This series really helped me you can find it online if you look hard enough. I probably shouldn't post this because the shit in the series works and I dont want every tom dick and harry running the same plays as me but whatever.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8fraDFydK-8
5:50 - "Most guys go approach a woman and she rejects them and they're crushed and their emotions are all over the place. Is that being a man? You approached some girl and you got rejected and you're crushed is that a man? Most people will spend their entire lives running away from that emotion. They have bad associations towards it. They don't want it. And thats what they're about."
I think you put the P- on a pedestal already and thats ok bro I mean we all want to do that and have it end up good and we bang the girl. But really in my experience unless you are in the top 1% of the population that can model for Calvin Klein chasing girls is more like a Rambo movie. Because what does Rambo say - "to survive a war you gotta become war". Obviously dating has nothing to do with war but basically you have to go in like you are going to pursue as many targets as possible like a rediculous rambo movie where he smokes every mother in a 1 mile radius. The reality is I hope you get the girl and everything works out but you can't be crushed if it doesn't in fact you should already be planning your next move. In my prime I would go in with this mentality and women could smell it emanating off me - they could smell that if they didn't give me what I wanted I was going to move on to the next girl and she probably would. If you don't believe that and own it these "10's" are going to crush you under their boot because they have so many guys on their puss its not even funny.