PITMASTER....I was married for 6 years and it got to the point where I hadn't slept with her in 3 months. My wife and I went through some major ups and downs and thought of divorcing her broke me in half. You sound like your holding on to the memories and comfort of having had one another for so long. The memories never fade nor does the love for one another. It just changes......You would be doing yourself a favor which is most important and her as well. You will be able to take these experiences and lessons learned and apply it to a relationship that is not damaged. I can attest to life after a long meaningful relationship, I am happier now than I ever was in my marriage....Just did not see it till I was out Relationships are one of the most valuable things to me, I am a better man for having been in it and so will you. Take the time away, let her go as hard as it may seem to be...with in a month or two, you will be doing fine