My wife just told me she sleeped with someone else?

[Cloe85]

8 years is a long time to keep up a lie. I'd be pissed.

[gixxerboy1]

8 years is a long time to keep up a lie. I'd be pissed.

true but if they weren't together why did she have to tell him? Because he asked?

also tormenting her and asking her year after year is a horrible thing to do. Even if he was correct. What if he wasn't how long was he going to drill her.

hell maybe she just said she did so you will stop accusing her all the time

granted i wouldn't be happy about it but it wouldn't end my marriage. And big deal you aren't the only guy she has been with. Being a virgin isn't some magical gift. Hell i don't think i would even want to be married to a girl who i was the only guy ever.

[CBGB]

Relationships are built on trust. This will leave a large scar. How will you know if she has been lying about other things. I would have a difficult time dealing with it personally.
But, has this woman given you a happy life? Did she give you the gift of a child? Can you imagine yourself being with anybody else....for the rest of your life? If she has given you all of these things, maybe it's worth working this out. Kiss your wife and tell her that it's going to be ok. She's hurting too.

[DS21]

Relationships are built on trust. This will leave a large scar. How will you know if she has been lying about other things. I would have a difficult time dealing with it personally.
But, has this woman given you a happy life? Did she give you the gift of a child? Can you imagine yourself being with anybody else....for the rest of your life? If she has given you all of these things, maybe it's worth working this out. Kiss your wife and tell her that it's going to be ok. She's hurting too.

I know she is hurting, and I do love her, but not being able to trust someone that is suppose to be your bestfriend/life long partner is something I don't know if I could do for the rest of my life. Now when she tells me what she is doing, I can't even believe her. It could be the simpalist thing like going to eat lunch with one of her girlfriends, and all I'm thinking is if she is with another guy. Maybe in time this will go away, but I just don't see how?