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    I've wasted so much time trying to make her want me....Time to cut her loose

    Some of you may remember I made a big mess with a married woman and things appeared to have finally cleared a hump but as I should have seen coming this woman is impossible to please. She left a millionaire lifestyle to be with me. She moved in back in July but now with the weather turning here in Canada she longed to go back to Florida to escape the cold. She went down there to get some stuff from her old place but now it seems like she may be there a while and won`t even say how long. She says shes depressed up here but the truth is shes an attention whore and loves being the center of attention at clubs and what not. She didn`t get much in her split because she was an idiot and refused to talk to a lawyer. She has pretty limited funds and now shes down there in Florida wasting it. I told her I'd get a good job to support her and I did. I have done everything I said I would but it's just not enough she goes from saying I want kids but I want to be able to afford them to I want a horse, I want to live in Florida. It really makes no sense and I think I`m spinning my wheels here. I've put myself through hell dealing with this for over a year now and I feel like I`m back at square one. For the past few days I've been trying to figure out what to say to her. It sucks really I wanted my life with her but this just keeps getting more crazy. She says she thinks she has a her period so this may be a good time to cut ties. The worse part is she left clothes and tons of her stuff at my house which I don`t think I should have to keep here. What a mess.

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    sorry to hear your suffering a little through this bro....good advice i just gave my brother i will give to you.....the best thing that bitch ever did for you was to leave.....sounds like she doesn't know what she wants and that is something you dont need in your life.....trust me i have been down this road

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    maybe you need to get out this weekend and go have some fun......you never know who you might run into

    good luck and go have some fun

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    Part of me has been waiting for this so that I could jump up and down saying "I told ya so" but in reality I feel bad for ya man. I hope you get it all squared away before it really costs you.

    Without even meeting here I can tell you what she is like and I bet my assessment is pretty damn close. Your seeing the tip of the ice burg. Time to sail on instead of ending up like the Titanic man. Best of luck!!

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    maybe you need to get out this weekend and go have some fun......you never know who you might run into

    good luck and go have some fun
    Yeah I've been thinking about that. I just don`t get it though I mean she left a millionaire and now she's going to be off on her own with $20,000 to her name. She won`t ever work shes in dream land.

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    Part of me has been waiting for this so that I could jump up and down saying "I told ya so" but in reality I feel bad for ya man. I hope you get it all squared away before it really costs you.

    Without even meeting here I can tell you what she is like and I bet my assessment is pretty damn close. Your seeing the tip of the ice burg. Time to sail on instead of ending up like the Titanic man. Best of luck!!
    Yeah I mean the good thing is my life is in the best shape its been in for ages. Career wise, physically and mentally I`m sound it's really just this relationship now that's not good for me. I even have some HGH on the way lol.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lunk1 View Post
    "I told ya so"
    Damn Lunk, you beat me to it

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    yeah man i know you care about her but the best thing you can do is let her figure it out on her own.....in the man while you cant keep thinking about it......daddy always has to keep himself happy especially after a long week of work and all the BS you've been dealing with.....even just getting out with some friends for a night will help

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    Quote Originally Posted by redz View Post
    Yeah I mean the good thing is my life is in the best shape its been in for ages. Career wise, physically and mentally I`m sound it's really just this relationship now that's not good for me. I even have some HGH on the way lol.
    It's difficult to fix broken toys buddy.

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    Yeah I think I'm going back to younger chicks.

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    Quote Originally Posted by redz View Post
    Yeah I think I'm going back to younger chicks.
    Bingo! We have a winner!
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    25 and younger, women turn 26 and something clicks in their heads and a horrid toxin is released making them weird!

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    Sorry to hear the news. Keep your head up man. Sounds like your already going in the right direction.

    I will be in Canada with friends, enjoying the cold weather next week.

    cheers!

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    25 and younger, women turn 26 and something clicks in their heads and a horrid toxin is released making them weird!
    That should be easy, this is a student city.

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    wasnt she pregnant??

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    Quote Originally Posted by --->>405<<--- View Post
    wasnt she pregnant??
    Lost it remember. That's why I said that all of Redz threads on the subject should be put together like a big story book lol.

    Sorry Redz..I still feel bad for ya

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    Quote Originally Posted by mockery View Post
    25 and younger, women turn 26 and something clicks in their heads and a horrid toxin is released making them weird!
    u must be crazy.....

    my friend is 38 and dating a 22 year old...... theyre so immature. hen shes mad she'll get on the phone and pretend shes making these grand plans at a club.

    26-34 is an ideal range imo.....

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    Hey redz your life sounds like it would a good hollywood movie mate so more interesting than mine

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    Hope everything works out for you Redz.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lunk1 View Post
    Lost it remember. That's why I said that all of Redz threads on the subject should be put together like a big story book lol.

    Sorry Redz..I still feel bad for ya
    mustve missed that.. sorry to hear.. that be the case id definitely roll out. shes probably in florida trying to find her another millionaire knowing she fvcked up, or shes trying to work things out with her ex.. one of the 2 id betcha..

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    Quote Originally Posted by Euroholic View Post
    Hey redz your life sounds like it would a good hollywood movie mate so more interesting than mine
    No it would make a boring movie because its to predictably. Just check the other thread, most all of us called it to a T.

    Sorry you are having to go through what a lot of us have and tried to warn you about. I expect there to be a recovery phase anf then it sill get worse again probably at least 2x.

    Ps. Good to hear she did not get much in the divorce. She didn't deserve any IMHO. Remember you only know her side of the story but most of us can see it clearly for what it is.
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    shes probably in florida trying to find her another millionaire knowing she fvcked up,
    I know, I`m thinking of dropping her tonight its going to be on the phone but what else can I do?

    Sorry you are having to go through what a lot of us have and tried to warn you about. I expect there to be a recovery phase anf then it sill get worse again probably at least 2x.

    Ps. Good to hear she did not get much in the divorce. She didn't deserve any IMHO. Remember you only know her side of the story but most of us can see it clearly for what it is.
    I`m not going to let it eat at me, I just want her stuff gone. I already through her tooth brush and some other shit out lol.

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    It is quite possible she left her belongings with u so she had an excuse to come back after she runs out of cash and thru other me. Pack her stuff in a box and ship to her ASAP. You may find yourself weaker to her charms in a few months and be worst off a year from now. Best to you.

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    It'd cost a fortune to ship it down to Florida, I`ll just tell her she has 2 weeks to arrange something then its going in the garbage.

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    Quote Originally Posted by redz View Post
    It'd cost a fortune to ship it down to Florida, I`ll just tell her she has 2 weeks to arrange something then its going in the garbage.
    The money spent shipping her shyt may be the least this thing could have cost you. She is playing everyone involved, including you. She left the shyt on purpose.

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    How long can she be out of country? I don't know Canada laws but just play along. She's in Florida and lets say she doesn't have dual citizenship. So she has an established timeframe to find herself another millionaire. There are plenty in Florida, she has to land one and it seems she knows how to do that. If she doesn't, back she comes to Canada and the few possessions she has....she's not stupid.

    Don't

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    Quote Originally Posted by redz View Post
    It'd cost a fortune to ship it down to Florida, I`ll just tell her she has 2 weeks to arrange something then its going in the garbage.
    It'd be money well spent, if she comes back there's no telling how things would play out.

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    She avoided me on her phone pretty much all day, I sent her an email. I know it's a shitty way to get things done but I told her I'm done waiting and not playing her games anymore.

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    Man you're prolly better off without her. Hope everything works out for you

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    Quote Originally Posted by redz View Post
    It'd cost a fortune to ship it down to Florida, I`ll just tell her she has 2 weeks to arrange something then its going in the garbage.
    You may be able to ship collect. Or tell her to open a UPS account and give you the number.

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    I can remember this love story just starting right before I left the board. Now Im back and its coming to an end. The only thing I can remember is that in the start everyone telling you to watch yourself. I hope now you listen to what some of the guys told you right off the bat.

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    Quote Originally Posted by capetown View Post
    I can remember this love story just starting right before I left the board. Now Im back and its coming to an end. The only thing I can remember is that in the start everyone telling you to watch yourself. I hope now you listen to what some of the guys told you right off the bat.
    No, everyone said it was doomed from the beginning and she was going to just play him like she did her husband.

    Last week I was thinking we needed an update from Redz and the serpent should be showing her true colors by now.

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    Im sorry you had to endure this Redz...Despite us all telling you about the train wreck we could see coming, like a bad movie, I know personally how hard it is to listen to advice from friends, and to constantly justify to yourself how they're wrong, they don't know her like you do, she makes you feel __________, etc, and so on. I've been there, many of us have, but its our obligation to try our hardest to save you from yourself essentially. Anyway, life is about learning, so take it as a lesson learned and move on with your life, which it sounds like you're well on your way to doing, now that you've seen the light.

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    There's 3 sides to every story.. your side, their side and the truth. I don't think she knows what she wants and divorce is a messy and complicated thing. Very rare is it crystal clear. It's not you, it's her. Women are more complex than you think.

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    Women are more complex than you think.
    They aren`t complex they are irrational and emotional this making it impossible to understand.

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    Quote Originally Posted by trigger happy View Post
    dicks and hearts were a bad idea in the same body
    hahahaha, that made me laugh!!!

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