GF cheated while im on...should I stop or maybe take anti -e's

[CptAmericaX]

wow funny thing is i just posted something saying how women are cheatings Wh0res, nothing against you bud hope the best and you can work through it but you can never trust her again if you decied to stay with her, and people will say you cant hold it against her I say bs when ever you feel any sort of suspition bring that shit up and read everything emails get phone call logs make her delete her myspace facebook all that sh*t

P.s.s Keep up the cycle getting off it will just make things worse IMO and beat the sh*t outa that dude

[J-Dogg]

I'm not going to get all sobby here or anything bro, but seriously....I've been there. I get pretty upset with girls at times, and I've been there.

I dated a girl that cheated on me and it really ****in hurt bro. We were not married, but together for 5 years and like best friends. I worked a lot, and our relationship was ruff, and she ****ed another guy behind my back.

I tried to stick it out, and forgive her and it ****ed me up for a long time man. I felt I could not do it with out her, could not keep my life together. I'm a pretty successful person, and that created a LOT of pressure on me to stay that way. I felt, I could only stay that way, if I had here there to comfort me when it was hard, to be there for me when I needed some kind words.

I finally just said " I am who I am ". I took care of everything myself, or hired help. You sound emotionally dependent on her, and I've been there. You can't be that way. You have a kid yes, but what kind of relationship can you maintain with her, even if it's for the kid? You'll never trust her.

All the questions about "having sex for a little" the guys are asking, and questioning....you want to believe it now, but you won't believe it, and it will bother you for the rest of this relationship.

[bushido3374]

There is a kid involved. I would NOT continue trying to have another kid with her and I would hold off on marriage talk. But you need to talk. Let her know how betrayed you feel about the whole thing including the 6th months of lies. You also need to seek professional couples counceling if you want it to work out. Main thing...TALK.

Also, if she was able to act all offended and lie to your face for 6 months , you really should evaluate if she does have an honest heart.

I agree with the couples' counseling on this. You're going to have to find out if you can learn to trust her again. In the end, you're going to have to decide what you need to do. Both of you are at fault in this predicament.

Theatrix brought up a good point also. Reasses your priorities and make sure you're with her for the right reason in the first place.

[hrbp9501]

just for fun **** her mom **** her sister **** her brother in the ass, **** the other dudes mom give her a heart attack, **** his sister, **** his brother and his dad in the ass. then **** her in the ass one last time as your punching her in the back of the head and repeat does that feal good bitch does it. but thats just me you do what you want.

You have issues... you need HELP!!!!

[ni4ni]

You have issues... you need HELP!!!!

lmao- i think you may have made a wrong turn into the BOYZ house

[_CrossroadS_]

Remember when you were a teenager, and you wanted to do something, but you knew it was wrong? What did you do? You talked yourself into it, you rationalized, you reasoned, and you made yourself believe it was the right thing to do. Even though you knew it was wrong, you convinced yourself otherwise. Well guess what, Girls do that until they go through menopause. They are totally different creatures than us. They use emotion to navigate their way through tough decisions. A bad feeling she thinks you caused is justification to do something F*d up. You have to learn to deal with it, and you have to find a girl that at least has a grasp on who she is. A girl that understands she is like that often times can "come back into the real world" before a bad decision is made. Most can't.

You have a few things to decide. Are you willing to sacrifice your happiness (relationship-wise) for your child? You will never fully trust her again, so are you willing to put you and her through that long term? Anyone who cheats lacks respect for who they cheat on. Are you willing to be with someone who doesn't respect you? If you decide not to be with her, can you work through problems effectively with her for your child's sake?

You're in a tight spot.

And don't stop cycle...

[Bojangles69]

why?? he didn't have a commitment with the poster.. the guy was just opening up his home in support of a woman that was obviously distressed and was looking for comfort in another person other than her husband..

she did.. she was the one that crossed the line and is justifying it in her mind so that she's not the slut that she is..

Thank YOU!

wtf is wrong with people now and days?
Id shake that guys hand for exploiting her for the slutbag she is (to OP)

If you are even a little bit more angry at the guy then the girl, you're mind is fvcked and you need serious time off to reevaluate shit.

Did you ever consider that *maybe* when she "came clean" the LAST thing she was hoping was to be forgiven?

Maybe THATS WHY she told you?

And lastly, please get this clear..

THERE WAS NO:

"Being taken advantange of"
"Him forcing himself"
"Her saying no"

She is not a saint, the only thing she can do now is minimize how bad she looks, seriously, WHAT ELSE can she possibly say now? Nothing.

And one thing I learned in life that should bother you more is this, men and women generally cheat for different reasons.
Men do not need an intimate emotional connection to cheat, women usually do. (usually lol)
This usually means on avg, it takes more investment and time for the women to cheat, which also means to me this wasnt some casual accident. I think she was seriously discontent a long time before she did it, which means even if you forgive her, how is she all a sudden going to be content with your relationship after the fact?

All those feelings, drives and impulses in her head aren't just gonna change. She is NOT a hot commidity, she is not the type of woman thats in demand.
I can understand feeling hurt as fvck, I can understand still feeling connected, but I can't understand how there isnt an overwhelming feeling of repulsion and disgust for what she did?

If you aren't disgusted when you look at her face, I'll tell you right now something isn't right with your thought process and you shouldnt have been in a relationship to begin.
Sorry if I'm being an ass but seriously.

[reignman1]

i do feel disgusted when I look at her face, thats the problem. Were seeing a conselor monday night, and im hoping she can show me a way to forgive and forget. I think shes a good person deep down, ive walked in on her crying a few times by herself lately and she said its because she looks at our little girl and realizes that she could have destroyed her by her selfishness in this act.

I'd do anything for my little girl, including giving up my happiness for the rest of my life. When I decided to take part in her conception, I took the responsibility of giving her the best life I could.

[_CrossroadS_]

Your little girl, her mother, everyone close to you, will have much more respect for you if you stick up for yourself, do what's best for you in the relationship aspect (whether it is being with her or not). Like someone said above, you're not going to respect this broad for a long time, and that's a terrible image for a young girl to see. Explaining that mommy and daddy didn't get along and cant live together is alot easier to explain than daddy getting so drunk because it hurts to see mommy playing with other guys. If you've got the guts to completely keep a happy home in front of her, then that might be best.

[spywizard]

i do feel disgusted when I look at her face, thats the problem. Were seeing a conselor monday night, and im hoping she can show me a way to forgive and forget. I think shes a good person deep down, ive walked in on her crying a few times by herself lately and she said its because she looks at our little girl and realizes that she could have destroyed her by her selfishness in this act.

I'd do anything for my little girl, including giving up my happiness for the rest of my life. When I decided to take part in her conception, I took the responsibility of giving her the best life I could.

well, there is that..

there is also the fact that you will be teaching her that a woman can be with a man that hates her.. (like you will do to her mother)

that poses the question, is it better to be with a woman for the sake of the kids and screw around on her (thus the generation of daddy's girls we see now) or cut the connection, pay, then re enter the childs life later

either way the girls / children are FFL .. I don't know what else to say about that..

[beatango2008]

yea bro, you deserve better than that, just pay the child support because you can never trust a person fully after they cheated on you once, you will just put yourself through hell. good luck

[jackjackson]

Find some hot guy with HIV or something lifelong and have him hit on her to sleep with her or pay him to rape her.
Then leave her for being a ****tt rag....... srsly!

[Iron_Pig]

dont stop your life for her, take care of your kids and fuvk that bitch, they cheat once they will do it again, now there are a shit load more good girls out there and good girls, but got treat some whores like shit for a while it will make you feel better......

sorry to hear that bro

to give more background we were having a really rough couple of months where I thought I didnt want to be with her anymore and told her I was just staying for the kid pretty much, we had no sex for those 3 months and she was always ragging on me to give her attention and"tell her I loved her " stuff. She used to say "im gonna find someone else and then you'll be sorry" and I would just tell her I didnt care.






Her job was to tell techs where to go everyday for work over the phone and she said he would always make small talk at first with her, then it started being when she was upset with me he would ask her y and all. Then he started the "he must be cheating on you" and "I would give you the world" stuff. I looked at her phone records and and at 1st it was 1 or 2 calls a day for a half hour and maybe 20 txts then it got to be calls all the times like 4,000 in one month and 4,000 txts. this whole episode lasted basically 10/24 -12/13 was the day i found out and shit hit the fan. He lived about 1hr away from us and she worked 2 jobs. I basically found out by lying to her saying I called tmobile and they looked up if her cell was ever bouncing off the towers in that area and thats when she broke down and said she went to his house twice, and the first time they just talked and never did anything that time but she did eventually start having feelings for him and the second time she thought it might happen and thats were the first post comes in. She said she thought she was over me and ready to move on but when the sex started she got sick to her stomach and upset and thats when he stopped, asked her whats wrong and she said she couldnt do it and they stopped. She said alot of detail so thats why I think shes telling the truth like when he stopped he said "well that was a waste of a condom" and she basically left after that. She said he called her after he left and said he was sorry if she felt pressured into it. Of course the f-ed up part about it is that the next day is when I found all the txts and I wish I just looked one day earlier before that happened. It sucks because I after I found the txts and just thought they talked and didnt do anything, we became so much closer and completely(as gay as this sounds) in love, like just did everything together,

Go bang her mom and sister if she has one

[HILLBILLY]

i do feel disgusted when I look at her face, thats the problem. Were seeing a conselor monday night, and im hoping she can show me a way to forgive and forget. I think shes a good person deep down, ive walked in on her crying a few times by herself lately and she said its because she looks at our little girl and realizes that she could have destroyed her by her selfishness in this act.

I'd do anything for my little girl, including giving up my happiness for the rest of my life. When I decided to take part in her conception, I took the responsibility of giving her the best life I could.

IMO, If that was the case it would have never happened.

-JJ-

[wharton]

This is so the wrong site to post this siht, House of Juice heads giving relationship advise I would bet 80% on here have mistresses or cheat on a regular basis Funny though haha

[amcon]

brother just for the record... she didnt just have sex with him for a few min... he was prob pounding her for awhile, and he is not to blame. he was comforting her, but why was she there? she knew what was up

and went looking

what should you do ?

well, talk to here again, ask here to tell you the total truth and then for give her and move on with the next stage of your relationship.

so why the heck would you stop doing the cycle???????

[ronan the barbarian]

about ten years ago my sister cheated on her husband with a co worker,he stayed with her for the kids sake and cus she said it was a one off thing,i know for a fact it went on for months cus i knew his ex.
last christmas she left him,the kids and the family home to move in with a guy she had been shagging for 2 years also a co worker!!!!!
they had been together 15 years.

dont let this be you,
and why are people blaming the other guy?he didnt rape her,she wanted it.

personally i just make the girl im seeing know from day 1 if i even think she may be cheating ill finish it,id rather be single and happy than in a relationship and paranoid about her every move.and after this you def will be

[Tigershark]

id rather be single and happy than in a relationship and paranoid about her every move.and after this you def will be

Agreed.