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thanks and you % right im realy tring to start putting me before anyone else thats y i thing this hurts so bad is i put her first and i got s h i t on so no more of that ever if i find the girl of my dreams i will try to always put myself first your right!!
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Yeh see you know this.Originally Posted by mike954
But realize when your laying in bed tonight and having a hard time sleeping (not trying to condemn you before it happens but just fyi)
You still will be putting her ahead of you, because you're losing sleep.
So don't expect it to happen in one day. But absolutely fvcking deal with it, and don't hide from it. (like staying up till your too tired to think) Or making any other changes in your lifestyle to continue putting her in front of you.
And most of all, you never know what tommorow brings. With so much of the shit thats happened in my life, one of the hardest things for me to have maintained is the ability to look at my bed before I lay down at night and not be scared. Scared basically that I'd lay down and never go to sleep. LOOK FORWARD to your bed and tommorow. I can get through anything during the day, but thats usually the worst for me. If you can own that part of the day you can own any part of the day imo.
Last edited by Bojangles69; 01-01-2009 at 09:27 PM.
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so tru but its super hard to do but i will read what you say and one other thing that helps is i know that she did bring out the worst in me i never freak out and rage but for some reason she did that to me i lost my temper alot and broke things and punched walls when we use to fight and normaly i would not do stuff like that so i know its for the best that this person is no longer in my life and i lost over 100 lbs of fat before i met her so if i can have enuff will power to lose that much weight in 1 year i can set my mind to overcome this i guess and thanks agian i know the right things to do but it help to hear someone say it
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Yeh honestly I can agree to a degree that the whole fighting/ups&downs can actually invigorate a relationship and blow some dust off things.
But it is real easy in the same token to have it turn your entire relationship into a roller coster, just complete uneccessary drama. I mean all that shit just sounds like a headache. And not to sound sexist, but I know soo many women who try to stir their men up, its like some addictiive reaction seeking crack for women.
Expect that in the future and try to learn to tune it out. Its a sort of survival skill men have developed for a womens benefit so they don't kill all of them. =]
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not only that but we broke up and i started dateing someone else and she called me like 50 times a day left notes on my truck and txt me non stop crying and leaving messages till i talked to her and made me feel like crap so when i did talk to her she talked me in to going back and that she had changed, it sounded great and it realy was for about a mounth till i let my gard down and then told me we need a break and when i sayed ok she call me and sayed she cant wait around for me and she wanted to go out and date and i sayed dont call me any more or ever txt me agian and she got realy nasty so i just shut my phone off and she sayed this on new years eve i mean what kinda person does that on new years!
Last edited by mike954; 01-01-2009 at 09:48 PM.
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Ouch, hmm. Thats odd.
Theres too many situations that could have led to that and it would waste a lot of time speculating.
I mean was she drunk? I'd say chances are its been buidling to this for a while between you 2 and New Years kind of just aggravated it even more.
And she sounds young, at least emotionally.
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naw she was not drunk it was like yearly in the day but she is 23 but she does need to do some growing up and she had a reel shity childhood but like my brother sayed just cuz u understand y someone is the way they are does not mean you have to deal with it
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