My GF wants fake boobs

[crazy mike]

Makes you a douche bag.

Maybe you didn't catch my admit ion to being ashamed and knowing it was bad, cruel, no loving and breaking my vows to the one I love. Knowing now that it was selfish and self-centered. I was honest enough to use myself as an example to how it is not a good thing and through my experience I know better. It is not a good thing. It is a bad thing. So being done and not changeable and in this I really need to be chastised. I appreciate that and I'll be ready to share the attitude. ...crazy mike

[DSM4Life]

Maybe you didn't catch my admit ion to being ashamed and knowing it was bad, cruel, no loving and breaking my vows to the one I love. Knowing now that it was selfish and self-centered. I was honest enough to use myself as an example to how it is not a good thing and through my experience I know better. It is not a good thing. It is a bad thing. So being done and not changeable and in this I really need to be chastised. I appreciate that and I'll be ready to share the attitude. ...crazy mike

Have you ever confessed it to her? How could you hold onto that your entire life/marriage? Looking into her eyes every day knowing you betrayed her love?

[lovbyts]

Have you ever confessed it to her? How could you hold onto that your entire life/marriage? Looking into her eyes every day knowing you betrayed her love?

That's not always a good idea and typically leads to more problems like divorce. 2 wrongs dont make a right and most of the time confession is more for the person who did the bad dead than for the person it was done to. Especially now there would be nothing to gain from admitting what happened. Like most women she probably knows or has strong suspicions and if she wanted to know she would be still asking if she ever did.

Instead of criticizing another admitted wrong doer lets try to save the current one from making a lifetime of mistakes.

[crazy mike]

That's not always a good idea and typically leads to more problems like divorce. 2 wrongs dont make a right and most of the time confession is more for the person who did the bad dead than for the person it was done to. Especially now there would be nothing to gain from admitting what happened. Like most women she probably knows or has strong suspicions and if she wanted to know she would be still asking if she ever did.

Instead of criticizing another admitted wrong doer lets try to save the current one from making a lifetime of mistakes.

Now that was precisely what I was saying but with the details and inner thoughts. Thanks lovbyts. ....crazy mike


NOW BACK TO THE THREAD

[DSM4Life]

That's not always a good idea and typically leads to more problems like divorce. 2 wrongs dont make a right and most of the time confession is more for the person who did the bad dead than for the person it was done to. Especially now there would be nothing to gain from admitting what happened. Like most women she probably knows or has strong suspicions and if she wanted to know she would be still asking if she ever did.

Instead of criticizing another admitted wrong doer lets try to save the current one from making a lifetime of mistakes.

1)Two wrong don't make a right? Are you trying to say that him telling him his wife he cheated is wrong? You say the person shouldn't say anything because it will just lead to more problems/hurt feelings. Maybe that should have been thought about before the person cheated.

2)There is nothing to be gained from being truthful to the mother of your children?


3)" Like most women she probably knows or has strong suspicions and if she wanted to know she would be still asking if she ever did. "

Dude are you serious? Wow.


I guess being a man and sticking by the person you decided to make a family with is an old school notion. It's easy, you want to **** other people then dont get married and make a family. And they say gay people shouldn't marry....



Sorry to OP. I have very strong feelings on the topic.

[crazy mike]

Have you ever confessed it to her? How could you hold onto that your entire life/marriage? Looking into her eyes every day knowing you betrayed her love?

I will expound for your sake. This is the truth, believe me or not this is what went down. I was in shape a competitor, in my prime 30's, not a bad looing guy. So when I was out the women picked me up. I never had to look. So for tow (2) years it was 3, 4, 5 women a week. Now that's fvcked up ( aids wasn't a problem at hand then ) This was cruel to my wife we agree. I thought I fell in love with a women and my wife found out. It was so sad, so bad and not her anger, her heart was broken ( self-centered/selfish , me) the kids suffered by not knowing but the way it was for a time. Now I think and I've been counseled long ago and as current as when I got sober 1yr 5 months ago to not tell her about ALL the others too spare her the pain. Some times we tell, and sometimes we have to discern what good could come of it. What could be gained to tell her about the numbers of them. The night before coming home to her. So should I continue to be selfish and think about my own piece of mind, or should I be kind and spare her heart again. See my shame, my learning experience might help Redz to think about the other side. His cross to bear, but maybe my testimony of how bad for everyone, as well, again for the people on the forum who don't want to hear, spare the details, they are less then commendable. So it would just kill her, it have broken us up, no purpose for her to be hurt. I'm getting redundant now so I'll close. I will advise that when you hear a heart full confession, don't rub the sh!t in the confessor's face. It is more fuel to an old fire and only serves to hurt. To those like you who judged me when you don't know all what took place 26 years ago, I say look in the mirror and judge yourself as to your MOTIVES as the comment "Makes you a douche bag" what was that for. Once a douche bag always a douche bag. Are you not forgiven for your sins, does your father keep telling you that you remain a douche and you will never redeem yourself, I think not. And I will tell you your comment served to be mean, nasty and cruel. I'm the receiver of the comment and that's where you took me. Ya think ?? ....crazy mike

PS this thread was not about me and I apologize to OP for running down this trail, Please accept. ...cm

[DSM4Life]

I will expound for your sake. This is the truth, believe me or not this is what went down. I was in shape a competitor, in my prime 30's, not a bad looing guy. So when I was out the women picked me up. I never had to look. So for tow (2) years it was 3, 4, 5 women a week. Now that's fvcked up ( aids wasn't a problem at hand then ) This was cruel to my wife we agree. I thought I fell in love with a women and my wife found out. It was so sad, so bad and not her anger, her heart was broken ( self-centered/selfish , me) the kids suffered by not knowing but the way it was for a time. Now I think and I've been counseled long ago and as current as when I got sober 1yr 5 months ago to not tell her about ALL the others too spare her the pain. Some times we tell, and sometimes we have to discern what good could come of it. What could be gained to tell her about the numbers of them. The night before coming home to her. So should I continue to be selfish and think about my own piece of mind, or should I be kind and spare her heart again. See my shame, my learning experience might help Redz to think about the other side. His cross to bear, but maybe my testimony of how bad for everyone, as well, again for the people on the forum who don't want to hear, spare the details, they are less then commendable. So it would just kill her, it have broken us up, no purpose for her to be hurt. I'm getting redundant now so I'll close. I will advise that when you hear a heart full confession, don't rub the sh!t in the confessor's face. It is more fuel to an old fire and only serves to hurt. To those like you who judged me when you don't know all what took place 26 years ago, I say look in the mirror and judge yourself as to your MOTIVES as the comment "Makes you a douche bag" what was that for. Once a douche bag always a douche bag. Are you not forgiven for your sins, does your father keep telling you that you remain a douche and you will never redeem yourself, I think not. And I will tell you your comment served to be mean, nasty and cruel. I'm the receiver of the comment and that's where you took me. Ya think ?? ....crazy mike

PS this thread was not about me and I apologize to OP for running down this trail, Please accept. ...cm

The douche bag comment was a bit much and I apologize for it. I just read so many threads on here about guys cheating on their wives and being proud about it. Makes me sick. Being in a LTR I've learned that keeping a relationship together is tough and takes dedication. Destroying one is easy.

You say you don't want to tell her the full truth because you don't want to further hurt her but maybe you are not telling her because you are that ashamed at what you did. You never said you told her but rather "she found out" which isn't the same. If she hadn't found out would you still be playing the same games behind her back? I just don't understand how you can say you love someone and cheat on them at the same time.

[crazy mike]

They say " Love Is Blind", just a saying . But if true redz might just be love blind. I thought that was my problem back then until I found out I'm..............just crazy mike

[JWP806]

They say " Love Is Blind", just a saying . But if true redz might just be love blind. I thought that was my problem back then until I found out I'm..............just crazy mike

I don't think that applies in any way to this situation. There are plenty of signs that this is bad news here and all of them point to "get the fvck out of there!"

[crazy mike]

I don't think that applies in any way to this situation. There are plenty of signs that this is bad news here and all of them point to "get the fvck out of there!"

I know that it was actually a joke. ...cm