6 year breakup.... anyone have any motivational speaker audio clips / videos ?

[thegodfather]

Breakups are a time to reinvent yourself. Use that time to do just that.

[tripmachine]

Check at the book 'Wild at Heart' by John Eldredge. This book disects the masculine heart and it will illustrate why you are the way that you are.

I'm a counselor so feel free to PM me anytime.

Cool I will look into that book... Thanks! and also thanks for letting me know you don't mind me PMing you any questions I may have, that means a lot.

Breakups are a time to reinvent yourself. Use that time to do just that.

I didn't know such few words could make so much sense but it makes complete sense to me.... Gotta make myself better for myself in all regards... Thanks for the great words!

[fit4ever]

Breakups are a time to reinvent yourself. Use that time to do just that.

The idea of reinventing yourself basically says that "my true self obviously wasn't good enough so I must change who I am from this day forward to be liked once again". Rather than doing that, be proud of what you are and who you are through yourself. It's human nature to want to be loved by any and all. But if you're not happy with yourself, then you won't be happy with someone else.

[thegodfather]

The idea of reinventing yourself basically says that "my true self obviously wasn't good enough so I must change who I am from this day forward to be liked once again". Rather than doing that, be proud of what you are and who you are through yourself. It's human nature to want to be loved by any and all. But if you're not happy with yourself, then you won't be happy with someone else.

I look at it from a different perspective. No one is 'perfect,' in market terms, becoming "satisfied" means becoming complacent. When you become complacent you get beaten, you loose, be it profts or otherwise. I believe there is always room for improvement, to become better. If Ronnie Coleman went home after the Olympia and said, "Im fine with myself," he would not have won the event 8 times. There is nothing wrong with reinventing yourself to correct small flaws and inefficiencies. It does not signal to anyone that you are weak or unhappy with yourself, only that you constantly strive to be the best. The fact that him doing this coincides with them breaking up is only important in the regard that now he has more time to devote to himself instead of someone else.

[fit4ever]

I look at it from a different perspective. No one is 'perfect,' in market terms, becoming "satisfied" means becoming complacent. When you become complacent you get beaten, you loose, be it profts or otherwise. I believe there is always room for improvement, to become better. If Ronnie Coleman went home after the Olympia and said, "Im fine with myself," he would not have won the event 8 times. There is nothing wrong with reinventing yourself to correct small flaws and inefficiencies. It does not signal to anyone that you are weak or unhappy with yourself, only that you constantly strive to be the best. The fact that him doing this coincides with them breaking up is only important in the regard that now he has more time to devote to himself instead of someone else.

Comparing your heart and soul to bodybuilding (the flesh) is like apples and oranges. Your heart and soul has certain deposits within them, making them what they are today and forever.

And to expand on my earlier post, if you were once in a relationship acting as someone that you're not, then you're probably better off not being in that relationship any further. Then you may need to reinvent what you once were in an attempt to rediscover what makes you who you are (or were).