now. what he is doing in the dj booth is really seperating him from everyone in the world


put this video to 7 minute mark