Fire - you're 100% right - it is/was a mental breakdown more than anything else. I've been feeling down because I don't feel any progress has been made, so I say F it and eat - then of course i'm pissed that I did so, and THAT is what's keeping me from making progress!!! Catch22, basically. I am sabatoging myself. I'm definitely not looking to compete, that's not in my future. I am looking to have a nice body for self-sastisfaction, that's all.
Damien - I definetely didn't post looking for any kind of reassurance that cheating is ok; I know it's not. I look at this forum as my own little blog (of sorts) - where I can post daily activity, good or bad. The people here understand what i'm talking about, whereas the people in my daily life just think i'm crazy (telling me not to lose any more weight, etc. - they clearly just don't get it).
That said - I have also heard a cheat day once in a while is actually beneficial, but I don't think that should include ice cream, crap, etc. Maybe just a little more relaxed version of the diet.