Marriage in the 21st century

[Brett N]

Evolve or devolve. Guess it all depends on how you look at it.

I think recent history shows that all the divorce, unwed mothers, deadbeat dads and all the other products of today's society is not improving society to say the least.

Not all single parents are bad, I just can never imagine the best single parent being as good as 2 average to above average married parents.

[Hazard]

Evolve or devolve. Guess it all depends on how you look at it. I think recent history shows that all the divorce, unwed mothers, deadbeat dads and all the other products of today's society is not improving society to say the least. Not all single parents are bad, I just can never imagine the best single parent being as good as 2 average to above average married parents.

I would rather a child be with one parent than a set of married parents in which one of them abuses drugs or alcohol. A single parent can do damned good job at raising a child.... I did it with mine..... And as a father. I'm now engaged and have since had another child so I guess the household is "complete" again but it's far better to remove the negatives for the child than it is to keep them just so they have both parents.

[bloodchoke]

I would rather a child be with one parent than a set of married parents in which one of them abuses drugs or alcohol. A single parent can do damned good job at raising a child.... I did it with mine..... And as a father. I'm now engaged and have since had another child so I guess the household is "complete" again but it's far better to remove the negatives for the child than it is to keep them just so they have both parents.

Props to you. Straight-up.

[Hazard]

Props to you. Straight-up.

you do what you have to do as a parent. A lot of people give me respect for raising a little girl from 2 weeks old to almost 4 years old now but I don't see it that way. It was hard.... But she is my responsibility. She's MY daughter..... No one else's. It was up to me to take care of her. I just did what any good father would have done.

[bloodchoke]

I think recent history shows that all the divorce, unwed mothers, deadbeat dads and all the other products of today's society is not improving society to say the least.

I don't know that I agree about the "unwed" part, but I'll certainly give you that, since women typically earn less than men, a single mother with no support of from a father is at a disadvantage, financially (at least) speaking. When you factor in that minority women typically earn less than white women, the disadvantage for minority communities becomes even greater. I'm not trying to start a semantics war, or anything, I just don't see the value of being a "married couple" vs being an unmarried, actively involved set of parents.

I mostly find it interesting that we humans seem to look for a steady-state for society operate in when, really, we're always in some state of ebb and flow. Just like there are times when it's appropriate to tax the wealthy; there are times that it is appropriate to tax the middle class. There are times to think in the macro and there are times to think in the micro. IMO, we all get in a huff over this stuff because there are SEVEN BILLION of us bumping around out of sync and who's right and who's wrong depends completely on which of the seven billion perspectives you're taking; which means that no one and everyone is both right and wrong.

^^(I can't tell if I sound pretentious or sound like a stoner..)