i don't know how to talk in a lot of group conversation

[importeater91]

do you mean you dont have anything to relate with them to talk about?

[Alex Rodriguez]

do you mean you dont have anything to relate with them to talk about?

pretty much yeah i guess, basicly i have no idea how to blend into the conversation, which means if i do try to talk i just end up dominating it, so pretty much i keep my trap shut.

[Deltasaurus]

pretty much yeah i guess, basicly i have no idea how to blend into the conversation, which means if i do try to talk i just end up dominating it, so pretty much i keep my trap shut.

i have the problem to where i become center of attention. but it could be your a natural leader and a charismatic and people want to listen to you.


"Good leadship is getting people to do what you want them to do,Because they want to do it."

[Pooks]

i have the problem to where i become center of attention. but it could be your a natural leader and a charismatic and people want to listen to you.


"Good leadship is getting people to do what you want them to do,Because they want to do it."

Hmmm this gave the idea... maybe u need to LEAD the conversation, instead of dominating if you know what I mean..

Instead of just blurbing out your great idea...
Ask the right questions, that willl LEAD the other people to come to your conclusion.... and if they end up taking it somewhere else.. than your idea probably had holes in it anyways and it might lead to something even better.

[daem]

pretty much yeah i guess, basicly i have no idea how to blend into the conversation, which means if i do try to talk i just end up dominating it, so pretty much i keep my trap shut.

Blending in takes talent as the opportunity for the perfect statement or joke is open for a split second and then leaves.

You need to be witty and clever, but here's one way I "bust into" conversations if I don't really know the people well or just want to get my words in. This was pretty close to a conversation at a sports bar that happened today:

Jake: Oh man, so this weekend I got so drunk....I took home this really big chick that gave me the best head ever. Totally worth it.
Scott: You're always bottom feeding...Find a real girl.
Jake: Dude, all it took was 4 shots of Jager and she hoovered me.
Eric: Gross man, not a fan of the whales.
Jake: I'm telling you guys, you gotta try it.
ME: Wait, wait wait...You're telling me you had to buy her 4 shots? If you were a real pro, she'd be paying for your drinks AND begging to blow you. You suck bro!

**Everyone laughs***

That's a pretty bad example, but the "wait wait wait" or "Let me get this straight..." and repeat something to stall while you think of something witty or scathing always works for me.

As a guy, you will get MUCH further with humor and wit than anything else. If you can dish out some humor that confirms your superiority and makes others feel inferior, people are forced to respect you. It's very simple, and one of the reasons I've been successful in business. People wear targets on their back and make it too easy when they pitch whiffle balls. Don't always swing for the fences, but you can definitely make your presence known with a well-timed joke or rip. People remember stuff like that and not the other filler / boring parts of stories.

Remember, if you aren't the king of your jungle, you're someone elses subject.

[Flagg]

To be honest, it has to be a subject you enjoy or are passionate about one way or the other.

I LOVE a good debate, but I feel sometimes I get very carried away with myself almost with a zeal like enthusiasm. That's not an attempt to be dominate, but there are lots of things that matter to me and it's probably my way of sharing why certain things are important.

It takes me awhile to warm up to a new crowd though, and iL definitely be a bit quiet..once I get to know people though I feel more comfortable talking about stuff and not worrying about feeling like a right plum.

Remember though, silence can be deafening sometimes.