Losing muscle... and the girl i like :(

[UberSteroids]

Go read the book
"The Game". Its not the best representation in the world of what you need to do, but it motivates a lot of guys to start having
self respect, and you need that motivation.

Is that the Black color cover book by Neil Strauss?

Also, my opinion is that if a woman can't handle your honesty and when you express your feelings for her, then she is not worth it.

Be yourself, respect yourself, never let anyone push you around and some day you will meet a girl that will appreciate your honesty and she will respect you as well.

Now, get to the gym!

Take care man!

[Bojangles69]

Is that the Black color cover book by Neil Strauss?

Also, my opinion is that if a woman can't handle your honesty and when you express your feelings for her, then she is not worth it.

Be yourself, respect yourself, never let anyone push you around and some day you will meet a girl that will appreciate your honesty and she will respect you as well.

Now, get to the gym!

Take care man!

I understand what you're saying 100%
But you also just think the logic stops at a certain point which is does not.
"The Game" teaches you exactly how to be yourself.

If you "be what you be, you will always get what you got". You don't grow up not learning how to cook do you?
What if someone told you to be yourself before you went to college? Should you always "just be" uneducated?
How about when you were a scrawny guy? If someone just told you to be yourself then?
The fact is almost NOONE really does that. "Yourself" is a time relevant word. You are never tommorow what you quite were today.
All the game teaches men is social intelligence, and it does it rather well imo. Way better than formal schooling or your own parents.

I learn how to grow, how to eat, how to be smart, how to adapt, how to evolve, my point being you always change into something better.
If you don't have self respect, and don't know when to leave a solution alone, the last thing you should do imo is "be yourself".

And yes its the black cover with gold letters. Its not as cheesy as it looks a very articulate and intelligable read.

[UberSteroids]

I understand what you're saying 100%
But you also just think the logic stops at a certain point which is does not.
"The Game" teaches you exactly how to be yourself.

If you "be what you be, you will always get what you got". You don't grow up not learning how to cook do you?
What if someone told you to be yourself before you went to college? Should you always "just be" uneducated?
How about when you were a scrawny guy? If someone just told you to be yourself then?
The fact is almost NOONE really does that. "Yourself" is a time relevant word. You are never tommorow what you quite were today.
All the game teaches men is social intelligence, and it does it rather well imo. Way better than formal schooling or your own parents.

I learn how to grow, how to eat, how to be smart, how to adapt, how to evolve, my point being you always change into something better.
If you don't have self respect, and don't know when to leave a solution alone, the last thing you should do imo is "be yourself".

And yes its the black cover with gold letters. Its not as cheesy as it looks a very articulate and intelligable read.

What I mean by being myself is that I am never going to change just so somebody else accepts me. Whatever path I chose is for myself alone. I didn't mean not to "evolve". I evolve everyday and improve myself based on the experience and my own choices, but I am not doing it to "fit" in somebody else's guidelines.

You can evolve all you want, yet still never be accepted by everyone.

So yes, to tell someone "be yourself" is a good advice. Be youreslf, follow your path and never force on any changes just to be accepted by a different group of people. This never works.

Some people will adapt to certain behavior and some will not. Could I be a player and pick up bunch of girls every week? I probably could. Will I do it? I most likely won't because I refuse to change my apporach and start playing "games" just to pick up some girls. I have my guidelines as well. I shut down more girls than most guys would F just because of the fact that they are there saying yes.

I am not a player and I never will be. Granted, I may meet one girl every six months doing it this way, but I prefer quality over quantity and I am totally fine with it.

Would it be nice to meet a quality woman every week? It would be fantastic! Of course most are trash or emotionally damaged, so that won't happen. Am I going to lower the bar or change the way I am to meet more of them? No damn way.

EDIT: I found that book brand new for 6.99 free shipping. I will give it a read.