GF cheated while im on...should I stop or maybe take anti -e's

[reignman1]

basically just found out the mother of my child and gf of 5 years had sex with a cooworker 1 night after work about 6 months ago and its tearing me apart inside, my mind is spinning and just feel like my life is over. We have been looking at wedding places and I bought her ring last month and was waiting for the right time, and we got into an arguement about the guy, cause I found txt messages from him (6 months ago) and basically whenever we would get into a fight I would bring it up asking if she did anything which she always denied. Well, finally last night she just broke down and told me the truth, saying that she went to his house to talk cause we got into an arguement he was just listening to her crying and rubbing her back and she said he started kissing her and she said no at first but then just went along until he actually started having sex for a couple minutes and she got upset, he stopped and apoligized and she said she left. I just want to wring his ****in neck cause me and her are both 27 and this dude is 40 and just completely took advantage of the situation telling her "he's probably cheating on you" and stuff like that.

Anyway thats my rant and im on trt and I added additional test e so im totaling about 400mg week plus 70mg tren a every 36hrs and I was hoping to somehow get over this whole thing because I do love her and we have a kid together and were trying to get pregnant now plus get married.

Should I go back to original 200m trt dose, start taking arimidex or nolva, or clomid?

[chuckt12345]

that suks,, really its the kid thing for me that the problem because personally id drop her like a hot potato but thats just me. I mean how are you gonna trust her now if you get married. Good lluck and this prb needs to go to the lounge. i dont know what to tell you about your cycle but id keep goin at it

[lovbyts]

Keep up the cycle or start your PCT.

Keep the ring or take it back. It's not the guys fault and IF you believe they only had sex for a couple minutes.
She may feel guilty about it but time to move on. Sorry a kid is involved but unless you can find a way to 100% trust her again I wouldnt bother.
Dont tear yourself up over it even though it's HUGE right now. Dont let it turn into your fault and she will try. EVERYONE has arguments, it's not reason to cheat and that's why girls should NOT have guys friends like that. Where where/are her girl friends she chould have talked to? Sorry but if she went to a guys place she wanted the attention. She may be trying to convince herself it's not what she wanted but it is or she would not have gone there.

Life sucks sometimes.

[Immortal Soldier]

Go and ****ing kick that guys motha****ing ass and make sure he getes an ass kicking before you leave. **** battery charges, that dude knows better at 40 years old.

Alright I need to calm down lol....

What the ****, first of all she is lying when she said she only had sex with her for a couple of minutes you dont go from kissing to sex and say "It just happend" thats like a whole different ballgame.

Second who the hell keeps text messages from 6 months ago?

[lovbyts]

Go and ****ing kick that guys motha****ing ass and make sure he getes an ass kicking before you leave. **** battery charges, that dude knows better at 40 years old.

Alright I need to calm down lol....

What the ****, first of all she is lying when she said she only had sex with her for a couple of minutes you dont go from kissing to sex and say "It just happend" thats like a whole different ballgame.

Second who the hell keeps text messages from 6 months ago?

Why, the guy did not cheat, the girl did. Why do guys take this stance? It's up to the girl. She went to him, he was not stalking her or raped her. Who doesnt take advantage of a situation? We buy drinks, talk to girls, try to show sympathy and act like we care just to get laid every day. LOL

But really, STOP blaming the guy all the time. I'm in my 40s, I know better than what??? I want to get laid as much as any 20 yr old. LOL If a girl is married it's different but if she's dating someone and comes to me and is spooning all over me and wants some physical attention, OK.

Every girl out there is someones ex.

[inky-e]

[QUOTE=lovbyts;4680590]Why, the guy did not cheat, the girl did. Why do guys take this stance? It's up to the girl. She went to him, he was not stalking her or raped her. Who doesnt take advantage of a situation? We buy drinks, talk to girls, try to show sympathy and act like we care just to get laid every day. LOL

But really, STOP blaming the guy all the time. I'm in my 40s, I know better than what??? I want to get laid as much as any 20 yr old. LOL If a girl is married it's different but if she's dating someone and comes to me and is spooning all over me and wants some physical attention, OK.

Every girl out there is someones ex.[/QUOTE]

LOL Even a nun is Jesus' ex!! hahahaha

[Lightsout2184]

Why, the guy did not cheat, the girl did. Why do guys take this stance? It's up to the girl. She went to him, he was not stalking her or raped her. Who doesnt take advantage of a situation? We buy drinks, talk to girls, try to show sympathy and act like we care just to get laid every day. LOL

But really, STOP blaming the guy all the time. I'm in my 40s, I know better than what??? I want to get laid as much as any 20 yr old. LOL If a girl is married it's different but if she's dating someone and comes to me and is spooning all over me and wants some physical attention, OK.

Every girl out there is someones ex.

because he knew she was dating him and had a kid with him. she didnt go to him for sex. she was hurt and he took advantage of the situation. u cant hit ur girl so u beat the **** out of the guy.

[spywizard]

Go and ****ing kick that guys motha****ing ass and make sure he getes an ass kicking before you leave. **** battery charges, that dude knows better at 40 years old.

Alright I need to calm down lol....

What the ****, first of all she is lying when she said she only had sex with her for a couple of minutes you dont go from kissing to sex and say "It just happend" thats like a whole different ballgame.

Second who the hell keeps text messages from 6 months ago?

why?? he didn't have a commitment with the poster.. the guy was just opening up his home in support of a woman that was obviously distressed and was looking for comfort in another person other than her husband..

she did.. she was the one that crossed the line and is justifying it in her mind so that she's not the slut that she is..

[Bojangles69]

why?? he didn't have a commitment with the poster.. the guy was just opening up his home in support of a woman that was obviously distressed and was looking for comfort in another person other than her husband..

she did.. she was the one that crossed the line and is justifying it in her mind so that she's not the slut that she is..

Thank YOU!

wtf is wrong with people now and days?
Id shake that guys hand for exploiting her for the slutbag she is (to OP)

If you are even a little bit more angry at the guy then the girl, you're mind is fvcked and you need serious time off to reevaluate shit.

Did you ever consider that *maybe* when she "came clean" the LAST thing she was hoping was to be forgiven?

Maybe THATS WHY she told you?

And lastly, please get this clear..

THERE WAS NO:

"Being taken advantange of"
"Him forcing himself"
"Her saying no"

She is not a saint, the only thing she can do now is minimize how bad she looks, seriously, WHAT ELSE can she possibly say now? Nothing.

And one thing I learned in life that should bother you more is this, men and women generally cheat for different reasons.
Men do not need an intimate emotional connection to cheat, women usually do. (usually lol)
This usually means on avg, it takes more investment and time for the women to cheat, which also means to me this wasnt some casual accident. I think she was seriously discontent a long time before she did it, which means even if you forgive her, how is she all a sudden going to be content with your relationship after the fact?

All those feelings, drives and impulses in her head aren't just gonna change. She is NOT a hot commidity, she is not the type of woman thats in demand.
I can understand feeling hurt as fvck, I can understand still feeling connected, but I can't understand how there isnt an overwhelming feeling of repulsion and disgust for what she did?

If you aren't disgusted when you look at her face, I'll tell you right now something isn't right with your thought process and you shouldnt have been in a relationship to begin.
Sorry if I'm being an ass but seriously.

[inky-e]

basically just found out the mother of my child and gf of 5 years had sex with a cooworker 1 night after work about 6 months ago and its tearing me apart inside, my mind is spinning and just feel like my life is over. We have been looking at wedding places and I bought her ring last month and was waiting for the right time, and we got into an arguement about the guy, cause I found txt messages from him (6 months ago) and basically whenever we would get into a fight I would bring it up asking if she did anything which she always denied. Well, finally last night she just broke down and told me the truth, saying that she went to his house to talk cause we got into an arguement he was just listening to her crying and rubbing her back and she said he started kissing her and she said no at first but then just went along until he actually started having sex for a couple minutes and she got upset, he stopped and apoligized and she said she left. I just want to wring his ****in neck cause me and her are both 27 and this dude is 40 and just completely took advantage of the situation telling her "he's probably cheating on you" and stuff like that.

I don't believe that for one minute!! And just because he's older don't lay it all on him....she willingly opened her legs Bro....get real here...she had sex with him and is now minimizing it to get over on you....RED FLAG!!!...More cheating to come...once a cheater always a cheater....
Anyway thats my rant and im on trt and I added additional test e so im totaling about 400mg week plus 70mg tren a every 36hrs and I was hoping to somehow get over this whole thing because I do love her and we have a kid together and were trying to get pregnant now plus get married.

Should I go back to original 200m trt dose, start taking arimidex or nolva, or clomid?

I don't believe that for one minute!! And just because he's older don't lay it all on him....she willingly opened her legs Bro....get real here...she had sex with him and is now minimizing it to get over on you....RED FLAG!!!...More cheating to come...once a cheater always a cheater....IMO stay ON and get big....if you really don't know what to do...pray about it...you'll get the answer you need.

[Matt]

I don't believe that for one minute!! And just because he's older don't lay it all on him....she willingly opened her legs Bro....get real here...she had sex with him and is now minimizing it to get over on you....RED FLAG!!!...More cheating to come...once a cheater always a cheater....IMO stay ON and get big....if you really don't know what to do...pray about it...you'll get the answer you need.

X2, no need to pray though....

[inky-e]

X2, no need to pray though....

OK **** praying...I rarely turn to that anyway....and just cause someone is in their 40's doesn't mean they have great judgement...I'm perfect proof of that!! lol

[c-Z]

I don't believe that for one minute!! And just because he's older don't lay it all on him....she willingly opened her legs Bro....get real here...she had sex with him and is now minimizing it to get over on you....RED FLAG!!!...More cheating to come...once a cheater always a cheater....IMO stay ON and get big....if you really don't know what to do...pray about it...you'll get the answer you need.

AMEN. F*** that dude... love sucks..... personally.... The gym will keep your mind straight. it's a good stress relief.. Just try to walk in clear headed..... Don't let her get to you..... Like he said she opened her legs willingly... Just don't be stupid bro. The "once a cheater always a cheater" saying is true to the fullest..... Don't be with someone you can't trust. trust is extremely important. and key in a relationship... Im sorry to hear that man........ I think if your still on here and not in jail yet then you doing alright... Just try to be calm about it all.. Dont stress man. Whats done is done. nothing can change that.....

As for cycle... Stay on as well..... if you leave her... In months you will look back and realize you were an idiot and it wasnt worth it.

I was kind of in a similiar situation...... And as much as I wanted to kill the guy..... A lot of friends talked me out of it... And the thing that made sense most was..... You can't be mad at him.. Only person to be mad at is her....

I'm sorry i dont want to sound like some therapist trying to tell you what to do... Stay with the cycle bro. Keep your head up. Anytime you want to bullshit PM. We are all here for you man.

[inky-e]

AMEN. F*** that dude... love sucks..... personally.... The gym will keep your mind straight. it's a good stress relief.. Just try to walk in clear headed..... Don't let her get to you..... Like he said she opened her legs willingly... Just don't be stupid bro. The "once a cheater always a cheater" saying is true to the fullest..... Don't be with someone you can't trust. trust is extremely important. and key in a relationship... Im sorry to hear that man........ I think if your still on here and not in jail yet then you doing alright... Just try to be calm about it all.. Dont stress man. Whats done is done. nothing can change that.....

As for cycle... Stay on as well..... if you leave her... In months you will look back and realize you were an idiot and it wasnt worth it.

I was kind of in a similiar situation...... And as much as I wanted to kill the guy..... A lot of friends talked me out of it... And the thing that made sense most was..... You can't be mad at him.. Only person to be mad at is her....

I'm sorry i dont want to sound like some therapist trying to tell you what to do... Stay with the cycle bro. Keep your head up. Anytime you want to bullshit PM. We are all here for you man.

LOL...I was kinda referring to myself.....shhhh...don't tell the wife!!

[abstrack]

I don't believe that for one minute!! And just because he's older don't lay it all on him....she willingly opened her legs Bro....get real here...she had sex with him and is now minimizing it to get over on you....RED FLAG!!!...More cheating to come...once a cheater always a cheater....IMO stay ON and get big....if you really don't know what to do...pray about it...you'll get the answer you need.

I agree. It's not she t****** and fell on his dick, for a few minutes. The guy was being a guy. She had no business going over there. Doesnt she have any girl friends, sisters, or a mother?

She was looking for it to be honest!

[Narkissos]

I don't believe that for one minute!! And just because he's older don't lay it all on him....she willingly opened her legs Bro....get real here...she had sex with him and is now minimizing it to get over on you....RED FLAG!!!...More cheating to come...once a cheater always a cheater....IMO stay ON and get big....if you really don't know what to do...pray about it...you'll get the answer you need.

Agreed.

I would double the test and tren

I know I would.

Its tough because I loved her because she was that sweet librarian type, who had sex with only the 3 boyfriends she had before me and it took me awile to smash the first time so I know she was a good girl, but - feel she gave it up so easily to this dude. Its like she was a "good girl" for 27 yrs but a slut for a month

I know the type...and that's the kind you DON'T trust.

[stpete]

Sorry to hear that man but she must go. She can never be trusted again.

keep the dosages the same and go let out some frustration in the gym.

[RANA]

So sorry, It must be difficult to focus but you have to ask yourself can you ever trust her again?

[chuckt12345]

I don't believe that for one minute!! And just because he's older don't lay it all on him....she willingly opened her legs Bro....get real here...she had sex with him and is now minimizing it to get over on you....RED FLAG!!!...More cheating to come...once a cheater always a cheater....IMO stay ON and get big....if you really don't know what to do...pray about it...you'll get the answer you need.


Roger that,, shite like this makes me nervous about bein in relationships. If it wasnt for havin a family and all that dyin alone shite i thnk id stay single the rest of my life.

[bjpennnn]

drop her like a prom dress man. honeslty your going to hold resentments the whole time that you are with her i gurantee. your always going to think she didnt tell you the whole truth, and sounds lie their is to much water under the bridge. **** her man honestly. i would bone her and then tell her to consider her ass dumped and start packing the bags.

there are way to many girls out there that would love a big stud puppy like yourself. get real man at 27 you should be nailing all these young girls in their 20's rite now. bang a few and get over her you will feel better. go find yourself a prom date.

[inky-e]

drop her like a prom dress man. honeslty your going to hold resentments the whole time that you are with her i gurantee. your always going to think she didnt tell you the whole truth, and sounds lie their is to much water under the bridge. **** her man honestly. i would bone her and then tell her to consider her ass dumped and start packing the bags.

there are way to many girls out there that would love a big stud puppy like yourself. get real man at 27 you should be nailing all these young girls in their 20's rite now. bang a few and get over her you will feel better. go find yourself a prom date.

Bro...you might wanna rephrase that...sounds kinda........GAY! lol

[D7M]

that does really suck, bro.

I don't agree with the once a cheater always a cheater, though.

People do change.

Anyway, why would you discontinue the cycle?

I'd use this time to re-group and focus on your training.

[bjpennnn]

if it sounds gay that what i was going for. someone has to pump his balls up. he needs to realize its not the end of the world and your never going to find the rite girl if your with the wrong one and in my opinion the rite girl would not cheat on me ever. just my 2 cents.

[inky-e]

if it sounds gay that what i was going for. someone has to pump his balls up. he needs to realize its not the end of the world and your never going to find the rite girl if your with the wrong one and in my opinion the rite girl would not cheat on me ever. just my 2 cents.

Dude...STOP!!! hahahaha

[Dancer]

Women LIE LIE LIE... The last thing you need right now is a hormonal crash!

[Immortal Soldier]

Why, the guy did not cheat, the girl did. Why do guys take this stance? It's up to the girl. She went to him, he was not stalking her or raped her. Who doesnt take advantage of a situation? We buy drinks, talk to girls, try to show sympathy and act like we care just to get laid every day. LOL

But really, STOP blaming the guy all the time. I'm in my 40s, I know better than what??? I want to get laid as much as any 20 yr old. LOL If a girl is married it's different but if she's dating someone and comes to me and is spooning all over me and wants some physical attention, OK.

Every girl out there is someones ex.

Look both the guy and girl are at fault, the dude is 40 and with age he should know a little bit better than to take advantage of that situation. Whatever you say and however you look at it, he took advantage of it.

You know how many times I had girls throw themselves at me because they got in a fight with their boyfriend or whatever?

And you know what I did, each and everytime? I sent them out on their ass.

Why? Because I got morals maybe thats where I am different, I don't give a rats ass about her boyfriend or respect him, I just know that I am not that type of guy. So I tell them "alright well leave and come back tomm, if you still feel the same way than we will see what happens". But when they come to me in the heat of the moment, I am not going to jump on that, thats just not me.

Both the guy and girl are at fault, and the girl had a kid which the guy should have known better it wasn't some 22 year old college girl who got into a fight with her boyfriend. The dude should know have better, like how good do you feel after you banged some girl who was in an emotionally fragile state? I mean I know I wouldnt feel good about it, so thats why morally I draw the line there.

I also draw the line at drunk girls who hit on me when I am compeltely sober, bu tthats a story for a different day my friend

[lovbyts]

Look both the guy and girl are at fault, the dude is 40 and with age he should know a little bit better than to take advantage of that situation. Whatever you say and however you look at it, he took advantage of it.

You know how many times I had girls throw themselves at me because they got in a fight with their boyfriend or whatever?

And you know what I did, each and everytime? I sent them out on their ass.

Why? Because I got morals maybe thats where I am different, I don't give a rats ass about her boyfriend or respect him, I just know that I am not that type of guy. So I tell them "alright well leave and come back tomm, if you still feel the same way than we will see what happens". But when they come to me in the heat of the moment, I am not going to jump on that, thats just not me.

Both the guy and girl are at fault, and the girl had a kid which the guy should have known better it wasn't some 22 year old college girl who got into a fight with her boyfriend. The dude should know have better, like how good do you feel after you banged some girl who was in an emotionally fragile state? I mean I know I wouldnt feel good about it, so thats why morally I draw the line there.

I also draw the line at drunk girls who hit on me when I am compeltely sober, bu tthats a story for a different day my friend

Your right, thank GOD I have no morals

OK to be 100% honest I have also turned girls away who where drunk and also in the heat of the moment after they where in a fight but that was LONG time ago. I still regret those missed opportunities...I'm older and wiser now and would hit it most any time. Yes there are still SOME opportunities I might pass up but I still say it's her fault, not his. If it wasn't him it would be someone else.

[alpmaster]

If you're on TRT then you don't need any anti-e's. If you want to scrap the cycle because it is going to be difficult to be committed to training and dieting for gains, then drop back to the TRT dose. But either way, drop the tren for a bit, you don't need a compound that aggressive messing with your head and causing sides at a time like this.

Don't be mad at the dude. I know, that's the last thing you want to hear, but trust me, don't be mad at him. SHE cheated, and she WILL cheat again. Work it out with the kid and custody. This bitch has ****ed up your life, and now gets to damage this kid you two have together. Be a good father and love your kid, but that bitch you called a girl friend or future wife is nothing now, let her become someone else's problem.

[*RAGE*]

dont stop your life for her, take care of your kids and fuvk that bitch, they cheat once they will do it again, now there are a shit load more good girls out there and good girls, but got treat some whores like shit for a while it will make you feel better......

sorry to hear that bro

[reignman1]

to give more background we were having a really rough couple of months where I thought I didnt want to be with her anymore and told her I was just staying for the kid pretty much, we had no sex for those 3 months and she was always ragging on me to give her attention and"tell her I loved her " stuff. She used to say "im gonna find someone else and then you'll be sorry" and I would just tell her I didnt care.

Her job was to tell techs where to go everyday for work over the phone and she said he would always make small talk at first with her, then it started being when she was upset with me he would ask her y and all. Then he started the "he must be cheating on you" and "I would give you the world" stuff. I looked at her phone records and and at 1st it was 1 or 2 calls a day for a half hour and maybe 20 txts then it got to be calls all the times like 4,000 in one month and 4,000 txts. this whole episode lasted basically 10/24 -12/13 was the day i found out and shit hit the fan. He lived about 1hr away from us and she worked 2 jobs. I basically found out by lying to her saying I called tmobile and they looked up if her cell was ever bouncing off the towers in that area and thats when she broke down and said she went to his house twice, and the first time they just talked and never did anything that time but she did eventually start having feelings for him and the second time she thought it might happen and thats were the first post comes in. She said she thought she was over me and ready to move on but when the sex started she got sick to her stomach and upset and thats when he stopped, asked her whats wrong and she said she couldnt do it and they stopped. She said alot of detail so thats why I think shes telling the truth like when he stopped he said "well that was a waste of a condom" and she basically left after that. She said he called her after he left and said he was sorry if she felt pressured into it. Of course the f-ed up part about it is that the next day is when I found all the txts and I wish I just looked one day earlier before that happened. It sucks because I after I found the txts and just thought they talked and didnt do anything, we became so much closer and completely(as gay as this sounds) in love, like just did everything together,

[reignman1]

im just sitting at the computer litteraly with tears running down my f-in face!! god it just sucks to hurt this much, but I was thinking maybe i feel this emotional because of the high levels of estrogen and if I lowered them would I feel better and easier to cope

[Immortal Soldier]

im just sitting at the computer litteraly with tears running down my f-in face!! god it just sucks to hurt this much, but I was thinking maybe i feel this emotional because of the high levels of estrogen and if I lowered them would I feel better and easier to cope

I know man, and I hate to say it its not the excess estrogen. Happened to me before as well, one night I pretty much cried myself to sleep over a girl who ended a relationship with me, since then I promised myself I would never let a girl get that close to me, to hurt me like she did.....and I haven't. That was when I was 16 or so.

[diesel405]

I would double the test and tren, find her best friend and spunk all over her face, and kick the guys ass.

[HIITB$]

I would double the test and tren, find her best friend and spunk all over her face, and kick the guys ass.

haha lmfao i like this the best

[alpmaster]

Nope, it's not going to work like that. You could have not a microgram of estrogen in you, and this situation would still suck.

Read my post dude, it's tough, but it's life.

[Mooseman33]

i agree with everyone...
however, i would still kick the ever loving shit out of this guy....right or wrong, fuk that, stomp his sorry ass...
catch him in a dark parking lot, break a fukin concrete block over his head, leave him there leaking....
then kick here ass to the curb...
i know its wrong, but im sure u will feel better....

[operationgetbig]

if u stay with her go cheat on her so she feels as miserable as u did when u found out.

[gordongecko74]

even better, get caught

[PaHHaN]

I'm 100% agree with LOVBYTS. Man i hate when this kinda stuff happens. Keep up with the cycle, basically turn all your attention to your training, hopefully that will help you to go through all this. Don't do any crazy stuff, it just could make things a lot worse. Good luck BRO

[ninesecz]

wait for the rages to kick in and then rip his head off with your bare hands!