or how he trys to get me to hook up with fatties so i listen and danced with one and she sweat all over me and i wanted to barf
Enjoy!Many men enjoy it, but convincing your girlfriend to have anal sex may be a challenge. So how do you fulfill this fantasy if your partner is against it? First things first: talk it over. Find out exactly what makes her hesitant to try it and then see what you can do to belie her fears. Once you’ve done that, the next step to convincing your girlfriend to have anal sex is to address the following issues.
Pain vs. pleasure
Many women only try anal sex once and then swear it off for life. This is usually because their first attempt was painful. If your girl has had a bad anal experience, it’ll be tough to get her to try it again. Even if she’s never tried it, she’s likely heard horror stories from others. Unless your girl has a masochistic streak, pain is not on her agenda when it comes to getting off.
The anus is nerve-packed and with the right kind of stimulation, anal play can feel amazing. Unfortunately, the same cluster of nerves responsible for the pleasure can also transmit feelings of pain and discomfort if your technique is off. When convincing your girlfriend to have anal sex, you must show your concern for her pleasure and safety by sharing your responsible and well-thought-out plan.
Perfecting the setting
First of all, she needs to be relaxed and prepared; anal sex is not suited for a quickie. The anus will tighten if she is nervous, which will make it hard for you to get in and more painful for her. If it’s her very first time, you need to make a big deal about getting her ready. Pick a time and place where she can be relaxed and away from any extra stressors. Make sure you won’t be interrupted.
You probably already know what really turns her on, so whether it’s a bubble bath and a massage or hardcore porn and costumes, have your tools at the ready. Getting her aroused is of the utmost importance.
Getting started
Do not skip straight to the butt. Instead, take your time with foreplay and make sure she’s into it before focusing your attention on your desired destination. Then, start her off slowly by using your mouth, fingers and/or sex toys to stimulate her anal opening before your penis comes anywhere near it. You might even want to just use smaller toys and your fingers until she gets used to the idea of having something inside that particular opening.
Use lube -- lots of lube. Unlike the vaginal opening, the anus does not create its own lubrication; you’ll need to use plenty of artificial wetness to ensure a smooth ride.
Going in
First of all, use a condom for anal sex. Because of the increased chances of small tears in the anal cavity during anal sex, it is easier to transmit several sexually transmitted diseases and infections, including HIV and hepatitis C.
Next, lube up. You want it to be as slippery as possible for an easier entrance.
Proceed slowly and ask your girlfriend to let you know if it starts to hurt. When she winces, ease back before continuing. The hardest part will be getting the head of your penis past the sphincter, which will naturally tense up to prevent entry (this is why you started with all that relaxation). Do not force yourself through when this happens; just continue to shallowly penetrate in and out with the tip of your penis. Once you feel it begin to let go a little, gently push the head past the sphincter. You’ll feel a distinct difference once the head is inside. The sphincter will continue to constrict tightly around the shaft of your penis, but inside it will have more room. Some men find this sensation confusing and it is not unusual to lose your erection at this point. This doesn’t necessarily mean you don’t want to or can’t do it; your penis just needs time to adjust to the new experience.
Now, the hardest part is over for you and for her, but you need to continue to be highly aware of every move you make since being too rough once you’re inside can cause her considerable pain. You cannot thrust into her anus as hard as you would in her vagina. Take it easy and pay attention to how it is making her feel. If you get selfish and focus on your pleasure over her potential pain, this will probably be the last time you’ll have anal sex with her.
Avoiding the ick factor
Another reason why she may be against any anal action is that she may think it’s downright yucky. For some, the anus is a no-go zone and there’s nothing you can do to convince them otherwise, but if she’s just a bit squeamish about feces on the sheets (or you are) there are steps you can take to minimize that possibility.
Time it so that you are engaging in the act a few hours after she has evacuated the area and thoroughly cleaned up. You could even add a sexy shower or bath to the foreplay schedule to take care of this step. If she wants to go all out, she can try an anal douche to flush out anything icky that may be left behind.
Good girls don’t
You might also have a hard time convincing your girlfriend to have anal sex because she views it as deviant and not something a good girl would do. Although the taboo has faded considerably, there is still a prevailing attitude that anal sex is for bad, easy or slutty girls. If she’s worried about this, you need to assure her that you do not think of her that way and that your attitude would not change after the deed is done.
A note on porn and anal
Do not emulate porn stars when it comes to anal sex. Professional porn actresses are either stretched out in the sphincter or too high to notice the pain that results from the minimally lubed, no foreplay, extremely rough anal sex that almost always occurs in pornographic pictures. They may also have used a numbing cream or gel to dull the pain of anal intercourse. This is an extremely dumb idea, since pain is your body’s way of telling you that something is wrong. Even if she can’t feel it, the sex act could still be causing damage to very sensitive areas that will protest plenty once the numbing effect wears off. Plus, deadening the area with desensitizing cream also ensures that none of the pleasurable sensations will reach her either. If you’re not using a condom, it could dull the nerve-endings in your penis as well and what’s the point of doing it if you can’t feel the pleasure?
BACKDOOR MAN
Convincing your girlfriend to have anal sex might seem like a chore, but the key things to remember are to be sensitive to her needs, be prepared, be clean, and be safe. In the end, it’s worth the pain in the ass.
How to get your girlfriend to have anal sex with you
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gIqwbfCny8A
And for the guy who was asking about how to get a woman to make you a sandwich:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bW_ngRBPLd8&feature=fvw
Works everytime.
You can get her to make something more elaborate than a sandwich that way too.
Last edited by ReX357; 09-16-2010 at 10:17 AM.
i am still waiting for someone to ask question......ok work time
later whores
good idea, some one needs to get some work done in here... sure as hell wont be me
I've only known this girl 10 days and we are in love. What are some things I should be careful about since its getting so hot and heavy so fast?
lol u guys are diks![]()
congrats DP, if you like her more than just her looks... wait it out for a while. If you can only think of getting with her for a peice of tail, then take Cal's usual advise... fvck and forget
thanks kp solid advice
You guys wanna hear something funny?
Women's rights
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Haha pretty funny. My gf today was like "I'm hungry" im like "what, for a cock sandwich?"
My gf is on her period so our love life is moving a little slowly. She has indicated she would like a finger in the ass when we bone. You guys have laid out many precautions in this area including the option of shower and anal douching. For a mere finger will the sensation feel better for her with lube?
lick your finger and slide it in... its pretty smooth in there....
plz, just please dont rub your eyes
dont go there man
ok now that I have recharged...here is what i think abt ur issue Cherry........
We all know u r an ass and attention whore.thats given.
You always have problem when it come to girl and I am pretty sure u r pvssy whipped in that department. She is roping you in with the comments like " i was witing for someone like u" and shit like this.( u know i am correct) Plus i can tell because u r not good with girls and r going to hang on to her with the dear life. Hence the term "clingy" apply to you, then you will have issue everything she will do aka "insecure" and then because you do everything she tell u to , you expect the same hence the term "controlling" after 3 months you will get accused of all three above mentioned terms and then you will receive "its not me its you " speech followed by " we need a break" or "we should see other ppl" and then u will cry ur heart out and create 100 different threads annoying the fvck outta meso just stay with her till u fvck her in the ass and then run for your dear life.
Last edited by calgarian; 09-16-2010 at 01:30 PM.
Thanks Cal what I gather is I need to keep seeing my friends and doing my hobbies and doing my thing while Im dating this girl so the relationship stays fresh so I appreciate that. This girl just feels right. I think I could get my dick wet somewhere else but it wouldn't satisfy or fulfill me. I have to come to terms with some of this shit its just the way men are wired to try to **** as much as possible. Doesn't create true happiness to do that though.
I'll cry and create a 100 threads the day I get engaged to this girl knowing I can never be with you you big stud![]()
Astroglide is the prefered lube.
And lots of it.
I mean, put some in with your finger. Then push your finger in a bit. Pull your finger out again, put more lube, push in a bit further again. Repeat 5 to 6 times until your finger slides in and out without any issues.
Cover your cock in lube, then push your cock in, work it for a bit, add a bit more lube while you're in and work the added lube with your cock.
Make sure you bust deep in her ass. Or pull out and quickly insert into her mouth. If she's religious, she will understand.
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