My wife just told me she sleeped with someone else?

[CHAP]

My wife and I have been together for 8 years, and about 7 1/2 years ago we broke up because I thought she cheated on me. I've never forgot about that night and would always bring it up at least once a year. So she finally tells me that she did kiss a guy that night. Then during the time I broke up with her, she sleeped with him. She is telling me that she was lonely, and it ment nothing to her, she just wanted to not be sad. She is also telling me that after they sleeped together she broke it off immediatley, because she knew she wanted to be with me, and then did everything she could to get back with me.

Her cheating on me is hard, but we were only together for a few months. The part I am having such a difficult time with is the lieing. I asked before I took her back if anything happened that night, and she said no. I've asked for countless times about that night and she always made me feel like shit for asking her, like I was doing something wrong. Lieing is something I've never accepted from anyone.

We have a daughter together, and I love her a lot, but I just can't look at her the same. All of these years I've thought I was the only guy that has sleeped with her, and that ment a lot to me. Now it's not true, and I just don't know what to do in this situation.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks,

Brother Im on a serious vacation right now and want to in detail tell you about my situation(past). I will not do it in the open because I dont want to lay it out for everyone to see. But she loves you ALOT. And you love her the same. You have to put this behind you and it will be one of the hardest things you ever have to do. But I will hit you by PM with my story I think it will help. If your at home and you feel like your about to loose it send me a pm and will talk it out.

But this happened years ago and you were split up. Still this is new info that has just came to light and I know it makes you feel like it happened last night . You two may need to go to therapy it will help in this situation.

CHAP

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Brother Im on a serious vacation right now and want to in detail tell you about my situation(past). I will not do it in the open because I dont want to lay it out for everyone to see. But she loves you ALOT. And you love her the same. You have to put this behind you and it will be one of the hardest things you ever have to do. But I will hit you by PM with my story I think it will help. If your at home and you feel like your about to loose it send me a pm and will talk it out.

But this happened years ago and you were split up. Still this is new info that has just came to light and I know it makes you feel like it happened last night . You two may need to go to therapy it will help in this situation.

CHAP

I appreciate the info, and I look forward to your PM.

Thanks!