How difficult is it to go thru with a divorce and how do you know you're ready?

[Darkness]

We had a long fight/talk today and we're going to try working things out. We had an amazing relationship for many many years we just need to try to get back to where we were. With a lot of effort and changes we hope it will work. We both also agreed that if we continue to fight then it's simply time to move on. The other thing is we don't fight in front of our son. We don't want him being in that type of environment.

Best thing you can do. Be the better one and recommend to her that you both seek some counseling. It will show her initiative on your part as well. I dont know what the fights are about but if you had a great relationship and things went south normally its an affair or financials. These are normally terminal cases, if its not that, then you guys can work it out. Make an effort and motivate her to do the same. Change things around a little bit. Bring the romance back, spontaneous flowers and something nice always goes far.

Good luck buddy.

[PistolPete33]

Best thing you can do. Be the better one and recommend to her that you both seek some counseling. It will show her initiative on your part as well. I dont know what the fights are about but if you had a great relationship and things went south normally its an affair or financials. These are normally terminal cases, if its not that, then you guys can work it out. Make an effort and motivate her to do the same. Change things around a little bit. Bring the romance back, spontaneous flowers and something nice always goes far.

Good luck buddy.

Great reply. Thanks for the info. It isn't an affair on either side but financially we've hit some tough times. I own my own business and we've been having some major ups and downs which has impacted us greatly. We're talking $6K per month swings take home per month so there is a lot of stress there. We agreed to really focus on our relationship and work towards getting the business more stable so we're not having financial issues.