[QUOTE=Times Roman;5844696]do you love your stepdaugher? or are you only making the effort to appease your awesome wife?

You need some alone time to think things through. My guess is you are using your step daughter to get to your wife?

You need to gain a genuine interest in your daughter. If you cannot figure out how to do that, then it is over.

I would also ask if the problem with love is the fact that she is his STEP daughter rather than his biological daughter. Is he really capable of making this sort of connection with a child who is not his? I know that is really harsh but it may be what's wrong because i am gong through the same scenerio. I've been with a wonderful woman for 1.5 years who has a father-less son who is now 3.5 years old. So far, her son and I have a "professional" relationship. We dont love up on eachother, he looks absolutely nothing like me, we dont hug etc and rarely even sit with eachother. I just cannot make the leap to "showing" this kid love, but, this kid ALWAYS has to be around me. Everything I do he has to do.

I guess it would be harder if it were a girl but my girlfriend knows the relationship i have with her son. I told her you won't see the sensitive side of me with her son, but i want to be the one who sets the example, the one he will ask for advice to because he knows i will tell the truth. She is very happy about this because this kid has nobody to look up to and use as an example of what to do and its sad.