it's not working out with my gf, how to I get her to move out.

[JCFobsession]

JCF has her refusal to move out convinced you that you guys are meant to be together? Has her refusal to allow you to move on with your life caused you to want to get married? People should get the hint and realize when things are over. You can't force someone to love you. You can't force someone to be with you when they no longer want to be. She should be an adult and you guys should be able to come up with solution that works for both of you.

No not at all. Yeah Bottom line we should not live together. And it's driving me crazy that she wont agree to anything!

I tell her I feel trapped, and UN easy and am not happy coming home.

Told her to move out within next 10 days or two weeks. She says I'm threatening her and she's not moving out till she gets apartment with her friend. Which could take minimum a month. Or not at all if she can't quAlify or her friend flakes.

I told her to move all her cloths and makeup and stuff she needs on the regular back to her dads and can get other stuff when she finds a place. She says no I'm not moving back to my dads.

So as it stands I'm the asshole, have no heart, I'm mean, and don't care about her at all. And I dont try to make things better.

[tigerspawn]

Told her to move out within next 10 days or two weeks. She says I'm threatening her and she's not moving out till she gets apartment with her friend. Which could take minimum a month.
I told her to move all her cloths and makeup and stuff she needs on the regular back to her dads and can get other stuff when she finds a place. She says no I'm not moving back to my dads. So as it stands I'm the asshole, have no heart, I'm mean, and don't care about her at all. And I dont try to make things better.

This could be considered harassment. If you want her to move out you need to serve her the correct papers. If she feels threatened she could file a restraining order that would keep you out of your own home. Even if you don’t live there you still have to provide all utilities that you have provided in the past and rent. If you don’t provide all this she could sue you. Crappy thing is judge would more than likely rule in her favor.

[Lunk1]

This could be considered harassment. If you want her to move out you need to serve her the correct papers. If she feels threatened she could file a restraining order that would keep you out of your own home. Even if you don’t live there you still have to provide all utilities that you have provided in the past and rent. If you don’t provide all this she could sue you. Crappy thing is judge would more than likely rule in her favor.

Thats a bit extreme. In order to get a restraining order she would have to show immenent danger not just a general PITA! As far as providing things if he is not living there..that would be civil matter not a criminal one.

Since she is not on the lease...have the landlord remove her. I dont know if your lease allows you to sublet so she/you may be in direct violation of the lease. I still say move her out and change the locks...it's not illegal!

[crazy mike]

[QUOTE=Lunk1;6516475]Thats a bit extreme. In order to get a restraining order she would have to show immenent danger not just a general PITA! As far as providing things if he is not living there..that would be civil matter not a criminal one.

Since she is not on the lease...have the landlord remove her. I dont know if your lease allows you to sublet so she/you may be in direct violation of the lease. I still say move her out and change the locks...it's not illegal![/QUOTE]

Bottom line here. The landlord may be able to do this so try. Better yet you MUST take action now. First do not change the lock. I have been through this when me and the wife were separated. I was stark naked (don't ask) when a roommate (he held the lease) locked me out on the carport. I yelled open the FKN door now or I'm coming thru it! He not open!! SO I came thru it. Took the jamb off , took the door off the hinges, Scared the sh!t out of him Ha... Anyway the cops came he accuse me of being insane and my meds do it. I showed the cops No. They told him he could not lock me out, he could not change the locks and because he welcomed me in and all my stuff was there he needed to behave and leave me the FK alone. I could come and go. Now the told him to remove me he had to do it legal and go down to city hall and start eviction proceedings. Only way and had to wait until they took her out. No I don't give a hoot what all they are telling you here about do this or do that. Get your a$$ in gear and take action (LEGAL). Get a attitude of acceptance be good to your self and do the RIGHT thing. Now the herpes crap is just stupid. Figures coming from an antagonist. But take care of her at the same time you take care of yourself. You did care for her, so let her be notified with no choice and e forced to do the only and right thing. Have the serenity to accept the things you cannot change (right now) and have the courage to change the things you can. Have the wisdom to change the things you can and take affirmative action. ...good luck bro,. ....crazy ? mike

[Lunk1]

[QUOTE=crazy mike;6516669]

Thats a bit extreme. In order to get a restraining order she would have to show immenent danger not just a general PITA! As far as providing things if he is not living there..that would be civil matter not a criminal one.

Since she is not on the lease...have the landlord remove her. I dont know if your lease allows you to sublet so she/you may be in direct violation of the lease. I still say move her out and change the locks...it's not illegal![/QUOTE]

Bottom line here. The landlord may be able to do this so try. Better yet you MUST take action now. First do not change the lock. I have been through this when me and the wife were separated. I was stark naked (don't ask) when a roommate (he held the lease) locked me out on the carport. I yelled open the FKN door now or I'm coming thru it! He not open!! SO I came thru it. Took the jamb off , took the door off the hinges, Scared the sh!t out of him Ha... Anyway the cops came he accuse me of being insane and my meds do it. I showed the cops No. They told him he could not lock me out, he could not change the locks and because he welcomed me in and all my stuff was there he needed to behave and leave me the FK alone. I could come and go. Now the told him to remove me he had to do it legal and go down to city hall and start eviction proceedings. Only way and had to wait until they took her out. No I don't give a hoot what all they are telling you here about do this or do that. Get your a$$ in gear and take action (LEGAL). Get a attitude of acceptance be good to your self and do the RIGHT thing. Now the herpes crap is just stupid. Figures coming from an antagonist. But take care of her at the same time you take care of yourself. You did care for her, so let her be notified with no choice and e forced to do the only and right thing. Have the serenity to accept the things you cannot change (right now) and have the courage to change the things you can. Have the wisdom to change the things you can and take affirmative action. ...good luck bro,. ....crazy ? mike

Yes Mike...she could gain access through force if he changed the locks and there would be no legal recourse but...playing the odds, I doubt she would and may just give up.

[crazy mike]

[QUOTE=Lunk1;6516696]

Yes Mike...she could gain access through force if he changed the locks and there would be no legal recourse but...playing the odds, I doubt she would and may just give up.

My point though, Whatever happens. He should get off his a$$, (I shouldn't be like that) and go down and get it all moving. This will protect him for any future legal problems. It will get here moving. He will JUST HAVE TO put up for a month. Concentrate on other things ( if can) get more involved with work, diet and workouts, or hobbies. Ya gotta put up sometimes at least be patient. Look to the future, be grateful for what you have and how much better it will be. It will come, but in God's time by and with your affinitive action. Using the spiritual principals that one should live by you will overcome and be a better man. You will be happier with self.
Hey this all sounds good on paper, ha, but try and that will become comforting. Do it right and we can applaud him. Just saying get on with it and be happier. enough out of me. Sorry to go on like this ...crazy mike

[tigerspawn]

[QUOTE=Lunk1;6516475]Thats a bit extreme. In order to get a restraining order she would have to show immenent danger not just a general PITA! As far as providing things if he is not living there..that would be civil matter not a criminal one.QUOTE]

If you go to legal finder and put OP information into it this is condensed version of what the lawyers there state should be done and what could happen if you don’t. Have you ever had restraining order filed on you? They don’t have to prove anything. You have to prove that you didn’t do anything to warrant restraining order. That’s the way it is here in Illinois.

[Lunk1]

[QUOTE=tigerspawn;6517391]

Thats a bit extreme. In order to get a restraining order she would have to show immenent danger not just a general PITA! As far as providing things if he is not living there..that would be civil matter not a criminal one.QUOTE]

If you go to legal finder and put OP information into it this is condensed version of what the lawyers there state should be done and what could happen if you don’t. Have you ever had restraining order filed on you? They don’t have to prove anything. You have to prove that you didn’t do anything to warrant restraining order. That’s the way it is here in Illinois.

Restraining orders, protective orders and no-contact orders...it's all the same. Just different terminology. I have PLENTy of experience with them. Here one must prove that they are in danger or they would be handing them out willy nilly all day long.

[austinite]

Hmm. In Texas, a restraining order protects you in a certain area. Protective, protects you at home, work, phone, electronic communication of any kind, etc...

Big difference.

[tigerspawn]

[QUOTE=Lunk1;6517407]

Restraining orders, protective orders and no-contact orders...it's all the same. Just different terminology. I have PLENTy of experience with them. Here one must prove that they are in danger or they would be handing them out willy nilly all day long.

Man wish that was case here. Here you have to prove you dont deserve it.

[TheClinch]

Can you tell this girls parents the situation in hopes they will encourage her to get out of a home she isnt wanted it?

[DSM4Life]

Could always tell her you have bad case of herpes. That would make me want to leave.

[TheClinch]

Could always tell her you have bad case of herpes. That would make me want to leave.

Yesss, lol good one.

[thegodfather]

How old is she? and how old are you?

If you want out of the situation immediately, I recommend getting a copy of your lease, and going over the clauses which would be grounds for an immediate (30 day notice) eviction and termination of your lease. For instance, if pets are not allowed, go and buy a cheap parakeet(extremely loud), or some other violation of the terms of your lease which would force your landlord to evict you.

[RaginCajun]

Just saw this thread.

Is there a pic of your GF in this thread?

If she is hot, send her my way and I will take care of it for you free of charge

[crazy mike]

Just saw this thread.

Is there a pic of your GF in this thread?

If she is hot, send her my way and I will take care of it for you free of charge

Great ??? He opened on one post that he loved her BUT...... so be col guys. ...crazy mike

[JCFobsession]

Im looking for easiest, non aggressive way to make this happen and not cause to many issues.

Every time something happens now she blames it on... "get off the steroids "

She said she is going to look for a place.

[austinite]

Restraining orders are garbage. Protective orders make an impact.

[Times Roman]

Mate,

it would make a big difference in the quality of our advice if you post a pic of her

---just saying!

[JCFobsession]

Lol there is quick pic.

[Lunk1]

Lol there is quick pic.

Yup...boot her! Never keep a girl making duck face!

[Times Roman]

Lol there is quick pic.

ha ha ha

I was just fukkin with you mate! =)

[RaginCajun]

Lol there is quick pic.

<img src="http://forums.steroid.com/attachment.php?attachmentid=137914"/>

Send her my way, prob solved

[frank13]

Lol there is quick pic.

id make it work if i were u

[FONZY007]

id make it work if i were u

x 2 ^^

[JCFobsession]

Lol I know I know

[austinite]

I can't see her, must have her top on.

[Times Roman]

I can't see her, must have her top on.

.............I was thinking the same thing

you know, JC, the quality of our commments wouuld vastly improve if there was a way you can help out with Austinite's vision problem? =)

[FONZY007]

At one time you loved her, what changed??

She seems like a very attractive young lady? Why u don't get along with her?

You say if she moves out will try and work it out? Why not sit down talk and get everything out?

See I'm a married man, wife and I talk if anything is ever bothering us.... We get along great, I'm 31 and she is 24...

I wish you luck JC and hope everything works out; with or without her

[crazy mike]

Hi, again I wish you and her the best. It takes two to tangle. Two sides to a story and you know that. So it seem you might be calming. if so great. Now we all have come up with the funnies and the bull-crap advice as well as the solid truth. I hope you get out there, be as patient as you can and do Now what you need to do to protect yourself and your homestead.

I got married at age 28 and I look back, wow I was a just a kid. She was 34 and I feel she raised me since I was a kid. So you are young, be cool man and do the RIGHT THING for both of you. ...crazy mike

[marcus300]

Just start pissing and shiting in bed with her and all over the house and dont forget in her wardrobe aswell. Won't take long for her to leave.

[austinite]

Just start pissing and shiting in bed with her and all over the house and dont forget in her wardrobe aswell. Won't take long for her to leave.

Laughing

my

f'n

ass

off!

[crazy mike]

Just start pissing and shiting in bed with her and all over the house and dont forget in her wardrobe aswell. Won't take long for her to leave.

Behave Marcus. really would you do that .. huh? I, would never act like that ...crazy mike

[austinite]

Behave Marcus. really would you do that .. huh? I, would never act like that ...crazy mike

I guarantee you marcus would. Problem is with his luck... she would probably like it.

[austinite]

Meh... you guys forget that for every hot broad out there, some dude is tired of her shit.

[FONZY007]

Meh... you guys forget that for every hot broad out there, some dude is tired of her shit.

Also for every dude that is tired of her shit, there is another dude that is willing to give her attention.. Most of the time that's all they want..

[frank13]

Also for every dude that is tired of her shit, there is another dude that is willing to give her attention.. Most of the time that's all they want..

id give her a little more then attention ha ha ha ha

[austinite]

Also for every dude that is tired of her shit, there is another dude that is willing to give her attention.. Most of the time that's all they want..

lol. Yeah, for a while. A broad that wont leave is not one I wanna get mixed up with.

[Lunk1]

Meh... you guys forget that for every hot broad out there, some dude is tired of her shit.

sounds like alot of lonely guys home jerkin it

[Shol'va]

Just start pissing and shiting in bed with her and all over the house and dont forget in her wardrobe aswell. Won't take long for her to leave.

DSM used to do this to get and keep guys and it worked for him. That is until he once became constipated. then he was SOL......