Had a friend who was with a guy and they were engaged to be married; she moved very far away to be with him. Come to find out she gets pregnant, and he FREAKS. he didnt want kids but didnt want a vasectomy or didnt want to wear a condom. Well he tells her that she either gets an abortion or the engagement is off and their done. The lil man is an amazing baby and I watch him as often as I can for her since shes moved back home. Clearly not "her" fault for thinking things were in order. I understand it will be hard for her to find a man who respects what her decisions have ebrought into thsi world. But if you met her and her lil' guy, I don't think you'd hate the fact that she has the kid. I just think the women you have found that have kids have done irresponsible things that put them in their current situations. Truth is that some single moms are amazing women and can completely handle their business, their kid's business, and the business of a worthy partner.