Things never to tell your gf..

[lovbyts]

Ha! You sound grumpy. But, I agree that relationships need to be a joining of equals. Otherwise, incompatibility rears its head. I don't mind being generous to a girlfriend, but the relationship needs to be headed toward marriage for me to carry more than my own weight more than temporarily. Not that carrying more than my own weight is something I object too, but I want to be with someone smart, educated, self-reliant and willful which means a good mate is someone I don't need to "take care of" barring an unforeseen problem like illness. I have found a girl like that and married her. My plan is working. I do nice things, they are appreciated and reciprocated.

I never discuss previous sex partners with my wife. Don't want to tell her about mine, and don't want to hear about hers. Totally agree on that. Both of us will comment on someone being attractive - male or female - with no problems. She knows I look, but would never touch and she feels safe.



I have found that the second marriage goes better than the first. Heh. I worked hard to find someone compatible (rather than just attractive) the second time around and suffer from hardly any of the things above. Hardly any. A few. Why are they unreasonable about some things???

No not grumpy, I figured it would come across that way. Certain things do frustrate me about relationships especially when I see a guy getting sucked into the thinking he needs to shower a woman with gifts knowing that 90% of the time it will end bad or at least it will end then what was all that for? Also because with MOST women things are so one sided except when it comes to how they are treated. They wanted treated as equals, equal rights, equal pay except when they want treated SPECIAL, like a princess or??? also we/men are not allowed to violate any of their sacred girl stuff but with guys we can no longer have anything sacred, no male only clubs, male only sports or??? Women can also take off work anytime they want with the simple excuse of it's a girl thing. What's that? LOL

I have had some great relationships where things went both ways. One of my favorite birthday gifts was from GF who was making maybe $5 an hr back then and bought me a paint gun I had been wanting for painting cars that cost $120. Totally unexpected and a lot of money for her. She was like that.

WC Fields one said;Never try to impress a woman, because if you do she'll expect you to keep up the standard for the rest of your life.

International not limited to Filipino.....

Yeah I know this but they seem to like to escalate even simple things to a ridiculous point and then; only then will they start to talk or see reason. It's really mind boggling. LOL

"You never follow through. You said you would take out the trash. You didn't. You said you would load the dishwasher. You didn't. Remember when you said you were getting me an iPhone for Christmas?? You are all talk and no action! Just like my mother said!"

"Well, I would do all those things if I felt like I got one ounce of appreciation for the thing I do around here! But what is the use? You are mad if I take out the trash. You are mad if I don't take out the trash. Loading the dishwasher doesn't get me any closer to wanting to come home from work every day because it is like a pressure cooker in this house. Alway walking on eggshells trying to make you happy. But nothing makes you happy!"

Ha! Reminds me of the final year of my first marriage.

Reminds me of the first year of my final marriage.

You never follow through. You said you would xxx LOL OMG I have head that more than once. What's funny is many/most of the things are not what I said I WOULD do but suggestions, out loud thoughts of wanting to do this or that or just mentioning something. LOL Got to learn to keep the mouth shut....

[Knockout_Power]

WC Fields one said;Never try to impress a woman, because if you do she'll expect you to keep up the standard for the rest of your life.

this is so true, but the problem is that when you find a woman who is really special, you dont think of it as treating her "extra" nice, you just naturally gravitate towards wanting to make her happy. Whether its monetary gifts, cooking dinners, bubblebaths, unexpected full body massages etc... but yes, the problem does arise when they wonder why it stopped or the frequency drops off. They think we've changed, when really, its usually cause we are finding the extra effort seems unappreciated

[lovbyts]

this is so true, but the problem is that when you find a woman who is really special, you dont think of it as treating her "extra" nice, you just naturally gravitate towards wanting to make her happy. Whether its monetary gifts, cooking dinners, bubblebaths, unexpected full body massages etc... but yes, the problem does arise when they wonder why it stopped or the frequency drops off. They think we've changed, when really, its usually cause we are finding the extra effort seems unappreciated

Yup I know. It's a catch 22. Problem is our good intentions can destroy everything, ruin them many times. It's sort of with ultimate power comes ultimate corruption. We corrupt them without meaning to. It must be something hard wired in us guys. I know, I'm the same way and have to FORCE myself many times not to do certain things, buy this or that most of the time. I can relate to ALL and more of the things you mentioned. Aren't those scented fizzy bath balls fun in the bubble baths. LOL

Yeah we start thinking logically, seeing how much this is costing, how much we are over spending and dont think she will keep expecting more and like you say it's seen as something has changed in our feelings.

[SexySweetheart]

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