Sterling Institute Mens weekend

[redz]

I know im not a stepping stone but hey this is all risky business but what isnt with women?

[thegodfather]

I know im not a stepping stone but hey this is all risky business but what isnt with women?

Redz, you're a good dude and I've always enjoyed your posts...Now with that said, I've got to say man, I have NEVER quite understood the logic behind a guy who engages in a relationship with a female who cheats on her significant other, and then to turn around and say "Now THATS the girl I wanna be with!!"... I've been cheated on by girls I was madly in love with, planned on marrying, etc. I think it is largely hubris which leads guys to believe that you are "SPECIAL" and "DIFFERENT" from the guy shes cheating on. Guys will often rationalize this behavior in so many ways to make it acceptable, and to explain why THEIR relationship with the woman will actually work, why she would NEVER cheat on HIM , even after cheating on her significant other for months upon months, being deceitful, dishonest, disloyal, and severely wanton in moral fiber. To give you the 411 on the situation with the girl I planned to marry who cheated on me, she started a relationship with the guy she cheated on me with, and moved in with him, and 7 months into their relationship I ran into her, and f**ked her brains out that night. She didn't break up with him, she is still with him, but he has no idea about what happened. In the end though, I got my 'revenge', and karma served it up to him without me even having to try.

Cheating is not something like making a bad purchase by paying too much for something, and then learning from it and not doing it again. I have found that people who cheat usually are very insecure, or are lacking in some other quality that we usually would associate with a normal person. Often, people who cheat are compensating for something in their lives...Very rarely I have found, do men&women who cheat, do it as a one time thing, never to do it again. It is habitual behavior, often part of who that person is, and unlikely to change. Seasons change, the Earth revolves around the Sun, but people usually do not change.

A good friend of mine, who is several years older, had cheated on his wife six or seven times over their 12 year marriage. Finally, he had an affair with his bosses wife, she left her husband for my buddy, and my buddy left his wife for this woman. My buddy bought them a $700,000 house, furnished it, and took on her 2 children as his own. They eloped and got married in Vegas. After 8 months together, she started cheating on him, seeing other people, and messing with his head. She kept his new house he had bought for them, and he got divorced. It was a lesson learned the hard way. His original wife, got their house, and 4 of his 12 rental properties, at a value of $600,000 dollars, as well as having to buy her a brand new Mercedes G-wagon. What is even more funny, is that she ORIGINALLY did not want anything from him, they were going to sell their house, split the money and go their separate ways. However, my buddy could not resist taking his new piece out to the bar (prior to them tying the knot), and around friends who were also friends with his wife. When word reached her, instead of deciding to split amicably, she hired a divorce lawyer, and took him to the cleaners. It was an EXPENSIVE lesson, both financially and emotionally.

I wish you the best of luck Redz, and I hope you are happy. However, I don't support your decision (which I know you could give two shits about anyway Lol) because I do not condone cheating of any kind. I have been wronged too many times, and cheating is something which I am particularly averse to.