Girl trouble

[soulstealer]

I need some advice guys... So its my day off and I hit the gym with my boy steve.... We decide we're goona goto the beach after we eat... head home cook up some steak/rice... eat and it starts to rain... we end up at the bar shooting pool we leave their cause noones out and head towards another.... my girl calls on the way and asks If I went to the store (its like 3:00) I say ya... but I'll go back if you need something shes like great lunch meat... I say No problem I'll head out later.... end up at the other bar we're chillin and now on sundays my girl works from 12-4 and 5-10.... she calls back at 4... and hears the music and is like where are you at? and I'm like "the bar" and shes like "thats just great did you get the meat" and I'm like no and she mumbles something and hang up I head home around 5 and she left me a note.... about driving drunk and how I have no respect for her and how angry she is at me... Now mind you I wasnt going to drink but my buddy keeps bugging me so I had 3 beers in a 3 hour period... thats hardly even buzzed (I am very careful about driving) but the point is WTF is that? I'm an asshole cause I went out while she was working? I really dont understand it.. and her phones off to boot...

[jsinur7]

sounds like she has no lunch cause you were busy....

[200byjune]

hmmmm.. well thats not why shes mad, theres somthing else. just go sit down next to her and ask whats the matter

[TJM7275]

Bro all woman are nuts... SOme more than others... 200 is right, go find her, sit her down and talk to her. She may have had a bad day at work and shes taking it out on you. If you care for her talk to her. Good Luck man

[jsinur7]

Bring her a hoagie...

[soulstealer]

The thing that urks me is that if she specifically said she wanted it for tonight NP I would have gotten it for her... but she didnt she said she needed it for "lunch" and I know on Sundays she usually pics up a sandwich on the way to work...

[Receiver84]

Bring her a hoagie...

Funny, yet so true!

[soulstealer]

And shes always bugging out about something attacking me because I make 50k a year working 30h a week when she works 45h and makes about 20k

[200byjune]

maybe she excpects you to support her more

[soulstealer]

maybe she excpects you to support her more

Ya she does... she expects me to clean the kitchen the bathroom do her dishes the floor make the bed do the laundry and not have a social life...

[StoneGRMI]

Sounds like she needs a hug.

[soulstealer]

I am just so pissed off right now...

[soulstealer]

I just got a second job that comes with benefits and I'm going back to school so my days are going to start at 4:30am(gym) and end around 9 Sunday-Monday-Wednesday-Thursday-Friday and I have to wonder what its going to be like then...

[200byjune]

woah that not the way shits ganna happen in my relationship. i pay the bills and they take care of the household duties. i wont be a dick about it but ya. take it easy man. sit down and talk to her. do you no where she is?

[soulstealer]

woah that not the way shits ganna happen in my relationship. i pay the bills and they take care of the household duties. i wont be a dick about it but ya. take it easy man. sit down and talk to her. do you no where she is?

ya she turned her phone off but shes at work... I was goona head down there but I wanted to cool off a little first...

[10nispro]

If you go, don't go without a rose and some type eats with a dessert. Tell her you care and tell her when ever she wants to talk you will be ready to listen. It's a give and take type of thing.

[soulstealer]

If you go, don't go without a rose and some type eats with a dessert. Tell her you care and tell her when ever she wants to talk you will be ready to listen. It's a give and take type of thing.

Ya... she loves sushi I was thinking of grabbing some for her...

[soulstealer]

And on top of all that she's college educated.... has training in movie makeup... and WORKS AT A CONVENIENCE STORE!!! AND COMPLAINS!!!!!! in 4 minutes on monster I found her a job she'd be perfect that payed an extra 5 bucks an hour came with benefits and was in an office.... and her response was that SHE DOESNT LIKE OFFICE JOBS!!!! and then begins to complain about how hard she works and her customers!!!!!!!!!! ARG!!!!

[TJM7275]

Let me ask you this... And be Honest...
Do you Love her????

[soulstealer]

Let me ask you this... And be Honest...
Do you Love her????

honestly yes.... and heres the thing she works out a little and doesnt really like it... shes a little out of shape she pasty white and cant tan.... but I love her personality and she tries to sabotage it by saying shit like how can you be with me or making a comment about me leaving her cause I look good and she doesnt... and it pisses me off cause her physical appearance is the last thing I'm with her for (not that she looks bad).....

[TJM7275]

Sounds a little insecure bro.... Well if you love her, get your knee pads on bro...lol. Seriously if you love her and she's worth it go talk to her and explain your side of the story. Sounds like you two need to have a big sit down. Maybe a weekend away or something like that. I do think you need to explain how you feel to her though. I dated a girl that could not get over the fact that I looked better than her. No matter what I said or did she could not get over it. Didn't last because I just got sick of it. Its funny because I am currently talking to this girl who is awesome, but thinks I'm to good for her. Thats the best advice I can personally give you. Its not your fault you look good and she does not, she can change if she wants. Give it your best Soul, and if thats not good enough find someone who your best will be. Good Luck brother

[KatsMeow]

I don't get the whole job thing, does she not have goals for herself, or her life? Because I don't think I would ever want to work at a gas station. But you guys need to talk, talk about everything, communication is the key. Let her know how you feel about things like her job and her insecurities. It will work out if that's what is meant to be.

[Amorphic]

I don't get the whole job thing, does she not have goals for herself, or her life? Because I don't think I would ever want to work at a gas station. But you guys need to talk, talk about everything, communication is the key. Let her know how you feel about things like her job and her insecurities. It will work out if that's what is meant to be.

agreed.

[gst528i]

Not to be a dick or anything but sound like you would be better off without her considering your going to be doing school, work and gym. Plus she doesnt want to do the house work and bitches at you since you have time. I'd say make a list of pro's and con's and see if it's enough just to love her.
Good luck with your gurl.
Oh by the way i don't think she is mad about just what SHE THINKS you did wrong today. Some bottled issues should be there.

[RaWRZ0R!]

she sounds like she needs a big fat one up the pooper.

[soulstealer]

Thanks for all the input people except RaWRZ0R! if only it were that easyj/k... she's should have been home a while ago I even left to make sure I wasnt home when she got here.... but I guess shes going to bail on me tonight......

[RaWRZ0R!]

Thanks for all the input people except RaWRZ0R! if only it were that easyj/k... she's should have been home a while ago I even left to make sure I wasnt home when she got here.... but I guess shes going to bail on me tonight......

everytime i make a girl mad i just put it in her butt and she gets sad lol then i make her happy cause shes sad..

[gst528i]

what do u mean she bailed? Doesn't she live with you?

[KatsMeow]

Sounds like there is a serious lack of communication, phone turned off and a no show for the night.. I think this runs a little deeper than not bringing home the lunch meat in time and you going out for a couple drinks.
Otherwise..she might be psychotic.

[gst528i]

Y^^^^^^^ took the words out my mouth, didn't wanna seem like i was putting down the woman's side of story. But yea what she said.

[Nicotine]

and i thought carl was being difficult by wanting me to move in, but not wanting a new apartment.

im glad im a fag. it's like hanging out with a friend, but with sexy benefits

as for your problem - sounds like she's freakin about something else, and you're the target.

my advice. listen. just tell her to talk, and just listen.......

[gst528i]

and i thought carl was being difficult by wanting me to move in, but not wanting a new apartment.

im glad im a fag. it's like hanging out with a friend, but with sexy benefits

as for your problem - sounds like she's freakin about something else, and you're the target.

my advice. listen. just tell her to talk, and just listen.......

So from what i understand, in gay couple's one of them wear's the pants. Who decides?

[gst528i]

Makes you think if the romans had it right by keeping men as sexual freinds too. But according to me, i think vagina's are worth the hassle.

[bigt10]

I need some advice guys... So its my day off and I hit the gym with my boy steve.... We decide we're goona goto the beach after we eat... head home cook up some steak/rice... eat and it starts to rain... we end up at the bar shooting pool we leave their cause noones out and head towards another.... my girl calls on the way and asks If I went to the store (its like 3:00) I say ya... but I'll go back if you need something shes like great lunch meat... I say No problem I'll head out later.... end up at the other bar we're chillin and now on sundays my girl works from 12-4 and 5-10.... she calls back at 4... and hears the music and is like where are you at? and I'm like "the bar" and shes like "thats just great did you get the meat" and I'm like no and she mumbles something and hang up I head home around 5 and she left me a note.... about driving drunk and how I have no respect for her and how angry she is at me... Now mind you I wasnt going to drink but my buddy keeps bugging me so I had 3 beers in a 3 hour period... thats hardly even buzzed (I am very careful about driving) but the point is WTF is that? I'm an asshole cause I went out while she was working? I really dont understand it.. and her phones off to boot...

shes jealous your at the bar. she is insecure and she needs a hug.

the driving shit is just a thing to add blame to.

She needs a hug tell her you love her or prove it.

or option 2 if shes playing games wave the white flag and move on. nothing sucks more then putting up with games from bitches.


Remeber this there is only 1 soulstealer and about 999999 other hot women.

[bigt10]

hold on i forgot this. if she expects you cant have fun cause she isnt or if shes working you cant go out. that is just a loser than likes to bring other people down.

I HATE those people. they think if they arent having a good time or dont feel good they try to do the same to others. Those people deserve to have a rainy cloud over them for life!

[soulstealer]

We had a talk last night she came home kinda late and was Bullshitting me a little bit... kind of deflecting the phone conversation and pointing at a slew of other things kind of grasping for a reason I think.... from what I can gather she doesn't realize that the anger she's taking out on me... is stemming from problems with her parents and Its almost like she jealous that I'm going back to school and I have the jobs that I have... also its like these weird inadequacy issues which keeps her from trying to get a better job and apparently makes her feel as If I'm going to leave her because of such(inadequacies I mean).... I think we have some serious talking to do about this soon...

[abbot138]

We had a talk last night she came home kinda late and was Bullshitting me a little bit... kind of deflecting the phone conversation and pointing at a slew of other things kind of grasping for a reason I think.... from what I can gather she doesn't realize that the anger she's taking out on me... is stemming from problems with her parents and Its almost like she jealous that I'm going back to school and I have the jobs that I have... also its like these weird inadequacy issues which keeps her from trying to get a better job and apparently makes her feel as If I'm going to leave her because of such(inadequacies I mean).... I think we have some serious talking to do about this soon...

I think you should do the pro's and con's list and give serious consideration to giving her the boot. Obviously none of us know her like you do, but all Im seeing here is a whole bunch of con's and its starting to affect you, which is completely unacceptable. No matter how much you love someone there actions should never control the way you feel on a day-to-day basis. I have dated insecure women before and she fits the profile to a T. Her insecurities are going to start bringing you down and making you feel bad about yourself as she attempts to bring you down to her level. Just my 2 pennies, but I would end it. Good luck.

[Deen54]

It's a classic case of the women crying out for attention.
She tested you with the lunch meat. Women love to give guys chores
when they are out having fun.

You didn't get the lunch meat equates to you don't love me no more.
..oh cry me a river...

You are out drinking and she has to work..this further frustrates her.

You need to talk and tell her..just cuz i don't get lunch meat doesn't mean i
don't love you.

You see it is not about lunch meat it is about she wants to have control over
you..but you won't give in.
Why won't you give in?...Look just hand your balls over to her on a platter
this is when they are at the most happiest..when you have been totally dominated and done with..then they move on to the next challenge...
cuz you weren't man enough to not give up your balls.

Sounds crazy eh...well that's what we are dealing with.

[Mazzive_T]

It's a classic case of the women crying out for attention.
She tested you with the lunch meat. Women love to give guys chores
when they are out having fun.

You didn't get the lunch meat equates to you don't love me no more.
..oh cry me a river...

You are out drinking and she has to work..this further frustrates her.

You need to talk and tell her..just cuz i don't get lunch meat doesn't mean i
don't love you.

You see it is not about lunch meat it is about she wants to have control over
you..but you won't give in.
Why won't you give in?...Look just hand your balls over to her on a platter
this is when they are at the most happiest..when you have been totally dominated and done with..then they move on to the next challenge...
cuz you weren't man enough to not give up your balls.

Sounds crazy eh...well that's what we are dealing with.

thats the truest thing ive ever read!

Man, im 20 and moved into a house with a girl, thought she was my soulmate been on off for 2 years, i still love her now despite all thats happened. bought a holiday for us for £550 too (over $1000). She went out the night before my birthday, and didnt come back till 5pm the next day. I asked her where she had gone but wouldnt tell me, so we had an argument and then she split up with me on my birthday just walked away like that, and i lost everything on the holiday because it was too late to cancel or change names.
The thing is ive tried movin on to other girls, who lets be honest i dont give a shit about, there just a shag too me, and they love it!!!

It just seems like if you dont give a shit about them there ideal, they are perfect.

But if like me you love someone, youll give up everything (steds, training, jobs etc) do everything (all the work in relationship, get houses, cars, holidays, pay for everything) and do everything in your power to make their dreams come true, and the only reward you want is to see them smile and be happy, and just open up, not even ask for love back, but just let me love them.

Then u get screwed over.

about 3 grand, numerous fights with friends, ,lost jobs, not knowing who i am anymore, and 3st of muscle lost later and ive realised.

so what ive done is get myself back on track recently, and if she or any girl wants me, they know where i am, they have to prove themselves, but most of all they have to fit into my lifestyle. then and only then will they start to mean something too me. but the silly thing is despite all this, il only ever feel what i felt for that one girl for the rest of my life, which is sad, because someone perfect will come along but i still wont feel for them what i felt for her. And i dont wish anything bad on her, but i hope she gets hurt in the future by a dickhead, and that she realises what she could of had with me,been happy, and what we did have.

sorry for the hijack. T.

[gst528i]

seems someone is going to need time apart.