Problems with my girl

[Knockout_Power]

Not to be harsh, but:

She's broken. Get a new one.

if she aint broke... um, break her.

[wharton]

Not to be harsh, but:

She's broken. Get a new one.

HAHAHAAA Funny shit but its true. Just come onto her if she turns away stand up walk to the bathroom, crack one off and then go back to bed and go to sleep, if she asks just tell her she will get the picture. This actually works..

[redz]

I thought there was something wrong with my wife because she just didnt want it much than I realized it was just because it's too hot lately and we don`t have air conditioning, it's been like 100 degrees all week and the first time it was cooler she jumped on top of me before I woke up. Now I will be getting air conditioning asap.

[Knockout_Power]

I thought there was something wrong with my wife because she just didnt want it much than I realized it was just because it's too hot lately and we don`t have air conditioning, it's been like 100 degrees all week and the first time it was cooler she jumped on top of me before I woke up. Now I will be getting air conditioning asap.

good call, and a freezer full of ice cubes bedside.

[Noles12]

This is a long thread and im probably going to read it all but I wanted to respond really quickly while I had some thoughts together.

I believe your girl is being unfaithful too.

I just don't believe that young red blooded american girls stop wanting to have sex spontaneously. If she isn't cheating on you physically yet she is cheating on you in her mind aka trying to get on another guy that she seems to just have an innocent relationship with.

I don't know why women are weak like this. Actually i guess guys are bigger assholes. But the truth is, they will do stuff like stay with a guy because "it'd be a big pain to move out right now" and shit like that. I have had two long term relationships. The first was almost 7 years and the girl cheated on me but I deserved it because I was an asshole and trying to get on other girls and she found out about it. She was exactly the way you describe with not wanting to have sex and wanting it to be done as quick as possible etc. The second time I made the mistake of dating a whore. I mean someone who was such a whore that I took her to meet my parents and my dad said and I quote "I can't believe you brought trash like that to my house" (she had big tits, abs, nice body and was a great lay)

Im not telling you for sure your girl is cheating on you, but basically.. the best case scenario is that shit i said about shes already cheating on you in her mind. She may be physically cheating on you. And this is coming from someone whos been cheated on.

When it comes to this, I have been cheated on before and this just doesnt show those signs. I mean if you met this girl she thinks that talking to other people can be considered cheating and there is no way she can keep anything from me. She just wouldnt be able to do it.

Right now i think there are just a lot of other issues that are making her like this. Im not going to rule out anything completely. I just really couldnt see that being the issue.

I mean i just dont get it. Last night i see her for the first time in a week and she has a friend in town and we all go out to get drinks. We go back to the apartment and her and the friend are drunk. I figure since she has 2 other beds in the apartment (roommates out of town) and another friend and a roommate sleeping in one bed, that the friend will just go sleep in one open bed and i will stay with my girlfriend.

Nope of course not. She tells me that she would feel bad to make her friend sleep alone in another room. I was like are you kidding me. Then she says im not gonna be your booty call or something like that. So i just leave and go home and let her sleep with the friend.

It just seems like something else is popping up everyday with this.

I thought there was something wrong with my wife because she just didnt want it much than I realized it was just because it's too hot lately and we don`t have air conditioning, it's been like 100 degrees all week and the first time it was cooler she jumped on top of me before I woke up. Now I will be getting air conditioning asap.

This was somewhat of an excuse from her too. I bulked up and she tells me once that she doesnt want to do anything because i get too hot and sweat too easy. I just feel like it is another excuse for her to get out of it

[ReX357]

When it comes to this, I have been cheated on before and this just doesnt show those signs. I mean if you met this girl she thinks that talking to other people can be considered cheating and there is no way she can keep anything from me. She just wouldnt be able to do it.

Right now i think there are just a lot of other issues that are making her like this. Im not going to rule out anything completely. I just really couldnt see that being the issue.

I mean i just dont get it. Last night i see her for the first time in a week and she has a friend in town and we all go out to get drinks. We go back to the apartment and her and the friend are drunk. I figure since she has 2 other beds in the apartment (roommates out of town) and another friend and a roommate sleeping in one bed, that the friend will just go sleep in one open bed and i will stay with my girlfriend.

Nope of course not. She tells me that she would feel bad to make her friend sleep alone in another room. I was like are you kidding me. Then she says im not gonna be your booty call or something like that. So i just leave and go home and let her sleep with the friend.

It just seems like something else is popping up everyday with this.



This was somewhat of an excuse from her too. I bulked up and she tells me once that she doesnt want to do anything because i get too hot and sweat too easy. I just feel like it is another excuse for her to get out of it

Please quit this relationship right away. Cut your losses. Don't get mad. Tell her it's over. Do not explain yourself. Explaining yourself will only give her an opportunity to argue. Just say it's time to move on.

I can tell you right away it is over. She has no respect for you at this point.

She will not change. The frequency of sex won't ever go back up again. You will be miserable for as long as you are with her.

Please take my advice. It's hard to believe, but you're only hanging on to the possibility that it will be back to how it was when you met her.

You don't love the person you are with right now, you love the person you met. That person is long gone and the cycle you are in right now is irreversible.

At this point, you are in a dominated position in the relationship and you cannot reverse it.

[Standby]

dude this kind of thing happened to me man, eventually it came out she told me she didnt feel the "spark" anymore then she went and fvcked some dude while we were trying to "work" things out. good luck to you man. i never had sex either and i said fvck it i love this girl if she isnt into sex then i dont need it either. then like i said she fvcked another dude and told me they "clicked". good luck to you bro ill tell you what i had said to me, by the girls mom. youve got an old soul and its hard to find that these days. dont waste it man

[cherrydrpepper]

I think about that a lot lately.

That old school is on its way out. People like my dad and his generation that really stood up for values or back before his time the WWII crew. They are on their way out. I worry about the world going to shit after they're gone.

[Hoggage_54]

dump her

[redz]

This was somewhat of an excuse from her too. I bulked up and she tells me once that she doesnt want to do anything because i get too hot and sweat too easy. I just feel like it is another excuse for her to get out of it

Get her to go on top that should work, but at some point you have to take a stand with woman or else it will only get worse.

[supersize me]

The power in a relationship lies with the person who cares less.

[lovbyts]

The power in a relationship lies with the person who cares less.

In Ghosts of Girlfriends Past; Connor Mead: Someone once told me that the power in all relationships lies with whoever cares less.

[Knockout_Power]

In Ghosts of Girlfriends Past; Connor Mead: Someone once told me that the power in all relationships lies with whoever cares less.

ouch, things became a whole lot clearer after reading this...

[Standby]

ouch, things became a whole lot clearer after reading this...

after that movie i lived by this it worked 100%

[supersize me]

You are correct

[Noles12]

I pretty much gave her an ultimatum today. After a night of her going out with the friends in town again, it took one of the friends to get her to even stay in the same bed as me. The friend was like why are you not gonna sleep with your boyfriend, she said if it was her she would. And of course my gf comes up with some excuse of how she would feel bad to leave the friend alone. the friend called her an idiot and said she didnt want to sleep in the same bed as her (glad someone is on my side).

So we go to the room and she just goes straight to sleep. This is after nothing sexual in weeks and not seeing each other for a week. She says im tired and just passes out. So i decide not to get mad and go to put my arm around her and she ges its too hot then rolls over. So it wasnt any better than sleeping alone for me.

The ultimatum came down to either she starts acting like she wants me and cares about me or im gone. She got really upset and told me all these excuse for why but i said i dont care about the excuses. Im done with excuses. Its either show the affection or im leaving.

Its down to the last chance for her. She will be out of town for another week visiting her dad up north so i guess we will see how it goes. This is just really starting to be too much for me and its tearing me up to feel this way about someone i care for this much

[HitIt]

to be blunt, drop her ass. let her be someone else's problem. life is too short to be in your situation. find happiness and refuse to live in uncertaincy. maybe she enjoys being someone's problem. i hate those kind of people.

try to stay on the nice guy side of the fine line between nice guy and sucker...

[Hoggage_54]

post some pics of her

[Noles12]

post some pics of her

Too much to lose right now to do that. I know too many people that are on here that dont know about me and i need to keep it that way for various reasons

[Noles12]

I will say though i wouldnt be trying this hard for an ugly chick. She is extremely hot with a killer body

[HitIt]

so find another hottie without a mental condition...you sound like this is some kind of a business deal you're uncertain about

[Noles12]

so find another hottie without a mental condition...you sound like this is some kind of a business deal you're uncertain about

Its not easy to throw the last couple of years of your life and someone you care about to the curb without trying first

[HitIt]

Its not easy to throw the last couple of years of your life and someone you care about to the curb without trying first

i know, and i don't mean to be insensitive, but i've been there, and looking back i see what a waste of my time it was to try to keep it alive with someone who was content being a pain in the ass...

but, having been there, i know that two years ain't much, and it could end up being a 3 year waste for you instead of 2...good luck either way, bud.

[Noles12]

i know, and i don't mean to be insensitive, but i've been there, and looking back i see what a waste of my time it was to try with someone who is content being a pain in the ass...

but, having been there, i know that two years ain't much, and it could end up being a 3 year waste for you instead of two...good luck either way, bud.

thanks and i know what you are saying. that is why i am to the point of either it changes by the next time i see her or im out

[lovbyts]

Its not easy to throw the last couple of years of your life and someone you care about to the curb without trying first

No but it's a lot easier to do it now than waste another year or even 6 months. It's done dude. Dump her. She has made her choice and you are only going to be miserable.

Dump her before she dumps you. Find your balls and take ownership. Stop letting the woman be in a charge because she has the vagina. Make her realize you dont/wont put up with that sh*t and mean it.

NO ultimatums. They dont work and you are wasting time. Yes it sucks, yes it hurts but the sooner you take care of it and it's on your terms the better you will fee.

No, NO next time. finish it or you will always be saying NEXT time and you will become a puss saying or this or that was different. Dude life is to short. Man up. Sorry but if I was your dad Id bitch slap you.

[Shinalynn]

Hey, have you ever thought of romance? Ya know a lil flowers here, dinner there. Sweet things to butter her up?? Women are not all physical. Think around the box. I am tellin you romance here and you be in like sin.

[Noles12]

Hey, have you ever thought of romance? Ya know a lil flowers here, dinner there. Sweet things to butter her up?? Women are not all physical. Think around the box. I am tellin you romance here and you be in like sin.

Yes i have. I make comments to her throughout the day telling her how she is beautiful, i love her, etc. Flowers usually work for about a day. Then its right back to normal (I cant afford to buy her flowers everyday). I will take her out to dinner and a movie then we go back and she goes straight to bed.

From a guys standpoint its seems as if it is over and there will be no changing. I am starting to agree with this and trying to bring myself to face it. Im not sure if you feel the same but it seems to be the general consensus

[lovbyts]

Yes i have. I make comments to her throughout the day telling her how she is beautiful, i love her, etc. Flowers usually work for about a day. Then its right back to normal (I cant afford to buy her flowers everyday). I will take her out to dinner and a movie then we go back and she goes straight to bed.

From a guys standpoint its seems as if it is over and there will be no changing. I am starting to agree with this and trying to bring myself to face it. Im not sure if you feel the same but it seems to be the general consensus

How often has she bought you flowers or?? How often does she take you to dinner or??? How often does she tell you how good you look???

It needs to go both ways. They guy should not be the one to ALWAYS have to try to make it right, fix it or to romance.

Yes it really sounds like she is pushing you away. You cant force someone to love you and if they dont it's time to move on. It sucks yes. I have been there and I may be at that point again and if so I will be taking my own advice.

[Shinalynn]

Yes i have. I make comments to her throughout the day telling her how she is beautiful, i love her, etc. Flowers usually work for about a day. Then its right back to normal (I cant afford to buy her flowers everyday). I will take her out to dinner and a movie then we go back and she goes straight to bed.

From a guys standpoint its seems as if it is over and there will be no changing. I am starting to agree with this and trying to bring myself to face it. Im not sure if you feel the same but it seems to be the general consensus

hum, have you tried something different?? Like lil I love you notes, in her purse, on her car.. you dont have to do expensive things. Hell I love it when he starts the coffee in the morning. I can tell you have gone out of your way to please her and show her any type of affection. You said YOU are still in love with her, I cant help but wonder is she still just as in love with you? Please dont take that the wrong way, but when I am done in the relationship, my sex drive is done too.

[Noles12]

hum, have you tried something different?? Like lil I love you notes, in her purse, on her car.. you dont have to do expensive things. Hell I love it when he starts the coffee in the morning. I can tell you have gone out of your way to please her and show her any type of affection. You said YOU are still in love with her, I cant help but wonder is she still just as in love with you? Please dont take that the wrong way, but when I am done in the relationship, my sex drive is done too.

I have tried anything and everything when it comes to something like that. Breakfast in bed, note, anything and it all works for the time then the next day nothing.

I bring this up with her and tell her i still love her and ask her to tell me if she has the same feelings. She promises me she loves me and says that i seem so insecure lately and that she is turned off by that. I try to tell her the insecurity comes from the feeling that i dont turn her on anymore. She says she wants to work on it but i keep feeling like she is doing it for me rather than doing it because she loves me.

I think due to bulking for certain reason that she may have lost the attraction. It sucks to feel that way but it had to be done for sports reasons.

[calgarian]

I have tried anything and everything when it comes to something like that. Breakfast in bed, note, anything and it all works for the time then the next day nothing.

I bring this up with her and tell her i still love her and ask her to tell me if she has the same feelings. She promises me she loves me and says that i seem so insecure lately and that she is turned off by that. I try to tell her the insecurity comes from the feeling that i dont turn her on anymore. She says she wants to work on it but i keep feeling like she is doing it for me rather than doing it because she loves me.

I think due to bulking for certain reason that she may have lost the attraction. It sucks to feel that way but it had to be done for sports reasons.

double edge sword bro walk real carefully....u tell them u love them alot U r INSECURE.....u dont tell them enough u dont have a heart or u dont care...WTF??

[Noles12]

And according to her with the insecurity issue i am "suffocating" her. So for now im not the one doing the texts or the calling. Im leaving this all up to her when it comes to communication because i can guarantee she will be complaining i dont do enough soon. That just an example of that double edged sword but i going to give her that "space" that she complains that i never give her anymore

[calgarian]

And according to her with the insecurity issue i am "suffocating" her. So for now im not the one doing the texts or the calling. Im leaving this all up to her when it comes to communication because i can guarantee she will be complaining i dont do enough soon. That just an example of that double edged sword but i going to give her that "space" that she complains that i never give her anymore

as long as u know u r getting BLAMED for it too.......

[armwrestler22]

straight up, she fvcked someone else, but she does still love you. You've lost your edgyness / badass attitude that once turned her on. You used to be your own man and now instead of you being the eagle that soars alone, every single time she's quiet during a conversation you are saying sh*t, like "baby whats wrong?", "are you ok?" , "what did I do?". The number one turn on for both men and women is confidence, if that wasnt the case, then how come the hotttest women on earth are always shacked up with just above average looking guys and not supermodel mimbo's? Its the moderatley attractive man, with the confidence and wits about him that gets the best women. Love is a beautiful thing, but in a relationship it has to be a mutual one. She's got you to the point where you dont even love yourself anymore and your confidence is in the toilet, no woman wants to date that guy. she is just not sexually attracted to you in the same way anymore. If you love your life and want to have a beautiful woman beside you, whether its to Fvck or to raise a family with, you need to go **** someone else or go flirt with some nice women to get your confidence back and get your mind off of you being Mopey-Smurf all friggin day. I BELIEVE IN YOU ! -best wishes-

[Noles12]

straight up, she fvcked someone else, but she does still love you. You've lost your edgyness / badass attitude that once turned her on. You used to be your own man and now instead of you being the eagle that soars alone, every single time she's quiet during a conversation you are saying sh*t, like "baby whats wrong?", "are you ok?" , "what did I do?". The number one turn on for both men and women is confidence, if that wasnt the case, then how come the hotttest women on earth are always shacked up with just above average looking guys and not supermodel mimbo's? Its the moderatley attractive man, with the confidence and wits about him that gets the best women. Love is a beautiful thing, but in a relationship it has to be a mutual one. She's got you to the point where you dont even love yourself anymore and your confidence is in the toilet, no woman wants to date that guy. she is just not sexually attracted to you in the same way anymore. If you love your life and want to have a beautiful woman beside you, whether its to Fvck or to raise a family with, you need to go **** someone else or go flirt with some nice women to get your confidence back and get your mind off of you being Mopey-Smurf all friggin day. I BELIEVE IN YOU ! -best wishes-

Confidence isnt my issue. I work in a club and could have any of the women that are coming up to flirt everynight. This insecurity started after she started showing no affection and the never seeming to want anything from me. Sure i bet its not helping now but it was not the cause of this.

I have never questioned this girl before now. I said earlier i made the decision to back off to see what happens. It is either she shows the need for me or i leave

[ReX357]

F*ck buddy. What relationship number is this for you? 1? 2?

You're gonna hate yourself when it's time to be done break it off and think: "I should of listened to all the people that told me they were there before and already knew it wasn't gonna work"

I guess everybody has to make experiences for themselves.

You ever watch who wants to be a millionaire? You know when they use the "Ask the audience lifeline" and 95% of the audience thinks it's one answer. Would you agree with me that they're usually right?

Look at this thread, 95% of people here are telling you to break it off. I'd be willing to bet 95% of your friends you told about this situation are telling you to break it off and not look back.

Whatever it is that is the issue here doesn't matter, the reality is that no matter what, that relationship is doomed for failure. Somewhere along the line you lost the upper hand and the confidence you used to have when you first started going out with her. Now she will never look at you the same ever again.

Cut your losses now, break up and go find some *****. You're gonna be oozing manliness while your on cycle anyways, you'll find someone just as hot and also horny.

[Knockout_Power]

Confidence isnt my issue. I work in a club and could have any of the women that are coming up to flirt everynight. This insecurity started after she started showing no affection and the never seeming to want anything from me. Sure i bet its not helping now but it was not the cause of this.

I have never questioned this girl before now. I said earlier i made the decision to back off to see what happens. It is either she shows the need for me or i leave

if you are still considering her looking elsewhere just view how she gets herself ready... does she still keep herself wellmaintained? well "groomed", all done up? Cause if she does it is for someone... I know women say they like to do it for themselves to feel good, but its usually for the attention they get that feels good.

[Knockout_Power]

And according to her with the insecurity issue i am "suffocating" her. So for now im not the one doing the texts or the calling. Im leaving this all up to her when it comes to communication because i can guarantee she will be complaining i dont do enough soon. That just an example of that double edged sword but i going to give her that "space" that she complains that i never give her anymore

whenever I see this, (and I really hate to be going back to the ultimate negative), but it tends to mean she has someone else or at least feelings towards womeone else and feels really uncomfortable when you get close to her... I hope to god its not true, but more often than not I see this in many relationships

[Noles12]

whenever I see this, (and I really hate to be going back to the ultimate negative), but it tends to mean she has someone else or at least feelings towards womeone else and feels really uncomfortable when you get close to her... I hope to god its not true, but more often than not I see this in many relationships

I am starting to get that same feeling. I asked if this may be the issue and she flips out saying how could you ever think that (which i think can easily be a sign for it because they are quick to defend it rather than comfort you).

I just couldnt see this girl even hugging another guy without telling me.

[Knockout_Power]

I am starting to get that same feeling. I asked if this may be the issue and she flips out saying how could you ever think that (which i think can easily be a sign for it because they are quick to defend it rather than comfort you).

I just couldnt see this girl even hugging another guy without telling me.

yah, someone who cares that you think this will not defend, they will try and make you believe you are the special one