NY Times article on women's libidos

[OnTheSauce]

This is what scares me so much about being married. If you lose passion and interest for each other, that seems miserable

[OdinsOtherSon]

This is what scares me so much about being married. If you lose passion and interest for each other, that seems miserable

Really loving someone and committing to being with them is just that...a commitment. I promise you, if you're with the same person long enough there will be days when you don't "feel" in love. But truly loving someone unconditionally has NOTHING to do with feelings, over the long term. It has everything to do with knowing that you want what's best for that person and are willing to stay with them "through better or worse." Love is NOT a feeling. It is a commitment. Do feelings help nurture and grow it? Absolutely. But you will not "feel" in love with your wife/husband/significant other everyday, all day. That's where your commitment must take over. Just because you don't feel the passion every time you cast your eyes upon your partner does not mean (or shouldn't mean) that you don't unconditionally love them anymore. If that's the case, you never really loved them to begin with...you loved the feeling they were able to generate for you.

My $0.02.....sorry for the rant.

Edit: And Patrick, that was not directed at you. Just used your statement as an example of what I was trying to say.