How the hell can my wife be so stupid

[Vitruvian-Man]

I feel for the children, that is rough. But in any case, I wouldn't bother man. Like you said in your intro: "She still insists on this is right, which for me logically it absolutely is."

That's the truth right their bro.

Your soon to be ex sounds like a very sketchy individual, and to be honest, I know it's harsh.... but it doesn't seem like she wants to be with you. Like you said: "She didn't seem too interested (in the ideas.)"

She's made a bad choice, and has rebounded to someone that is useless. Don't give her any f*cking dignity by asking for her back, or trying to seduce the idea of trying to repair your relationship. That's all bullsh*t. If I was standing beside you right now I'd knock you in the face just to clear your head bro :P.

She made the terrible choice, don't crawl back to her. Cut her loose, and proceed with life.

Best of luck man!.... keeping my fingers crossed that you hopefully had a pre-nup

-VM

[ReX357]

Man, I know it's hard but you have to let go. You should just be done with her. Whatever she does, it doesn't matter anymore as long as it doesn't affect you. She is not your problem to deal with.

[D3m3nt3d]

Man, I know it's hard but you have to let go. You should just be done with her. Whatever she does, it doesn't matter anymore as long as it doesn't affect you. She is not your problem to deal with.

That's the thing. I told her if you're going to date, find someone new. Don't make me feel like you got back with me because I did something for you he couldn't, then go back to him and his crowd. Until a few weeks ago, her and him were the only single ones in the crowd, so who does that pair up? Based off her stories the first month, there was no way she could have even seen him. But now, she says he is the only ex in that crowd she sees. There was another one, but he has a girlfriend right now.

[ReX357]

That's the thing. I told her if you're going to date, find someone new. Don't make me feel like you got back with me because I did something for you he couldn't, then go back to him and his crowd. Until a few weeks ago, her and him were the only single ones in the crowd, so who does that pair up? Based off her stories the first month, there was no way she could have even seen him. But now, she says he is the only ex in that crowd she sees. There was another one, but he has a girlfriend right now.

Still you have to cut your losses. Whether she used you or not is not the matter anymore. If you involving yourself emotionally in this, you're just gonna lose precious time.



It's over bro. She's dumb anyways and you are saying it yourself in the thread title. Unfortunately she's just another one that was good enough to hide her stupidity 'til marriage.

Why would you wanna be with a stupid wife?


Let go.


I don't suggest this, as I am crazy, but taking revenge always helped me feel even.

[D3m3nt3d]

Still you have to cut your losses. Whether she used you or not is not the matter anymore. If you involving yourself emotionally in this, you're just gonna lose precious time.



It's over bro. She's dumb anyways and you are saying it yourself in the thread title. Unfortunately she's just another one that was good enough to hide her stupidity 'til marriage.

Why would you wanna be with a stupid wife?


Let go.


I don't suggest this, as I am crazy, but taking revenge always helped me feel even.

It's not just my wife bro, it's my family. I miss that. I have everything I had invested into her and her career, then she gets it and runs right back to the ex. She may be denying it, but that's whats happening. This dude wanted her back the first time we split, and I didn't even see him as a threat since there relationship was so shitty. I mean it's principle I guess, and this guy has the nerve to call himself my friend?

[ReX357]

It's not just my wife bro, it's my family. I miss that. I have everything I had invested into her and her career, then she gets it and runs right back to the ex. She may be denying it, but that's whats happening. This dude wanted her back the first time we split, and I didn't even see him as a threat since there relationship was so shitty. I mean it's principle I guess, and this guy has the nerve to call himself my friend?

OK, so it's frustrating but you can't change it right? So you lost 5 years into this girl. If you keep doing this back and forth for another year, that's gonna be 6 years you lost.

You probably heard this expression: Once a thief, always a thief. Same applies to people. People don't change. Yes some of them do, but they do when they change their whole enrionment. If your wife changes, it's gonna be away from you. You're part of the environment that makes her act the way she does.

If she comes back, she's gonna act the same. Do you really want this woman around your kid? Do you really want her going in your back again when you guys hit another rough patch?

So really, no matter what, you really want her out of your life.

Right now you're like an investor that's holding on to a falling stock that tells himself "It'll go back up, it'll go back up". We all know how that story ends.

Cut your losses. You need to start thinking rationally again. You're thinking with your heart and it's making you wanna take the wrong choices.

Oh and that guy? Go ahead, punch a hole through his f*cking teeth. It'll make you feel better.

[D3m3nt3d]

I feel for the children, that is rough. But in any case, I wouldn't bother man. Like you said in your intro: "She still insists on this is right, which for me logically it absolutely is."

That's the truth right their bro.

Your soon to be ex sounds like a very sketchy individual, and to be honest, I know it's harsh.... but it doesn't seem like she wants to be with you. Like you said: "She didn't seem too interested (in the ideas.)"

She's made a bad choice, and has rebounded to someone that is useless. Don't give her any f*cking dignity by asking for her back, or trying to seduce the idea of trying to repair your relationship. That's all bullsh*t. If I was standing beside you right now I'd knock you in the face just to clear your head bro :P.

She made the terrible choice, don't crawl back to her. Cut her loose, and proceed with life.

Best of luck man!.... keeping my fingers crossed that you hopefully had a pre-nup

-VM

I dunno what it is about her that I'm having a hard time letting go. I guess it's because I know the way she used to look at me with all the love and admiration, and now I see just how awkward everything is between us. Which I'm sure its temporary, but when we split the first time, no matter what was said (bad shit), or what happened (even worse shit), things the couple of times we seen each other did not seem awkward at all. And we were only together 5 months before we split the first time. But when we seen each other, no matter what bothered me, or how bad I hurt - I kept a smiling joking manner around her. I was still flirtatious, would hug on her and everything. But when she left I would almost lose it....because she was so beautiful and I hated we were apart.

Take these days, I can't joke with her. The amount of hurt she has caused me and my self esteem is ridiculous. The last 6 months she really mindfvcked me to the point I don't even recognize myself anymore. I don't know if our marriage was real at all, or if I was being used or what. I don't know what happened with her and her ex the night he stayed, because I think I passed out. I know I was blacking out at the table that night (pills+alcohol). But then, I thought me and him were really cool, she dumped him, she seemed so happy with me, it was her I trusted. Now, not knowing if anything was real, I guess anything could have happened. I doubt very seriously with me and our child in the home something really happened, but you never know. There is always the back porch where pics of her and him were still being taken a half hour after I was gone. The mind racing is killing me.