The worst thing about using gear.

[Hughinn]

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[wango]

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Excellent point, you have a way with words.

[Hughinn]

Excellent point, you have a way with words.

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[wango]

I felt sorta compelled to explain my B team. So nobody thought I was a lying bastard or a manwhore. I don't cheat on my wife.

To sum it up. My B team is a friend of ours, I'll call her Amy. When her and my wife were both 19 and pregnant. Amy went to the doctor for a check up. Her husband at the time and she had only been married about a year. After the check up , Amy came out and her husband never picked her up. She used a pay phone, because nobody had cell phones back then to call my wife, her Best friend. When they got back to her apartment, they found out Amy's husband (who was 30 at the time. I had just turned 21) had cleaned the place out and left her with nothing but a mattress on the floor and 5 months pregnant.

Amy got past it. She never remarried and raised her son by herself with her mother and me and my wife. Got herself a degree from the community college and did pretty well.

But about a year after her son was born, and our first who was a daughter Amy and my wife were visiting and drinking daquiry drinks while I was grilling supper. I had to get up early for work the next morning so after supper, I made them a nice strong picture of margaritas , rolled them up a nice fat J and went to bed.

I found out later the two women were talking and Amy told my wife she hadn't had sex in more than six months. She'd had a few bad dating experiences and was done. I don't know if it was the booze or what, but my wife told her to go crawl in bed with me because I have an insanely high sex drive and was always ready , and told her it would be okay.

Well she did. I looked up when I woke and seen Amy naked crawling under the blankets and my wife standing at the door. She closed the door and it happened.

There was some fussing and stuff in the aftermath. And few hard discussions on everyone's part. Amy was very apologetic to my wife and explained it was difficult as a single woman because the men she gets with would often think because she had sex with them, they could suddenly show up at her place at odd hours, or call her work. Be mean to her son etc. So when my wife offered her me, with no strings, she took the offer (my wife is a very attractive woman, more attractive than Amy and when we were all, in school , I was well out of Amy's league, and we all knew it) I explained that when I seen her at the door and closed it, I thought that's what she wanted. There was alot if fussing and carrying on for awhile. But eventually it all calmed down.

After some time went by, one day my wife was on the phone when I got off work working a swing shift. About 10pm. She hung up the phone and told me to go see Amy. When I got to Amy's house she was very distressed. She had just went through a breakup and was really emotional. I basically held her while she cried for the longest time. I reassured her that she was a beautiful, very worthy woman, and She's been my friend for years at this point. Somehow through all of this, we had sex again. Then I held her till she fell asleep and went home.

Sex for me, is all about feeling the woman be pleasuresd. If I have to work hard, really sweat and concentrate but I get to feel her tremble and see her eyes roll back her head then it may not necessarily even be pleasurable for me at the time, but later on I will get alot of pleasure and satisfaction from it, or remembering it,. So it was and is wih them both.

I confessed the sex immediately to Dolly, who said she figured it might go that way. But seemed more worried about her friends emotional state.

Since then, more than 20 years ago, I'm just sort of allowed to take care of her when she needs it. And it somewhat goes both ways. But way more hers than mine. Amy has some specific tastes and preferences. A little different than most. So I basically just give her what she wants.

Over the years she'll have a serious boyfriend or something for awhile and I get no request.

Amy is my wife's longtime best friend that I just sort of get to help out when needed. And occasionally get to make a request of my own. She's a busy professional type with not alot of time for a social life, she's the boss at her job and complete discretion is absolutely required so... Whatever.

But, I'm not whoring around. My wife, Dolly is clear that she has to be asked prior to any visit from me, so she knows where I am. And that it's strictly at her discretion. But there's also been times when I'm fiendish and horny as a mfer, like I said, my sex drive is ridiculous high and so, at times, she has sent me to Amy.

I know some of y'all will judge. But whatever. I'm not a lying cheating bastard. It's complicated. So whatever, f-all that want to judge me.

That is a great story & your wife is a great friend to Amy. I don’t see anything negative to judge personally.

If we do more good than bad, if we are there for family and friends and we don’t go out of our way to harm others, well that’s good enough in my book.

I’ve always compartmentalized pure sex and pure love. It’s an odd approach I know, but it’s kept me sane (so I think, lol). I liked your other thread as well and as I mentioned, we are both blessed to be married to truly incredible woman.

[Hughinn]

That is a great story & your wife is a great friend to Amy. I don’t see anything negative to judge personally.

If we do more good than bad, if we are there for family and friends and we don’t go out of our way to harm others, well that’s good enough in my book.

I’ve always compartmentalized pure sex and pure love. It’s an odd approach I know, but it’s kept me sane (so I think, lol). I liked your other thread as well and as I mentioned, we are both blessed to be married to truly incredible woman.

Thanks wango. That means a lot to me.

Amy is kinda fucked up in the head. Nobody really knows outside of just a few a people.

When she was 14, she amd her sister got raped by her step father who served 18 years in prison for it.

She's gone through a lot of counseling and stuff over the years and it's helped her alot. But I think that's why she struggles to have a healthy relationship, even over 40, she never has. She's got a successful business and is a hard-working very driven person. Got a great kind heart and has been a great friend to my wife for many, many years. They sort of are polar opposite people in a way, as dolly is a stay at home mother and never worked a job in her life. They grew up together and I think enjoy eachothers lives in a way. Her and her son and us are like family to eachother.

Amy's got some different kinks and tastes though. It's taken me alot of time to learn what she needs and how to provide it. I don't know man. It is what it is. Consequently I've got my son he's 17 and Amy's, who is now 22, at my house tonight. We've got a catfish hole were heading out to tomorrow. Just us dudes. I'm taking all the kids off the ladies hands for mothers day. My son in law, the guy married to my oldest daughter is supposed to meet us here at 5am with the bait amd beer cooler and thier son, who just turned 5. So peace out.

Thanks for understanding

[wango]

Thanks wango. That means a lot to me.

Amy is kinda fucked up in the head. Nobody really knows outside of just a few a people.

When she was 14, she amd her sister got raped by her step father who served 18 years in prison for it.

She's gone through a lot of counseling and stuff over the years and it's helped her alot. But I think that's why she struggles to have a healthy relationship, even over 40, she never has. She's got a successful business and is a hard-working very driven person. Got a great kind heart and has been a great friend to my wife for many, many years. They sort of are polar opposite people in a way, as dolly is a stay at home mother and never worked a job in her life. They grew up together and I think enjoy eachothers lives in a way. Her and her son and us are like family to eachother.

Amy's got some different kinks and tastes though. It's taken me alot of time to learn what she needs and how to provide it. I don't know man. It is what it is. Consequently I've got my son he's 17 and Amy's, who is now 22, at my house tonight. We've got a catfish hole were heading out to tomorrow. Just us dudes. I'm taking all the kids off the ladies hands for mothers day. My son in law, the guy married to my oldest daughter is supposed to meet us here at 5am with the bait amd beer cooler and thier son, who just turned 5. So peace out.

Thanks for understanding

There is absolutely nothing to thank me for Hughinn. It’s a pleasure, you’re a good man. Have a GREAT time and if you could, take some pics of the catfish hole and some of your catches please. Peace to you!

[Fluidic Kimbo]

I'm lucky enough to have a B team.

With consent of my wife, I have outside assistance .

This must be an American thing, because as a European, I just don't get it. I'm not saying that this never happens in Europe, but it certainly doesn't occur in people who are as well-rounded in other mental aspects as Hughinn and Prango. Perhaps it's a facet of the American dream.

Admittedly, romantic love is an old relic in my memory... I can remember being entirely consumed with another person -- and occasionally I'm reminded of the feeling when a pretty girl steps close to me -- but from what I can recall of my past emotional embellishments, I never would have been able to touch another woman. I was actually a little dismayed one time when my ex tried to set it up without telling me (she was trying to drag her female friend back to our room without asking me first and I wasn't happy about it).

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Excellent point, you have a way with words.

I've never been one to read between the lines but I heard him loud and clear this time. How eloquent.