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    Quote Originally Posted by dan68131 View Post
    I"m not say you and I are that far apart; but our generation is/was A LOT different than the current generation of 21 year olds. I live in a condo surrounded by bars. Every time I look outside, or go downstairs, I just shake my head with the crap I see. I pray that my daughter doesn't end up being like these girls.

    You being married to a girl whom loves you, respects you, and makes you the #1 priority in her life... is A LOT different than dating a 21 year old girl who's #1 agenda for the day is finding the right outfit to wear to the club. A few of my local friends (newer friends) are 22 years old. They live in the same building as me and at 22 years old- they have A LOT going for them. These guys are professional athletes and at 22 years old already have more money than most of us on the board combined. I've gone out with them a few times and what I saw was scary. It wasn't the guys- it was the girls. Again- I pray my daughter doesn't end up being like these girls.... praying hard.
    Hmmmm, have you stopped to consider what our parents thought of us children during the 80's ( sex, drugs and rock&roll ) lol. I wonder what parents thought of children growing up in the 60's ( peace and love).

    Every generation is worst than the last (when judged by the last)!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lunk1 View Post
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    Hmmmm, have you stopped to consider what our parents thought of us children during the 80's ( sex, drugs and rock&roll ) lol. I wonder what parents thought of children growing up in the 60's ( peace and love).

    Every generation is worst than the last (when judged by the last)!
    Yea, and not only is it scary wondering what's gonna happen next, but watching it unfold makes you wanna cringe. A lot of the major changes I've seen in dating (since I'm new to the market again) are strictly how people are brought up as well as how much times have changed. A perfect example is the first date I had after my divorce (and I broke up with my girlfriend that my wife hated). I took this girl out, it was a friend of a friend hooked us up date. Went to dinner- simple date. Met her at the restaurant, had a 4 hour dinner/drinks... the entire date went completely awesome... till the end (when the check came). The waiter brings the check and I grab it (as I believe should always occur)... this chick flips her shit. She refuses to let me pay the entire bill and wants to pay her half. It turns literally into an argument and what she says to me sets me back. She says "I don't want you to expect anything for buying dinner". I about fell out of my chair. What in the world is going on these days that you can't buy dinner without someone assuming that you expect them to put out (for a steak) is beyond me. I paid the bill- she left pissed off. No good bye, no call you later, nothing. 3 days later she text me apologizing.... I never responded. She was only 3 years younger than me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by dan68131 View Post
    Yea, and not only is it scary wondering what's gonna happen next, but watching it unfold makes you wanna cringe. A lot of the major changes I've seen in dating (since I'm new to the market again) are strictly how people are brought up as well as how much times have changed. A perfect example is the first date I had after my divorce (and I broke up with my girlfriend that my wife hated). I took this girl out, it was a friend of a friend hooked us up date. Went to dinner- simple date. Met her at the restaurant, had a 4 hour dinner/drinks... the entire date went completely awesome... till the end (when the check came). The waiter brings the check and I grab it (as I believe should always occur)... this chick flips her shit. She refuses to let me pay the entire bill and wants to pay her half. It turns literally into an argument and what she says to me sets me back. She says "I don't want you to expect anything for buying dinner". I about fell out of my chair. What in the world is going on these days that you can't buy dinner without someone assuming that you expect them to put out (for a steak) is beyond me. I paid the bill- she left pissed off. No good bye, no call you later, nothing. 3 days later she text me apologizing.... I never responded. She was only 3 years younger than me.
    If she would have gotten the Lobster then it woulda been on. The problems are stemming from the fact your not dating 18 and 19 y.o. girls. Your dating women who have most likely had some bad experiences and they feel a strong need to put up their gaurd and protect themselves (call it baggage if you like).

    Perhaps if you reflected, maybe the situation could have been handled diff. You could have agreed to allow her to pay her half (also remember todays women take great pride in being more independent)...I would have even offered to let her pay for mine LMAO!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lunk1 View Post
    If she would have gotten the Lobster then it woulda been on. The problems are stemming from the fact your not dating 18 and 19 y.o. girls. Your dating women who have most likely had some bad experiences and they feel a strong need to put up their gaurd and protect themselves (call it baggage if you like).

    Perhaps if you reflected, maybe the situation could have been handled diff. You could have agreed to allow her to pay her half (also remember todays women take great pride in being more independent)...I would have even offered to let her pay for mine LMAO!
    The bill itself doesn't matter. Honestly, had she addressed it differently; I probably would have let her pay her half if it made her feel more comfortable. That's not what happened. She flipped her shit and acted as if I literally said "now i'm gonna pay this bill so we need to go to your place and you need to get naked". She got all aggressive and started arguing with me as if I literally said that to her and the only thing I did was grab the damn check and throw my card in it. She offered to pay her half and I said "its okay I go it" and then she flipped out.

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