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2Sox
Been real busy for a few days and just came upon this very interesting and rather enlightening thread. I've got to say that some of you guys are really funny. I mean that in a good way. Kel, your one (or two) liners always make me smile.
Kel, your post about dopamine's effect at the beginning of TRT was a revelation to me. Thank you for that. And Low T's follow up was extremely important. I always wondered where the intensity of my libido had gone after the first few months of TRT. Now I understand that my body is approaching balance - as all of ours must.
And Buzz, I think you'll see that after awhile, being a sex object is no fun at all. I know because I've been there. We may THINK we're reaping the benefits, but we're deluding ourselves. Like "Wow, look at all the FBs I have!" But the kickback is a deep feeling of loneliness and a bitter resignation that we'll never be known deeply by anyone. Conquest never deeply satisfies the self. A man and a woman who use each other this way - no matter how much screaming, and bed rattling passion - can never respect each other. It's not surprising that after times like this, many women have seen men as brutes and men have seen women as unworthy of respect - or worse. We can forget that we are with thinking, feeling individuals with hopes and dreams - like our own. And in so doing, each time we lose a little bit of our humanity. And whether we admit it to ourselves or not, we walk around with a deep, haunting shame. And then we get to think that this is all there is because we've spent so much time living like this. A kind of numbness sets in. We become our own worst enemies. I'd never want to go back to that life.
I've seen that the alternative is KNOWING a woman - in every sense. Start with her mind and the body will follow. This makes for true excitement and new adventures into the unknown - every day. I'm still learning and finding my way but I've found freshness and newness and no end to surprises - and indescribable passion. And this with a woman I have been with for over thirty years.
You all know me well enough to understand that when I write in this way I'm not singling out any one individual. Merely, a poster has presented some ideas on which I thought it might be useful to comment and to offer my insight, which has come from my own hard learned lessons and experience. I sincerely hope it can be of benefit.
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