well then go with "what they dont know cant hurt them"...my wife is the only family that knows the truth and to be honest she loves me being big and strong...she once told me i could never get too big for her so that was my green light to do as i please...and i do...i finnaly told my lifting partner the truth and ive known him for 20 yrs...i just dont feel that its smart to let peeps know cus you can never be too safe in this "game"...